Why are men prejudiced against chubby women?

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Slartybartfast · Accepted Answer

Please stop overusing words like "prejudice" when you do so you feed into the far right view that the left is a bunch of rediculus whining crybabies. There are innocent black men filling our prisons and our cemitaries.

Most men have as much attraction to obese men as obese women , none at all. That's equality.

I don't say this to be mean, I don't say this to hurt you.
Most men are not attracted at all to obese women and I would choose, have chosen as all I seem to attract are morbidly (from your picture you are morbidly obese) obese women. To be single over dating an obese women.

My hobbies includeLong distance cycling, rock climbing, kayaking, and long hikes in the wilderness. All, as in %100 of the women that I got dates with online were obese. I still payed for dinners, I still treated them with respect, but it was a total waste of my time and money because under no circumstances would I want to be in a physical relationship with them. I gave up online dating because of the obese women catfishing me. They tried to trick me with Photoshop and filters to think they were healthy weight. Then they show up and are unrecognizable in person. Which leaves being friends and I already listed my hobbies that they simply wouldn't be able to do. They chose a poor diet and lack of exercise over being attractive to men. I think it's a foolish decision that will shorten their lifespan and lead to long-term and expensive medical issues, but it's their CHOICE. Men must be fit, tall, and wealthy and work at 10,000 things women demand of men to even make the list. Women are over the top, absurdly picky and demanding these days. Men who are not in any way attracted to morbidly obese and unhealthy women aren't the problem. Eating disorders and lack of exercise are. I was given this advice , and see men receive this advice in practical every dating thread on any video, blog etc.. "Work on yourself, hit the gym, advance your career. "Somehow, saying hit the gym, improve yourself, is wrong, but only if it's to a women. If all men had to do was not be obese, to be attractive to women most men would be extremely happy. Count yourself privileged. .. In the dating world even an obese women has an easier life than the average guy.

ZackBan · Accepted Answer

To answer the update the girl in the picture is fat not chubby. Not morbidly obese but these are now a couple of extra pounds she's fat.
That's not prejudice That's just the truth.

As for treating her different because of her weight only women do that. No man has ever denied a woman some kind of service or assistance on account of her weight.

But if by prejudice you're talking about attraction. It comes down to a very primal human concept called survival of the fittest.
Even if a guy is not looking to wife a woman, he naturally prefers to associate with women who can provide strong healthy offsprings. Women are the exact same way about men, and while they might be seen with a fat guy his fatness remains an unattractive trait to them which is only natural.

When someone, man or woman, is fat no ammount of complaining about how the world treats them can or even should make a difference. They have to lose weight.
Many will say weight is a choice, well so is shooting up heroin. But we tend to stop the people who do that and try to "help" them because it's harmful, food is exactly the same way. You over eat you're running the risk of dying it's simple biology it has nothing to do with misogyny or toxic masculinity or even racism as some people seem to associate it with that. It's simply a question of survival.

Oakperk · Accepted Answer

I used to think they were but now it's becoming more popular in regards to attraction - Most men seem to like a woman with curves. My boyfriend has never been with someone as thick as I am. Now, if I was to start to become morbidly obese... I would hope he would be comfortable enough to tell me to take care of my health and help me work on it. If he loves you, he'll want you to be healthy. But also, there are genetic issues for some women and all they can do is work on their diet and some excercise to try to stay healthy. Then there are men out there who truly don't give a shit what you look like and love you for YOU.

Curiousgirl2414 · Accepted Answer

Unpopular opinion among women: this works both ways. There are plenty of women out there every bit as shallow as men can be, who wouldn’t give a guy with a Dad bod a second look.

I think this most commonly occurs among men and women when we’re younger. We’re in our 20s, got plenty of time to settle down, and right now we just want an arm piece, and someone who might not fit the perfect beach babe or gym rat body just won’t do. But then, as we progress into late 20s and into our 30s and beyond, we realize what’s important.

globetrotter22 · Answer

Women keep confusing “prejudice” with “preferences” on a lot of things and it’s such annoying bullshit.

For example short guys know they have an uphill battle to fight but you don’t see them creating “short acceptance” movements and constantly bitching about it. They might get (rightfully) frustrated but no one is going to give them respect or sympathy if they go around moaning about it all the time.

They make do with what they have. Many of them are often witty and have big personalities. Call it compensation (short man syndrome) but I say good for them (I am 6ft by the way)

Anyway I get it you likely often feel angry, depressed and frustrated that you get less attention than your skinnier female counterparts. But in reality you have two options: 1) diet and exercise harder to lean up. 2) accept what you are and what you get.

