Why do some men think a virgin girl is a rare treasure?

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What do you think of that

ObscuredBeyond · Accepted Answer

A virgin has nothing to hide, no one to lie about, no child baggage, less emotional baggage in general, less likelihood of STDs, and is a little harder for demons to screw with mentally.

Granted, she can be ruined in other ways. Drugs, smoking, emotional abuse, verbal abuse, any kind of past trauma, or being influenced negatively by any kind of evil, will mess her up. Getting involved in crime, or even being falsely accused of one, can damage her irreversibly.

Sexual and substance abuses are crimes against self, against one's own body. Which is why they're a special category in the Bible, ranked just below suicide.

Being fake is one of the worst things a woman can do. But it's worth noting that a plastic virgin is less likely to do the gossip drama equivalent of gutting you like a fish for a petty reason. Most of the mentally ill women likely to double cross someone in that fashion, are thots, not virgins. And drugs play a role in that too. But most of the worst drugs abusers are thots.

It's also hard for men to comprehend how the vagina can self-clean. So the natural thought process is that unless she cleans herself out manually by douching heavily and disinfecting with extreme prejudice, the previous guy's sperm will be there still.

And only freaks like sloppy seconds.

TheorionMage · Accepted Answer

It is said: When you 'bed' someone, health-wise you're ALSO inheriting EVERY communicable health issue of EVERY OTHER person they've lain with.
You ALSO inherit ANY bad memories/experiences they've experienced BEFORE you.

Think back to YOUR OWN occasion when YOU lost YOUR virginity? Was it a GOOD memory?
IF YOU HAVE THE NECESSARY SKILLS... wouldn't YOU welcome the opportunity to BE her first experience in HER "Book of Love"? You NEVER get a 'second chance' to make a "first impression"
... especially THAT first impression! Both quite a privilege AND responsibility~

GET IT 'RIGHT' ... get her to convulsively orgasm and later think, "I didn't KNOW THAT WAS POSSIBLE!" and you will FOREVER assure your... and her... 'psychological personal best'.

If you first 'rock her world' she'll be positively enthusiastic to invite YOU back;
if its bad, it'll be THAT MUCH HARDER to get her to 'risk it' anytime soon, WITH ANYONE.

SO, make the world a BETTER place! We need MORE lascivious Vixens.
Too many sexually-crippled Souls already~

SkyCastle90 · Accepted Answer

As my guy friend so plainly put it, "She never had a hoe phase." That same guy friend got a virgin, but she doesn't enjoy sex as much, so it's a real struggle for him.

Virginity doesn't makes anyone special, because everyone has their own preferences. Plus, there are many different reasons why a person would choose abstinence.

Personally, although I'm not a virgin anymore, I didn't have sex until later because I didn't want to get pregnant due to having limit resources for effective contraceptives. I didn't trust condoms or pull out method, and the last thing I wanted was an abortion or have a baby by a guy I wasn't even serious about. Am I better for it? No. It's just a path I chose.

Bingey · Accepted Answer

Virginity doesn't makes anyone special or rare, what's rare is when they are committed in not running off to more men. I was a virgin for a long time because I never felt comfortable having sex until I lost my virginity and been with the same person who took my virginity.

t-8900 · Answer

I mean it's something I try not to think about these days. Ngl it does kind of bother me but what can you do, y'know? I wasn't a promiscuous person though. I only had regular sex at one point in my life because I was being sexually abused and to me that's totally different as I wasn't in control of that situation. Then another girl I had sex with once and stopped midway and left. I discovered I was a demisexual so maybe that honestly has something to do with it. For me casual sex is dehumanizing.

