Anybody else suck at small talk?

[blissinanarchy1]

I always had this thing where I'm terrible at small talk. I don't got social anxiety, I don't feel socially awkward. I honestly might have more confidence than the typical person. I nearly mastered the art of being firm and confident, while maintaining respect. I still say please, thank you, ma'am, sir. But people tend only to talk to me when some real conversation and deep ideas and philosophies pop up. It's hard for me to make friends because talking about small things, like events in a day, minor details of someone, sports, girls, whatever, I suck at. Once it transitions into a deep conversation, that's where I excel. So even people with similar interests and views don't gravitate towards me because it's either a serious conversation or none. It's hard for me to build relationships. Any ideas?

[bigpauly]

For me I often don’t care about those things and was bad at it too. I made a point to really actively listen to what people were talking about and try to understand why it is interesting to them. This seemed to make me better at small talk at least

I hope this helps

[blissinanarchy1]

I think I listen pretty well honestly. But it's like my personality gets stripped away in small talk

[sirderpsalot123]

Yes. I have no idea what I'm supposed to talk about with someone I just met ten minutes ago. Especially with girls 😂

[Hangry06]

Yes me. I am still trying to figure it out but i have made progress. The one thing i found is people love to tlak more than listen. So just ask them anything even the stupidest of doubts. With introverts, you need to take initiative. It's confusing

[skyeee_]

lol im bad at it too. im not a big fan of small talk either, i'd rather have deep convos because at least those last than a goddamn "HIII HOW ARE U"

[minae]

I suck at it but I just talk about random stuff like hypothetical situations