Men, why do you never approach me in public (pics attached)?

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MrOracle · Accepted Answer

I can't say why they don't, but I CAN say that your looks/body shape/size are NOT the problem. I would say that most men would find you physically attractive.

If I had to guess, I would say that you don't project an attitude of friendliness and sweetness to people. Perhaps you don't smile a lot, or don't seem happy or fun or relaxed around other people. If you seem uninterested or that you aren't a happy person - OR, if you're shy, and have those same behaviors for that reason - a lot of guys will assume that you want to be left alone, and they'll do just that. You'll get an occasional guy who has an "I don't give an F..." attitude who will approach you, but more average guys usually need some positive feedback (smiles, touching him, laughing with him, saying "hello" when you see him, etc.) and some warmth from the girl in order to approach her more directly.

Maybe the above doesn't apply to you - I've never met you and can only go by what these two pics suggest - but in my opinion, that's the most likely reason.

MCheetah · Accepted Answer

I remember you. The 5'9" model.

If I saw you in public, I'd assume you are super high-maintenance, never want to be bothered by anyone, and only interested in men over six feet tall who spend 12+ hours a week in the gym, every week. You don't come off very approachable, nice, or middle-class, from these photos. They look more like someone who is a diva and likes to use men for free dinners. Not saying you are this, but you look like the women who are. The women from The Tinder Swindler who are rich themselves, but expect far richer men to wine and dine them.

Let's not forget the rule all women have for flirtation and courtship:

"Sexual harassment" is when you're under a 7 in looks.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

You’re lying if you’re saying that no guy approached you lol.
Only men with wife’s or girlfriends won’t approach you.
Men are very available and confident and will get anything they can. Opportunistic. No matter if they’re ugly ir fat or badasses.

If you’re talking about a HOT GUY. “Brad Pitt” not approaching you… then that’s because he might have kids. Or his wife / partner will beat they-@$$.

089Lexi · Accepted Answer

If you volunteer or get yourself involved in things you'll start talking to guys in a comfortable setting and then it'll just happen naturally. The guy knows it's his responsibility to make the first move unless he's like extremely shy. But any other guy that's not extremely shy will make the first move if he's interested.

Mradvice24601 · Answer

These days men can be vilified for approaching women. There is a lot of that type of thing going on at the moment in various places around the world.

You are very attractive so it's not an image issue. It could be maybe just the fact that some people don't prefer meeting up in person untill they can sus you out online. Get a feel for the person you are?

Its a more digital age and people are less comfortable meeting in person.

Maybe adjust your meeting standards and join an online dating app or even take the risk and approach the men. Im sure that people want to approach you, they are just afraid of the consequences should it fail.

😀

Telekinetic-Potato · Answer

In the top picture you're really attractive and seem like someone who's taken/turns down a lot of people. So that's gonna take a lot of the guys who go for the easy women out of the picture.

And in the second picture, you're too skinny. You look like you're on crack. I would be afraid to have sex with you in the same kind of way I'm afraid of that pack of oreos I found in my car because I'm pretty sure it's gonna break apart as soon as I touch it. All jokes aside, there is such a thing as too skinny and I think you're walking a fine line.

On top of that you're a redhead, and most guys know they can't handle a red head.

Anyway, I think you're pretty hot. I'd honestly be a little nervous to approach you in a bar. But I'd take the opportunity.

Datboi65 · Answer

You do realize that your looks are not the only reason to that, right? Although attraction might play a factor, so does your body language and activity you were participating in at the time. For instance, do you look like you are unbothered and unapproachable? Do you have a resting b*tch face? Are you on your phone all the time? Those factors do play a role on you approachability, and if you want to be noticed you should throw more hints and act more friendly, so guys can see that and react accordingly.

Best of luck.

Lionman95 · Answer

Because I simply don´t know how plus I don´t want to be seen as a rude or inconvenient. Because there are no places where I´m not rushing through being bothered with something else. I´m not good at starting conversations with strangers plus most people (men or women alike) seem to be also bothered with something else either music, videos, phone calls, working so it seems wrong to interrupt at what they are doing.
I´m also not a kind of guy who´s falling in love at first sight and needs time to figure out if I love a woman or just think she´s pretty.

blackgaletiger · Answer

A few reasons
1) covid- social distancing as really in printed such a notion these last few years :P
2) Approaching strangers depending on the setting may not be appropriate nor practical. Where are you hoping to be approached and do you really want to be approached? Men have to be very careful in these days and age because its not a confidence thing as much as it is a security or harassment issue.
3) Physically you look great and you presented yourself very modestly so an assumption can be made that you carry yourself with a little more class and or you might already be taken
4) The age could be a big a key factor. Not that you are old but you may not be in the bell curve many are searching in. So your pool of choices may not be as large.