I dont think I care so much if she was a virgin or not so much as if she's reformed from that way of life AND has a relatively low body count overall AND hasn't had sex in the last couple of months at a bare minimum. Kinda just feels weird to me otherwise. I'm not judging others I simply feel a certain way and it is what it is. So I've been with 2 women ever, one by choice, one not by choice. For me having a girl closer to my body count (6 or under) would be very much preferred because I relate to that more and feel more at ease for a multitude of reasons. Again, NO JUDGEMENT just my preference.

ohshee · Answer

I think women are women I think women are beautiful I think women are smart intelligent and I think it's a woman must be a virgin that's her. Prerogative and I applied it woman that is a virgin because I lost my virginity at 15 and a half 16 years old and it was terrible it sucked so when I read on here that a girl is a virgin I say you are badass because you're not a follower you have a mind of your own and you have that straight and willpower just because whatever they believe in I didn't what street I didn't want real power I wanted to get laid I wanted to see fireworks and the first time I masturbated the inside got sucked to the outside the outside got sucked in the inside that's how intense it was and I think I was walking around like that for a couple weeks because I couldn't stop masturbating I do want to stop but let's just like a woman that's raising five kids if she can do it I give her a thumbs up respecting the road because she can do it a woman that can jump in the air out of an airplane or woman that can go to the Moon women are special no matter what

David_Kek · Answer

Because they are?
Male virginity is not only worth anything, it's a negative value, for the opposite reason that women desire successful men. Reproductively it's in a mans interest to have sex with as many women as possible, since he could theoretically have millions of children. A woman however can only have a few, i think the record belonging to some woman in Russia who had 80 in her lifetime, being triplets and stuff year after year. The result of that is women are a lot more selective in who they mate with, ideally only with the top 1% of men with the best genes, where as men have lower standards because that is in their interest.
For a woman to have lots of sexual partners, is to say she must have less genetic value, for if she had high she wouldn't need to. For a man it's the opposite. For a man to have had lots of sexual partners, is to say he must be really successful both genetically and otherwise.

Plus, since my girlfriend is a virgin that we should be meeting for the first time hopefully next month if she can get her passport in time, I can say there is something desirable to think that this woman has waited for you.

Anonymous · Answer

By the time I was 19 or 20, I didn't even know a virgin girl anymore. I am sure there was some but it was a big thing to start doing it at 14 or 15 years old back then. What usually happened is a girl would do it one or two times and then stop and say they were going to wait until they were married.

It did cause problems when guys who were virgins would come along and want their girlfriend who was not a virgin to have sex with them. They both would claim to love each other dearly but he would often feel like she didn't love him as much as she loved the guy she gave her virginity to. She would say she loved him very much but been there done that, now waiting.

I was a virgin until I was 21 and she was not a virgin, I have never been with one and never will be.

Some people view saving yourself for marriage is the best gift you can give your spouse, be it male or female.

There have also been cases of women who do it a lot, then when they get married already have a ton of experience, have tried everything they want and they don't want to try many things with their husband... leaving him feeling left out.

An episode on a TV show that actually exaggerated this and made fun of this with, stating she had all that fun and sex and then she got married ready to settle down and not interested in it anymore. She was done and now only wanted sex to make babies.

The biggest thing to keep in mind, is there are jerks all around, men and women... doesn't matter what you or anyone else has done, its their choices and don't get sucked in.

HawkPerception · Answer

Around 16-21, I was more interested in girls that had the same experience level as me (zero) and had not been with anyone prior. When you're fresh and new it feels special when you know it's both of your first times. Being visual by nature, the knowledge that someone else was intimate with them could be slightly off putting.

That all goes away after losing your virginity or if you grow up in general. Now, all I look for is tht they haven't slept around too much and they're looking for something serious.

Moose304 · Answer

This is really a loaded question. there is no real way to honestly answer the question and stay anywhere near politically correct! SO, because I don't subscribe to PC and since I am a neanderthal anyway I will give my opinion. First off I don't consider a female a treasure at any age. I will always treasure the qualities about her that I love and respect, but I will NEVER treasure her. As to the virgin part! This is because a girl much past the age of 15 that is actually a virgin is VERY rare. Now, I define a virgin as a girl that has NEVER given oral or received anal, even though such a female might still have her hymen in my book she is NOT a virgin.

