Why did he say he wishes he was single why does he stay then?

[Anonymous]

I confessed my feelings to him sadly I found that he was taken but he said he wished he was single, if things were different I would of dated you

[Anonymous]

Not trying to be negative here but in my opinion when most guys say stuff like that it’s like a consolation prize so they don’t feel bad or hurt you.

[Asker]

So why was he excited that he knew I liked him back. He's the one that stalked me for ages before I started talking to him

[Opinion Owner]

With that, I think it is more about the thrill of the chase. Just because he’s in a relationship doesn’t mean he’s very happy in it. I believe you became more of a conquest, someone to flirt with, to feel desired by, etc. However I don’t think the intention on his end was ever to have anything with you. If he did, then the conversation would’ve gone way differently, like him considering leaving his girlfriend or something. The fact that he just flat out rejected your feelings shows that his intentions for you weren’t the same as yours for him. Honestly though, you’re dodging a bullet. Like if you never told him you liked him, how much longer would this have carried on for? I feel like that’s wrong of him since he has a girlfriend and probably had no intention of telling you until you his back was against the wall. You don’t want a man who’s that shady, so it’s good that you found out now.

[Asker]

How come he's treating me like a conquest it's not like I'm a dumb girl. I live in Canada for 2 years working in marketing, have a degree. Way more interesting than him and his girlfriend put together

[Opinion Owner]

Well that’s just it — you’re interesting. If he is bored in his relationship, then is presented with a new girl, then he’s likely the type of dude to try and explore that.

[Asker]

He wasn't popular with the girls that's his first girlfriend and he's marrying her

[Opinion Owner]

If he wasn’t popular with girls, then it definitely makes sense that getting attention from you is nice. This usually the case for a lot of guys (and women) especially if it’s in the workplace or somewhere away from where they’d get caught by their partner. They feed into someone else besides their partner making them feel like they’re desirable or attractive. It’s like an ego boost. But that doesn’t make it right whatsoever. If he’s marrying his girlfriend then honestly I feel bad for her, having a guy who flirts with other women behind her back. He’s very lame and selfish for that.

[Asker]

Yes sadly another disappointment really my dating life is all over the place. she's so lucky he posts constantly about her on social media and does so much for her

[Opinion Owner]

Trust me, that’s not lucky. You got to see first hand how he truly is when he’s not putting on a show for social media. Because that is indeed all for show. On another note, I’m sorry your dating life is kinda crazy. Unfortunately you may have disappointment situations such as this, but just know that each time, you’re getting wiser and learning more about what you do and don’t want from a person.

[Asker]

You could be right he's just showing after to look good for his family and friends but really deep down he's missed out on life oly having 1 girlfriend 🤣🤣 I feel like i gave him an ego boost because he knew a liked him a little because he was so happy and excited on Friday

[Opinion Owner]

Yep, you’d be surprised how many people want to look picture perfect on their social media but behind closed doors they aren’t so happy. Like if he were truly secure in his relationship he wouldn’t have sought your attention, flirted or anything of that nature. But he was probably pressured into engagement, either by family, his partner, or both. It’s really sad to see lol especially the thought of him using your attention as an ego boost but knowing full well he has a girlfriend. I honestly don’t think he would have told you about her if you hadn’t confess your feelings or anything to would make him spill the beans. It’s messed up but hey what can you do😩

[Asker]

Yeah he said he fancied me aswell 🙈 which is pretty bad if he's already in a relationship. Like I said he's never had any other option seems like he moved so fast with her really quickly I mean they were living together almost immediately and he was calling her sisters kids neices only afte the first year. I noticed this with guys with no experience or options

[Wise4myage]

He's saying he likes you, but he know he can't be dating you.

[Anonymous]

🤣🤣🤣 someone's getting breadcrumbed.

[Asker]

What do you mean

[Opinion Owner]

He's not single! So if he's thinking about cheating he's trash. And if not there's no reason to tell you what he said. So why did he do it? Think about it! If he sensed any interest you had for him why would he stoke that fire? It's just mean!

[Asker]

I noticed he pretended to be single on Instagram but not on Facebook where he's all lovey dovey with his girlfriend. No idea why he did it but he stalked my Instagram for noths before I reached out to him way back in 2020 where he liked all my pictures.

[Opinion Owner]

Let me ask you something is any of that relevant? He has a girlfriend! Even if he likes you and decides to dump her for you ( and there's guarantee he'd do that even he might just want you on the side) do you really want to be with a guy that would do either. I mean if he dumps her for you why would he have any quams about dumping you for another girl. C'mon! Hold yourself to a higher standard than that.

[Asker]

Yeah you are right I will just stop for now on. Well i can't imagine what the girl is going through right now and all the lies he probably tells her.