BCA6010 · Answer

Without really knowing you, it's nearly impossible to say, but one thing that stands out is the abundance of jewelry. Lots of guys see a woman wearing rings and bracelets and such, and automatically assume that either A. She's collecting trophies, B. She's expensive to please, or C. She's already taken. Especially in a gym or locker room like that second photo, it seems out of place and will make a guy think twice.

HighValue · Answer

Maybe they are seeing you and thinking, "Why doesn't she approach me?" You can initiate too. The ones that are more likely to initiate with you will be players/casual hook up kind of people because they are used to it. If you have male friends, I'd bet at least one of them likes you romantically.

FunkyMonkee · Answer

Well, where do you live? Why don't you ever come over this way? We could play cards, go get some za, shoot some pool, take a walk, play strip poker, jump into bed, play a nice rousing game of hide the salami, take turns making each other breakfast, and other fun things like that.

JSmuve · Answer

Well, you're operating on the assumption that most women want to be approached in public. If we believe what a lot of women say, then you guys just want to go about your business without being interrupted by random guys you don't know trying to get your number. So, perhaps they assume you don't want to be bothered, especially if you don't put yourself in positions to be approached and make a concerted effort to look approachable.

SurströmmingLover · Answer

Just because you might be good looking, doesn't mean that you will get approached.
- Men might think that you must definitely have a boyfriend, so it is not worth to bother talking to you
- You might be too serious/not smile enough
- You go out in large groups of women

Anonymous · Answer

You seem to beautiful to not be with someone, so, at least I assume that beautiful women like you are already taken. Obviously I go for girls of my age.

Some women are so beautiful that they are quite unapproachable, in any case. So here you got to take the lead. You will be surprised to find that most of the men will find it quite pleasant and quite shocking that such a fine looking woman has even seen them as talkable.

God_of_Thunder · Answer

Well, I'm in a relationship, so I don't approach anyone, and I doubt we've ever met. So there's two reasons.

If not for those, then I would approach you. You are very attractive, so I would at least give it a shot.

ChrisMaster69 · Answer

I honestly don’t know.

you look perfectly fine to chat to.

admittedly I tend to avoid just randomly approaching girls on their own, if you were with some friends it would be easier.

you do look good though.

Anonymous · Answer

That is a mystery. You may have to do something to make it known you are open to being approached, like smiling at guys when masks are no longer required, or saying hi, or saying something relative to the venue, or ask them something where they have to answer with more than yes or no.

Anonymous · Answer

Because that would be weird and un-natural and we don't wanna bring attention to ourselves... It's like seeing a goat swimming in your local pool, everyone is looking knowing "hey, there goes a pervy guy who's after some pussy". It's just embarrassing we feel like creeps

Sonorous · Answer

The way you look might not be the issue. So photos may never be able to give people enough information to give you an accurate answer as to why.

fonduegirl · Answer

You can approach them. I dunno why you wait for it to happen.

dreamstar72 · Answer

You look like you are in your early twenties with a perfect body. Maybe you just need to be in the right place a the right time. I’m sure you will find that special someone after all do have the beauty.

WhatTheHeckkkk · Answer

Not sure. You’re good looking and you look approachable.

Adam1978 · Answer

Why should we? We have a destination and a task at hand. Random people we see on the way doesn't change our goals.

PhenomenalQueen · Answer

You’re very attractive from the pictures and you have a nice body, maybe they think you’ll reject them so they don’t ask.. Or maybe they may think you’re too much of a challenge. I’m not sure. Lol

serious · Answer

I don't know either they don't want to by choice and would rather start by texting or mailing first and then approach in person or they are intimidated by your looks or your attitude.

Heartache0405 · Answer

I just dont approach women. Last time i did i was falsely accused. Served an ex parte ppo in college. If a woman is interested she can make it known her fucking self.

ANDYB88 · Answer

Because I got truly bored and tired of approaching women who would either respond as if I was some sort of pervert or use my attention as an ego boost and then disappear. The payoff is basically too low to bother

lrina · Answer

you aren't even showing your face... if i was a guy i wouldn't approach.

jshm2 · Answer

Your lack of tits. But also your poor fashion style.