Lliam · Answer

Virginity has no value to me. I like experienced women who love sex and don't have sexual hang ups.
None of my girlfriends was a virgin. I never had an interest in breaking in a girl for the first time or having her feel like we were married or something just because I was her first.
That being said, none of my girlfriends were promiscuous in the sense of fucking strangers, doing one night stands, etc. All of them had healthy values and wanted relationships. They were looking for partners, not just cock.

all_hayl · Answer

Perhaps two things to address:
1) "rare" - these days it seems like people (both genders) are becoming sexually active pretty darn early (mid- late teens on average?). Therefore, finding a gal who is "older" and virgin seems rare.
2) "treasure" - almost by definition, if something is rare, that tends to make it inherintly a "treasure".
In other words, it's ostensibly so rare these days that it's perhaps desirable - if ONLY bc it's rare (WHY a guy might desire it could be a different conversation; some might want it because it perhaps indicates strength/self-control/self-respect in a woman; others might want it so that they can take it and then brag about it to their friends (aka selfishness)).
So there's that, too.

SO, what do I, personally, think about it? Depends on varios factors and motives.
Sorry not sorry for the essay. These things are often not black and white

Turrorrr · Answer

It is due to men's sexual frustrations which are connected to their inexperience.
Many men don't tend to get a chance of experiencing sexuality in age 14-17, where this would be the most appropriate in their view. They lack experience due to not excellent social skills, low self confidence and self doubt. And fear.
Girls however get put into a situation where normally more experienced men guide them to the world of sexuality. It is easier to overcome fear and confidence issues with a partner's help.
Girls than tend to get more relaxed about it, they grow up easier. Men still virgins or with very little experience have to observe conversations and behaviours of there mates, which are more experienced. That causes frustration and discomfort.
And for these men who want to be dominant or at least equal in experience due to sexual ego, an experienced girl might be a turnoff.
However, more experienced and relaxed men like girls with more experience, since the sex is better.

Diodoro · Answer

Personally idc if a girl is a virgin and see some potential downside in some cases, but I get it from some guys perspective. There's more upside to dating a virgin than not.

You could argue she won't be as good in bed.

If she can take direction she will be fine. Everything will be a new exciting experience for her and you'll forever be her first, one she'll never forget regardless of how things turn out.

Any heartbreak she's had is less devastating when she's never had sex. There's someone about giving someone your body that simply holds more weight.

It mostly comes down to how prudish she is or not. If she's not prudish I really can't see much of a downside other than her possibly getting overly attached too soon.

But that's a known factor when dealing with a virgin that you can deal with.

Anonymous · Answer

Can't speak for other guys, but for me;

- A virgin, especially older, is someone who doesn't place a great deal of emphasis on sex i. e. she probably won't sleep with someone she just met or until the relationship is serious.
- I think it's very special and intimate to be someone's first, especially if they are also yours. For someone who views sex as a very intimate thing, someone who's had a lot of partners isn't attractive.
- A guy doesn't have to worry if she is comparing his skills to previous partners. While they are together, he is always the best she has ever had. It's nice for a guy to know that.
- Sex is something we get to discover and improve on together (if we're both virgins). To learn together, rather than one person teaching the other.

HopefulGuy94 · Answer

As a whole virgin man I do not want to talk about this topic much neither I do , also I hate any kind of double standards related to genders. Anyway , again I will take it so short when these issues when its time come to talk about , I summarise it by searching , sharing the logic in a scientific way. A lot of researches can be found as essays prepared by Professors , so let's forget about arguing continuously. Do not even mind anything written below this question , let's approach it by science and the truth behind it then.

https://ifstudies.org/blog/does-sexual-history-affect-marital-happiness#:~:text=Multiple%20sex%20partners%20prior%20to,the%201980s%20reported%20similar%20findings.

Barry88 · Answer

I have had sex with three girls who were a virgin. With my first girlfriend, I was a virgin as well. The other two were my second and my current girlfriend, so I already had experience, they didn't. It was fun to explore things, but I would say sex is better and nicer with a woman who has some experience, as they know better what they enjoy and how they can please a man. If I would become single, I would not want to date a virgin (there are probably not that many virgins around my age anyway...😄).

Anonymous · Answer

Let me think about it...

Medical reasons could include a higher chance of not having any sexually transmitted infections.

