He doesn't like Valentines day, mainly because he split up with his ex girlfriend of 2 years and that it's a money-making scheme. I understand where he's coming from; I'm quite maintenance and just a card would have made my day. He even said he would buy me a card and flowers the day before he was coming up to see me ( I go to University 3 hours away) but only because he “doesn’t want me to feel left out.”
I said to him: “Get me something because you want to, not just to shut people up.” I never expected anything extravagant, just a simple card.
Well, on Valentines day I got a Blackberry message saying: “Happy Valentines Day Beautiful, Love you loads and loads, Thanks for making the past 6 months epic :) xxx” which really made me smile, but the fact was that when he came up to see my two days before Valentines Day he hadn’t even made the time to get a single card.
I casually asked why he hadn't, and he said “he didn't have time,” because he was getting back from his University to catch the train to see me.
I'm slightly hurt he never got me anything, just because he doesn't like the day. He said he'll buy a present for me any day he likes, but Valentines Day has been the first time this year he's ever sent me an affectionate text.
I don't know what to do. Please help me. I wish he'd tone down his piss-taking because I feel like I'm going out with my brother! He doesn't send sweet texts anymore, just piss-taking ones and I've started being less-conversational. I'm asking for a complete change. I hate corny stuff, but the occosioal “I'm thinking about you,” “love you lots” etc etc would be lovely.
Is he going off me?
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I don't exactly agree with Cashemire. I think that whatever his reason is, it's crap. It sounds like that usual stuff you see in a lot of relationships where one person or the other loses the will to keep trying.
I think if he ever really cared he has a funny way of showing it, and honestly I don't believe he did care that much. Seriously he's not even trying. He could have gotten you a Card. I don't care how busy he was. They sell cards in all sorts of places. I've seen them in train station convenience stores and gift shops. I've seen them in gas stations. If not a card I'm sure he could have gotten you SOMETHING. But no, he clearly didn't even try.
I honestly think that this is the time to end things. You yourself even said it that you two are drifting apart. You're not even talking anymore, you feel like you're dating your brother, he doesn't talk sweet to you. Seriously, you could do way better than that. I don't care who you are or what you look like or what! Simply put, no matter what, you can do better than this guy, and you DESERVE better too.
This guy is not worth it. He's clearly not even trying, and I seriously don't think he cares. You deserve someone who actually shows you affection. Shows you they care. If it's already this bad after only 6 months, it's time to end it. I can't tell you why he doesn't get you anything for Valentine's, but I can tell you that you deserve better.
Dump him cold and hard, give yourself 2 weeks of singles fun, get over him, hang with friends, and then go find someone who actually gives a shit about you, and actually knows how to fucking show it for a fucking change. You owe it to yourself to be genuinely happy.
Don't you think?
I think so too. Listen to this guy, he's very wise ;)