There is no nor will ever be an option 3 no matter how much heavier girls complain. But at least you got a problem that can be improved. Short guys are SOL no matter what they do when it comes to that drawback.

Datboi65 · Answer

Because fat = unattractive. How difficult can this really be? Men don't complain about women not liking us if we are fat, we put in the work and transition. Women on the other hand try to literally change men's preferences by making it socially unacceptable to say that fat women are unattractive, so that the lazy ones don't have to change their life. Everything is about making them happy and giving then sugar-coated bs. And then they give you some bullshit about "what about those who have a condition?" Or "what about those that have obsessive eating disorder?". Clearly I'm not talking about those. I'm talking about the lazy cows like Lizzo who say that men are assholes for not wanting to sleep with them. We don't owe you shit, and you need to do something about your weight for your own health benefits, and to be seen as more attractive. If you don't want to put in the work, then DON'T COMPLAIN.

hahahmm · Answer

Strange... to me chubby means "a little over". Not packing an extra 100+ pounds like in your picture. She could have another woman in her belly.

Most guys don't find it physically attractive. And even guys who are mostly about character, eventually think that her being fat is a character flaw.

The way you can get around it is to be FIT with a great character. Get a guy to take you seriously for many years. Then if you gain some weight he will cut you SOME slack. Still, every guy has his limits. There's always hotter women out there and being lazy & taking your man for granted is a bad idea in the long run.

Effably · Answer

Prejudiced in what way? I don't think men, generally, do much body shaming. Not to say there are none but the pressure to look a certain way is more of a media and women's magazines (nowadays probably instagram and alike) notion. Men have suprisingly little to do with that.

If we're talking attraction, I think most guys don't mind a little chub. Plenty of guys even prefer it. That said there is absolutely a difference between soft and squishy and unhealthy. When that is crossed I think it is actually good that most people are not into an unhealthy look. Whether anorexia or obesity. Chubby can be fine and also might not be. Its a case to case.

slatyb · Answer

Do you mean prejudiced, or simply less attracted? Prejudiced would mean assuming that other traits like intelligence were different for heavier women. Attraction is just attraction. No one is under any obligation to date people they don't find attractive. I'm 5'8" tall. Some women are only attracted to taller men. But some other women prefer men of a moderate size. One of them married me.

Are you attracted to chubby men? Some may feel the same way you do. Why not find one and ask him out?

DonRollins · Answer

Because you are out of shape and undesirable. You sweat and smell more, and your body will sag more. You don't care enough about yourself to take care of yourself.

I am 8% body fat at basically 200 lbs and over 6 feet tall. Why would want a chubby woman?
My wife was basically 90 lbs when I met her and she looks almost the same as she did at 16. (You finish puberty at 16) she stayed the same weight many years later. 5-15 lbs over 10 years is not a huge difference but the point is the general weight for a woman is 90-150 lbs depending on height.
My wife is 5 feet tall for reference.

DaveJord · Answer

I don't think men are prejudice... the women above is very feminine and attractive. But few can pull off what she's got going on... and again, as she gets older gravity will take hold. And again, again if she keeps her weight wheres it at then yeah she's hot. But she probably won't, even she loses weight everything would be as firm as it looks now, and obviously the girl pictured above hasn't even had kids yet... so that will effect her later.

So all that is something guys look at when your taking long term. But right now, she's hot and I would date her.

Hairylegs222 · Answer

Prejudice? No, for a potential girlfriend I'm looking for, when a woman is overweight, it's the lazy personality behind the chubby/fat woman that I super don't like. I've been working out and eating healthy for over 12 years consistently. I work hard to keep my body healthy and when a woman lazily doesn't make any attempt at all to be healthy I find that extremely unattractive.

If she's overweight but trying to be healthier then sure let's have a fun gym date together 😀. But if she's a lazy potato everyday nope, not for me.

If she wants to be chubby/fat/etc then that's her choice and her body. I don't agree with that life choice to be unhealthy but that's her call to make.

I have overweight friends and try motivate them to be more healthy. Personalities towards friendships are different. A girlfriend on the other hand requires a lot more.

FriendlyDrugDealer · Answer

I don’t think all men are prejudice against chubby women, just some men aren’t willing to date chubby women because they don’t find them attractive and that’s okay.