Psychological reasons for both partners being virgins could include both knowing they are the other ones' "first ones" - and we always remember more clearly the first of everything (riding bike, driving car, going into school,...).

Social reasons could include the absence of "Quick, hide me! There goes my ex" kind of situations.

And those are just random thoughts when I imagined comparing relationship of virgins vs non-virgins.

Ghostlock · Answer

Because most women have popped out all the kids they plan to have by the time they hit 28. Me, I waited until I was 32 before I decided that I was ready to have kids. Because I was actually responsible, women didn't want kids by that age because they got pregnant by every loser they came across and now have kids without fathers. So it's not the virginity, it's a woman who didn't get her tubes tied by the time she was 28 as far as I am concerned. Being responsible didn't pay when the rest of the world was irresponsible.

Anonymous · Answer

I think it's because of various reasons.

First of all, let's all be honest, it's easier for girls to get sex than for boys. Because of this, men tend to look up to men with high body counts, they see it as an achievement, as opposed to women who are usually slut shamed.

It also may be due to the fear of competition. There can't be a better previous partner if there was no previous partner at all, right? This comes back to the "old school" view of women as just a hole while men tend to take "pride" in their "technique".

And the tale goes on and on with religion reasons, relationship views reasons, etc.

ChrisMaster69 · Answer

Because they are stupid and living in the 6th century.

attaching worth to someone because of they sexual experience etc is simply stupid and controlling.

Being a virgin does not really mean a lot.

i know from being over in the US, we found a lot of girls that were saving it for marriage were the ones that would suggest anal and or happy to blow a bunch of us at same time.

yeah they married as virgins, however they had some traffic through the tradesman.

loveslongnails · Answer

I don't put virginity on a pedestal, so I wouldn't call her a treasure in the sense that she's more "valuable" because of that. She'd be a treasure, or not, based on who and what she is on the inside, and what comes from her heart, and not because no one has entered her vagina.

doomguy1994 · Answer

Because after a guy has faced some of his demons and then goes into his mid 20s, pulls a girl or two. Goes pretty steady for 1 yr with the first, doesn't workout.

With the 2nd it goes great for 2 years even though the guy is still struggling with ED , porn addiction, he doesn't get aroused by any woman anymore, including his girlfriend and the sex is ok, but it still feels emasculating... he ask the stupid question one day after sex : body count.

he's finds out he's not #4 which made him feel ok, not great, but he's not even top ten counting the 1 night stands. she said she wasn't that kind of girl. Well now the dude kinda just wants to off himself. And give his $ to charity

Anonymous · Answer

I’ve heard a lot of men say that they like it because they aren't promiscuous and inexperienced, meaning, they can manipulate the situation… whether it means make them think that the first time is the best time they will ever have, that his willy is big, and that flatters HIM.
I understand wanting a girl that isn’t promiscuous and is inexperienced, but the infatuation of it is odd in itself.

jshm2 · Answer

Because if she can guard her virtue, she can guard her household and be trustworthy?

Also, it's more about aligning values than simply virginity. No guy wants to find a dozen step kids in the woodwork, nor does he want to deal with a mental train wreck "abortion mama" who was sleeping around and punishing her unborn kids for it.

HighValue · Answer

Because then she wasn't promiscuous, is more likely to see sex as part of a special emotional bond and not something to do casually purely for physical pleasure. Also she wouldn't have kids from another guy already. I think those would be the main reasons.

DaveJord · Answer

When I was young and inexperienced I thought virgins were very appealing because their inexperience made them less intimating and I had this naive belief that two people fell in love and were together for ever.

But after 22 or so I quickly changed my mind, and honestly I would never want to be a virgins first at this point in my life.

Alyssa11 · Answer

I think it's weird and I am a virgin by the way.
It's weird because we aren't a treasure and my vagina should be just as precious as any other women's vagina. People have sex (or don't) for all kinds of reasons and if a man is going to look at me very differently depending on whether I am a virgin or not makes me feel very uncomfortable and questioning his intentions.

If it's from a sexual experience, then OK that's fun. I would love for an experienced guy to teach me.

