Is it true that once jealous someone generally stays that way?

[sacredtigerlily]

Brief intimate history with long term friend for about 6 months. While he never had the appearance of being the jealous type with others, he’d act that way when someone was nice to me, even though he claimed to be about casual only. This happened after he moved away, where he’d act weird when someone was nice but when called on it, would act ambivalent. Just wondering if someone, once they act like that, generally stay the same (so jealous), or can they evolve/change? Anything is possible but heard from a family member the old adage of “once jealous, always jealous”, so just curious if that’s true.

Yes

No

Depends

[snowgirl123]

it only becomes stronger

[sacredtigerlily]

That’s what I’d heard. We haven’t been intimate in 5 years since he moved away but he still acts weird. It’s confusing at times.

[snowgirl123]

it should be thrilling to have someone feeling a little possessive over you, it makes you feel wanted and needed. just be careful this person never becomes violent. are you in a relationship with this guy?

[sacredtigerlily]

We’ve been friends for 11 years. Intimate was only for 6 months about 5 years ago. He still flirts sometimes but yes the acting weird part is like hmm..

[snowgirl123]

how do you feel when he's possessive of you? do you like it or prefer it not to happen?

[sacredtigerlily]

I appreciate the interest- with the hot and cold, does make it confusing at times. I do care for him just don’t want to get hurt

[Wise4myage]

B, not always but I definitely think he likes you.

[sacredtigerlily]

Thanks- appreciate the comment. He confuses the hell out of me at times. Care for him but don’t want to get hurt and the back and forth makes it hard on the heart. It would have been one thing if he had shown jealous in other relationships but he’s always been Mr. Casual- with me, at times~ he’s either acted petulant when someone has been nice to me, before and after he moved~ but then acted ambivalent when called on it. It’s like wtf is that about.

[Wise4myage]

Dude sounds bi polar.

[sacredtigerlily]

He’s also what you’d call a career bachelor. Just stupid to act jealous and then not when called on it