Mary087 · Answer

I don't see why they don't.. you're an attractive lady.

Puppystarfish23 · Answer

Sorry but I just love your dress were did you get it?

TommyMountainFigure · Answer

If I was single, I would have no problems approaching you. Maybe you just don't have many confident guys where you live

Anonymous · Answer

Why would guys do that anymore when we’ve heard so many women complain that guys who approach them are creeps and that women want to be left alone?

Anonymous · Answer

You’re not my type physically speaking. Besides I can’t even see your face fully. That’s all I can say based off what you’re giving me as far as information in regards to your question.

Hellraiser1984 · Answer

You may intimidate them because you're beautiful. Only the players have the guts to approach a women like you. I'm sorry if you're lonely. Women don't approach me much due to my height a build. I'm tall and bulky. You deserve a happy life.

Anonymous · Answer

Most women say they don't ever want to be approached by a random guy in public. Plus all the other reasons (any and all the same ones why women don't do it to us). Might just assume you're not single even.

Anonymous · Answer

Because you're very beautiful. Too beautiful in fact. We assume because you look so good that you're likely to be very fussy concerning your choice of men. For us, it's just too much goddamed work to try our luck with a model. So we'll go with a woman that's attractive, but not extraordinarily beautiful. Our chances are much much better with them.

Morning_Cereal · Answer

Prolly not. You’re not bad looking but if I’m going to risk losing like a loser it’s got to be for someone extraordinary at least that’s how I’m thinking about it I guess

Nagahime · Answer

No clue. You seem like the type most guys would go for too.

Pohjolan · Answer

1. We don't want to bother strangers and come off as creepy. 2. We have a things to do and places to be.

humanearth · Answer

Don't want to be an intrusion to your personal space. Plus my wife would kick my ass and your too young for me

MrtoddsWildRide · Answer

Men are intimidated by attractive women. If you approach them, you might be pleasantly surprised at how attractive they think you are.

maverick2022 · Answer

Not into women that stomp around in heels with their hair blowing in the wind.

msc545 · Answer

You seem very attractive. Probably men are afraid of offending you. I would be. Men rarely approach women in public anymore for fear of being called "stalkers" or worse and getting in trouble.

CuriousMufuxka · Answer

Yikes red hair. Red Rover please don't come over! As a strawberry blond child of the 80's getting his ass kicked by an older redheaded sister, well hell hath no fury..

007kingifrit · Answer

we don't have any conversation starters anymore. you have to be doing something interesting we can talk to you about have you considered carrying around a baby kangaroo?

Cowboy6666 · Answer

Well I need to know about your height, how your face looks,  whether you are kind or not. If you are open minded, friendly and not racist I might approach you

scott04sa22 · Answer

You possibly look taken and I didn’t want to pissed off the other competition who’s has interests in you.

In_Trance · Answer

It must be something you're saying or doing (or not). Has nothing to do with the way you look that's for sure

Massageman · Answer

It certainly is NOT because you are bad-looking- you look fine to me.

Recurrence · Answer

I’m intimidated by Women and I’m not a confident person

Jupiter1 · Answer

Probably because you're nowhere near me and I haven't actually seen you. Anyway, would you allow a direct approach?

TallAnon · Answer

In the bottom picture you look a lot more approachable, but you probably wear it somewhere where you are busy?

ronaldo75 · Answer

No. you're seriously not my type and you look depressed.

Twalli · Answer

1) I don't know where you are 2) I have a girlfriend  3) I am probably shorter than you, and you probably won't like me

driven159 · Answer

I would but I am too old but now people are losing their people skills with everything done by phone or computers now men's balls have shrunk

Anonymous · Answer

You might say i sexually assaulted you and get me ostracized from society

Anonymous · Answer

I'd say in my head one of two things if not both "There's no way she isn't taken" "She probably gets asked out all the time, why would I waste my time being yet another guy for her to swat away?"

fred_durst · Answer

if you are talking about , women get approached by men who are stranger , that is bad idea , they will only creep the women out

Anonymous · Answer

I don't know, could be the ring? As if they could assume you are already taken?

Anonymous · Answer

Because of I don't want to violated the MeToo statutes and spend the rest of my life in prison, I wouldn't be lucky to enough to get the firing squad

Uptowngirl88 · Answer

Because they're not interested in you and because that's not your stop catfishing. Get help

Jay3344 · Answer

I don’t approach most strangers unless there’s really a reason to.

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