ZackBan · Answer

It's definitely rare although not sure about the treasure part.

Don't get me wrong I have nothing but respect to women who are not socially swayed to have sex with 100 guys before the age 25 but the trade-off is that they have no experience and their body is not used to penetration which makes it every uncomfortable.

So the sex itself isn't amazing but the person can be a decent person who's a blast to hanagout with

Madhatter920 · Answer

Well, most girls aren't virgins, so they factually are rare. They are treasured because no other man has been with them, which is naturally appealing. What I think of it? Yeah, sure, I'd prefer to date a virgin, but I recognize that isn't likely at my age. And I'd rather date a girl who is open to sex than one who isn't, which makes dating a virgin even more unlikely. So I think it's ultimately not worth worrying over too much. Too knit-picky, y'know? No one's perfect.

siennasjo · Answer

Maybe because they have something of value. A virgin girl could easily lose her virginity like some girls, but instead she has something the other girl can never have back.

Anonymous · Answer

Because I’m society rather than sex being seen as a mutual thing sex is seen as something that is “done” to a woman rather than involving two consenting parties. Which is why men are praised for having high body counts and women are shamed for it, it’s also why male victims of SA aren’t taken seriously, why make virgins are seen as “losers”, and why women that are virgins for “too long” are seen as prudes

Stuff like that shouldn’t be stigmatized

CaliGirlBH · Answer

In the 21st century it is rare, there are girls 12 years old having sex. What's also rare is women that are over age 30 that don't have children.

Juan_Curious · Answer

This is a question that makes very obvious the double standards in our society: a man wanting a virgin woman is an evil creep, while a woman wanting a virgin man is her right. Now, to your question: the reason why many men want a virgin woman is the same as why many women get very excited about virgin men: because they can "educate" the virgin person to please their own sexual desires and they also like the idea of being the first sexual partner in another person's life.

laurcar34 · Answer

I understand it. Men like to impress and to show someone something she's never seen before. It's also a great honor if a girl chooses you for her first. A guy shouldn't look for that though, and certainly shouldn't think less of anyone based on sexual history. Unless she had sex with Tucker Carlson - that's a deal breaker.

CuriousJC · Answer

Let's just say a woman being a virgin is the ultimate violation for a guy's pleasure and believe me it's terrible. That's why they consider it so rare especially when that girl doesn't know the guy and he s peer pressuring her to do things that she has no idea what she's doing and eventually oh God is super horrible talk about it.

Finchie40 · Answer

Nowadays yes it’s rare lol so yes I can see her being treasured knowing he was her one and only but the thing with virgins is once they realize how amazing sex is, they tend to want to experiment more and try others, so it’s very rare that a virgin will stay faithful to just one person sadly to say , I had a few virgin girls virginities away and once they got bored of me they moved on and then trying to get me back , of course I said no way in hell

melanieeeB · Answer

Just pure stupidity! Your virginity is in no way a measurement for innocence, you can still be a bitch amk

globetrotter22 · Answer

Because she is picky with guys but if a guy does score one he’s feels extremely special. Also she seemingly will be less likely to cheat if we do get in a relationship.

All of the above may or may not be true. Personally I only deflowered one girl in my life. I don’t recall that being an extremely pleasurable experience for either one of us despite having expectations otherwise.

Genoside · Answer

Why would I prefer a woman who’s already fucked some other guy? Why would I prefer kissing a woman who’s had some other man’s dick in her mouth? How is this even a question?

Huldusonur · Answer

If a girl has never had a penis inside her, then she won't have any other penises to compare the size to, maybe? or they won't have any other encounters to compare their performance with?
I, honestly, think it's bullshit. If I meet a 25 year old or older woman who is a virgin, I'll jump straight to the conclusion that there is a social or sexual health problem.

MelaninQueen21 · Answer

I'm a 21 year old virgin and proud! I am a rare gem.