I personally will date chubby / big women within reason and if they’re willing to get healthier down the line.

t-8900 · Answer

I'll take chubby over muscles on a woman any day, just saying. I just dont like

Why are men prejudiced against chubby women?

would still go out with this:

and I dont like butt implants and stuff. totally unnecessary. Women dont need to go under the knife to alter their bodies. They're already fine the way they were designed.

VanillaSalt · Answer

Lol chubby isn’t the issue… it’s whalezilla coming to crush their furniture and demand as much acceptance and attention as the super models.

Who cares? Fact is Guys can dislike chubby women if they want. If there’s abuse going on let’s report it together but otherwise shut up and accept that slice of cheesecake every day is the reason men don’t look at you like Miss October.

mistermike · Answer

Well as a guy that lost over 60 pounds i have noticed people treat me better and are a lot nicer to me. When i was obese most people treated me like crap and would avoid me. Pretty privilege really exists and it's fucked up and i learned the hard way.

Cherry234 · Answer

Not all of them are. I think it's perfectly fine for a man to prefer a woman that is thin or is in shape. People are allowed to have standards. It's fine to find certain body types attractive. What's not okay is shaming people that aren't your type.

clampfan101 · Answer

I want my partner to be a woman who cares about her health. Anything close to average is fine, but if she lets herself get too overweight she won’t be a good example for our children. I want her to be healthy for everyone’s sake, especially her own. Not just mine.

Miristheiss · Answer

Well... there is thick but fit... somewhat soft and chubby and there is fat.

Where those lines are between each of those categories probably differs with each person and each see things differently.

Your example picture. She is quite hot.

I'm sure some guys don't like chubby girls but plenty of others do. You paint with too broad a brush.

I'd say most guys are not romantically interested in obese girls.

MotorcycleMan · Answer

Society and cultural norms change from time to time and place to place. It used to be that larger women were considered more attractive and it's still so in some cultures. The thin look came from modeling where they wanted thin women to be a "hanger" for the clothing to show off the clothing rather than curves.
There are still a lot of men who prefer larger curvier women. It's not so much prejudice as a personal preference.

MCheetah · Answer

Socioeconomics. Rich and upper middle class men equate beauty with diets and very healthy eating, all of which are rich/upper middle class luxuries, for the most part (at least, in first world countries). Those who are working class or poor tend to prefer thicker women, as it's a subconscious sign of her being well fed, and wealthy, as was the case hundreds of years ago in Europe.

Aerissa_Jade · Answer

Women will do this to men also. Everyone has standards and discriminates for their personal choices.

Seangreen · Answer

Because being overweight regardless of how much or how little is unhealthy and I'm a little overweight myself so I'm not trying to say i'm hot im just saying our instincts want us to reproduce with a good set of other genes so if we see someone who is obese or other problems and we don't want our genes mixed with that subconsciously we're not going to be attracted to that it's called a sexual selection

FinalFantasyBro · Answer

Honestly that girl in the picture you shown actually looks really hot, I can handle a bit of chubby. I actually happened to be a bit chubby myself but their is a difference between being chubby while still taking great care of yourself over being overweight and refusing to fix the situation.

TheBMG · Answer

This particular girl is beautiful. Nothing wrong with her. All you Asshats that are saying stuff like “roll her back into the ocean “ ~ Anonymous, are hiding yourselves so no one can judge you. Real fucking brave of you. All women of all different types bring beauty into this world.

Guardian45 · Answer

I think you're wrong. First of all, the word chubby means different things for different people. But setting that aside, some men (and I count myself among them) like curvier women! So one could say that we, men, are prejudiced TOWARDS chubby women! It's a matter of taste!

Jamie05rhs · Answer

We're not, really. I don't think you're necessarily unattractive. It's just that a thicker layer of fat will stand in the way of two bodies coming together during sex, so you won't be able to be penetrated as deeply as you might want to. I'm sorry, but I'm just telling the truth. That is the elephant in the room that no one wants to talk about.

Now, do WE [guys] care personally? No. But you care. And if you aren't satisfied, the relationship won't last.

Anonymous · Answer

Wow, except for the boobs, that looks like what I looked like at 190 pounds. Maybe I was just a tad less plump, more like this..

Desire-for-Greatness · Answer

Being fat is unhealthy and unattractive to most people. It's not prejudice. It's health and preference.

jshm2 · Answer

We aren't, and that is not a chubby woman. She's curvy and quite nicely too.  "Obese" is when we're talking rolls of fat, she doesn't have any

Avicenna · Answer

The woman pictured above would have no shortage of guys happy to date her.  But men prefer women who are normal weight or thin because it's healthier.

