My birthday will be 4.5 months from now but he has already asked me whether I'll be free on my birthday and want to bring me out. What does it mean?

[Anonymous]

I've only been on second date with this guy, and he has already asked me 4.5 months in advance whether I have any plans during my birthday and asked whether he can take me out on that day.

[kyleelyn199723]

That’s actually very weird in my opinion. He should be striving to take you out on a third date and asking about your current availability and not asking about your birthday that is 4.5 months from now. It signals he sees you in his future, but it’s a little bit of a weird question. It’s like my boyfriend asking me what my birthday plans are and my birthday is in 11 and a half months from now

[kyleelyn199723]

Are on my birthday*

[Asker]

What do you mean by sees me in his future?

[kyleelyn199723]

Probably dating wise. Again in my opinion it’s a little creepy of him to insinuate that after 2 dates only BUT it could mean very well for you if you like him back

[Asker]

Does it mean he at least has feelings for me?

[kyleelyn199723]

Possibly but it could also mean he has an issue with moving too quickly.

[Asker]

Means he doesn't want to move too quickly?

[kyleelyn199723]

Actually the opposite of that. He’s pretty much assuming you have feelings for him too without even knowing

[slatyb]

It means he is assuming that you are a couple after two dates. Tell him it’s too soon to plan that far ahead.

[Asker]

Oh dear, I have already told him that I'll be free on that day and he could take me out. What should I do?

[slatyb]

See what happens between now and then. It’s not a legal contract. If you decide to drop him, then the date is off. Don’t let him make any expensive non-refundable plans.