Arsh01 · Answer

Honestly for me it's kind of rare treasure to get a girl virgin... It's not like in judging but it want to lose my virginity to a virgin girl

Smartman5 · Answer

because a virgin girl is special. I am against having sexual intercourse before marriage. but in many countries, especially in America, girls have sex even though they are not married. that means she was touched by another man before me. I do not want like this. The woman I will marry must be a virgin. that's why finding a virgin girl is becoming a rarity now.

marish01 · Answer

Why would any man want his woman to have had dicks in her?

KlinkyCoder · Answer

Probably because younger women having children out of wedlock is not unheard of if not literally pandemic for that demographic, and that means 99% that she has been with some guy before. The more children and/or different guys she has been with, the worse it feels. If she only had a single child from a guy, I can let this slide.

Hellraiser1984 · Answer

Why be with a nasty whore? Every girl you kiss had a guys dick in it and possibly this cum. That's gross. Her vagina is so worn out and being in someone who has had other guys in it is gross. When you eat her out you're basically putting another guys dick in your mouth. gross.

Subarugirl · Answer

Because child like innocence and virginity is fetishized

syxdeep2 · Answer

I feel that it is highly respectable for a woman to keep her virginity until marriage and it shows how well-rounded a person can be to actually have morals' this day and age.

hahahmm · Answer

Because most females are whores today & you know that. So of course it would be rare to find a virgin over say age 21. Not impossible tho.

That said, her character still matters. If she WANTS to be a whore then she might as well be one.

Anonymous · Answer

As a virgin i can say i feel they fetishize us and think we are not whores and they have something unique to take. That’s not the case at all cause every girl is a virgin for her own reasons not to be a “trophy” it could be religious, personal... etc. I choose to be a virgin because of trauma from childhood that definitely does not mean i wanna be a trophy for anyone.

Ninani · Answer

Because it's a fetish. Innocence and virginity is easily fetishised and then held to a higher status for some men.

Razp_Sorbet · Answer

They see virginity as a physical thing which is an issue in and of itself. I think that leads to them seeing it as something to seek or obtain as a prize. It's also just hyper stigmatized in media.

Honestguyopen · Answer

Because it is a number of reasons. The innocence of her, the absolute knowledge that she has no sexually transmitted diseases. There is no kids to worry about, and you can connect in a way no one else can. Plus it seems that virgin girls are more rare to find now more than ever.

sheikalana · Answer

Because it is indeed. After a certain age it’s easier find a non-virgin than a virgin.

dragoblack · Answer

Because many women nowadays like to get into relationships via hookups, where virgins are more likely to get to know a person before sex... granted there are guys out there who don't understand female anatomy or how a vagina works, so they believe "a virgin is tighter"

MJtheCoach · Answer

Depends where you live in the world.
In China and Asia I remember I would find virgins girls had become common.

And I slept with few of them. Because in South Asia the ratio of girls is so high and there are so many horny loser men.
Girls dont wanna sleep with them. And they dont like ASia men.

Xoirwinkan · Answer

Because girls act like sluts, particularly younger ones, and you assume the older ones past the twenty mark have already done it. And it seems most girls don't broadcast it even if they are a virgin, possibly due to embarrassment.

Anonymous · Answer

As it is rare in western world, a lot of girls these days lose it at 14 or earlier and feminazis put it to you as liberation or whatever they call it today...

Treasure as it was norm traditionally.

In my opinion it is overrated as a lot of girls go on f**ing spree after loosing it... and why I would like to train her, when I can get qualified candidate? Obviously do not forget that such thing as overqualified exist too.

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mobiusforniner · Answer

Because most of them imagine they're chad thundercock and their magical and whimsical wiener is going to make their virgin partner commit to them for all eternity.

Kind of dumb when you think it about it that way.

normalice · Answer

Guys like to groom girls so they are precisely the sexual creature they want and I suppose guus imagine this is easier if she doesn't already know what she likes.

Miristheiss · Answer

Maybe some do. I don't know.
Some that just doesn't want the modern woman who rides the C. Carousel and sleeps around.
Some just don't want that girl and in western society there are fewer and fewer that are not like that girl.

Cloud-9 · Answer

Its a common missconcepton. I used to think that, when I was younger. All that bollocks like, I am the first one, I will take her virginity away etc.

Now that I am older I would much rather prefer experience 😊

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