Neko_Nya · Answer

Everyone has standards, stop being such a snowflake

qwert1234 · Answer

There are people who find them attractive, there are those who don't. It's not prejudice, it's preference.

Stoner710 · Answer

We prefer fit women, It’s more healthy this girl isn’t bad looking I’d date her but still no Tess Holiday

JCrockett · Answer

By prejudiced, do you mean "not attracted to?" Because the answer to that is that belly, arm, and facial fat is unattractive to most men.

InferiorElegy · Answer

For the most part we aren't, but why is it females can have all these "preferences" that openly shame guys but a guy has a preference and it gets labeled all this stupid shit like being prejudice or fatphobic?

Twalli · Answer

Because as a whole they don't want to change for a guy, and get mad when they're turned down for being overweight not seeing the hypocrisy of expecting a 6+foot tall guy to love her for who she is when he might if she was skinnier.

Cheechee4me · Answer

Not all are. Everyone’s idea of chubby is different too. Like my bro if she’s not 5’7 and 90 pounds she’s too fat.

ShaTTeredMasterpeace · Answer

Lol they aren't. Some guys like cubbies women and some don't. Focus on the ones that do.

Anonymous · Answer

Same reason you women hold your biases against short guys, shy guys, not terribly successful guys. I could keep going with the list but you get the idea.
Do you apologize for it? No! Then why should we?

ohshee · Answer

Okay so let me get this right if I signed up and become prejudiced I get to lean against her to okay sign me up where do I become Prejudice

funtime_01 · Answer

Many aren't, My girlfriend isn't fat, but she's not thin (bit on the chubby side) and I love her. So depends on the person

bean2k21 · Answer

Coz all you need is turkey sandwiches. And a big ol' heaping spoonful of mashed potatoes and gravies. And sop that all up with a buttery biscuit. Then some fried chicen and a large Coke.

Stevefiveo · Answer

I have to admit I was biased against chubby women but my girlfriend at the time wanted me to have a threesome with her chubby friend. From there, I was hooked. They are so passionate in bed and they are the best cocksuckers.

AviatorTom · Answer

Probably for the same reason that women are prejudiced against chubby guys.

hi_it_is_me123 · Answer

It is ok to prefere thin women but it is not ok to bodyshame overweight women in my opinion

Wester1967 · Answer

Why are chubby women so prejudiced against exercise, vegetarian diet, and BMI?

ringmaster696 · Answer

I prefer em myself. Long as everything's in proportion or better, I might even consider dating them if I liked them and was single.

DonkeyDan · Answer

Probably the same reason women are prejudice against chubby men.

maulstrum97 · Answer

Why are women prejudiced against chubby men? Because everyone has a preference and you are not entitled to the attention of others for merely existing.

shades777 · Answer

I'm perplexed to why this is so difficult for women to understand. fat is not attractive, just like your not going out of your way to date a fat man. Come on people, think!

888theGreat · Answer

1) because you have to work two jobs just to keep them fed 2) if that big , what happens in 10 more years? Slap a good year sticker and sell tickets to fly her along the beach?

Anonymous · Answer

That's so mean, standing around snapping pics of that poor beached whale, instead of rolling her back into the water !

AaronKrieger · Answer

I do not think that all men are. I find them attractive and I know other guys that do as well.

unusuak · Answer

Such a stupid accusation. a lot of men i know dont like skinny chicks. I like em all but just had an experience with a skinny white girl. I think i want a chubby latina now.

matts_back · Answer

SOME men are, not all of us. I prefer chubby women, they are much more enjoyable. And the woman in the pic is not even chubby, more of average than anything else.

jasco · Answer

We aren't prejudice, we just simply don't like you. We have standards to

front2back · Answer

Bad personalities.  Seriously, the meanest broads I've ever met almost always weighed over 200 lbs.

Dchrls78104 · Answer

Some might be prejudiced, and that's on them. Some, like me, simply don't see chubby women as dateable because that's not what we are attracted to.

JohnK123 · Answer

I don't know if it’s men or just some men. Maybe stop saying men don’t like them and it won’t be true anymore. Not all men like that or don’t not like it. Just like why do women like small you knows?

darkcloud1945 · Answer

me like very much I like allshapes and sizes of women some more than others but this young lady would make a wonderful pair of ear muffs. Gee I wish I could lick my eyebrows

Subarugirl · Answer

I think you are mixing up prejudice with preference.

JosyJosy · Answer

Everybody gets judged, we'll always find something to target

DWornock · Answer

They are not! They prefer girls that are not so fat.

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