What should I actually do about this situation?

[ZainabAli123]

Hey this is pretty much a follow up from my last question I don’t know if my crush knows I like him but what he’s done is something that won’t ever leave my head or my brain…

I guess he doesn’t have feelings back (I’m not sure though) as he hasn’t directly said anything to me instead what he did was he wrote it in a message on our work WhatsApp group chat which I think is the most cowardly behaviour for a guy to do it is also humiliating… girls are naturally the type of people to talk about guys they like when they are smitten over them but this crush of mine took the cake he does know my number cause as I said I’m in my work whatsapp group chat so he could have directly messaged me instead but nope he went through all the lengths to tell me where everyone else is…. I really did feel strong humiliation that day. I ended up balling my eyes out in tears over it.

if you are a guy who is not interested then just tell us directly rather then trying to humiliate the situation… I don’t know how I feel about him now because it sticks in my head continuously am I right I’m feeling the way that I am like is it okay for me to sit here and feel humiliated and embarrassed I really do not have a clue…

I don’t know what to do about this I’m on the verge of moving on and forgetting about it but I don’t know.

[Hachimere]

Be picky when it comes to deciding whether or not someone's questionable behavior makes them a worthy romantic interest for you.
Given the amount of people there is in the world, there's no reason for you to be bouncing back and forth on whether or not someone that is displaying some "unpleasant" behaviors is worthy of your attention.

Regardless of the fact you got a crush on him, that doesn't really mean or do anything in your favor when it comes to his character. If anything it can even cloud your judgement and let pass a lot of early red flags.

So to sum it up: if that early on you have to wonder whether or not it's worth pursuing someone over after something that didn't quite sit well with you, you're better off not doing it.
And if choosing to push forward, at the very least keep that in mind.

[one1wild00]

I've had the same happen from the other side of the coin. Best recommendation as hard as its going to be if they are that discourteous then cut your losses, forget about them and move on. The humiliation and embarrassment will fade to non existence after awhile.

[ZainabAli123]

That’s easy for you or anyone else to say when I want to forget about him I can’t he swings in the back of my mind…. I don’t even talk about him much and he still swings in my head like last night he came in my dream but I wasn’t even thinking about him during the day

[spartan55]

Okay, I don't understand what he did. You weren't very clear.

[ZainabAli123]

He just sent a message on our work group whatsapp expressing something anout receipocating feelings rather then just directly messaging me

[spartan55]

Okay, are you certain it was directed at you? What was the context?

[ZainabAli123]

I’m sorta glad about it but I’m also hurt over it I mean crushes make us do stupid things but o don’t get it if he knew why didn’t he just tell me rather then behave like this

[Waldoe]

He is NOT the great guy that you imagined... be glad that you found out now...

[htmndg183]

What exactly did he say on the group? He specifically targetted you and told you he's not into you? Or soemthing else which was demeaning?

[ZainabAli123]

Well he didn’t have to target me at all he just said something about not reciprocating back but I don’t get why he didn’t just tell me. The thing is no one has told him I liked him not even me so I’m confused myself

[htmndg183]

You sure about the context? And you sure it was direct to you on the group?

[ZainabAli123]

Well who else could it have been directed at I mean unless it was about someone else but I doubt that cause after that message he went funny with me it’s like he stopped talking to me and whenever I walked into the room even to say hey he would just look away from me

[htmndg183]

Stange and immature behaviour from him. A sign from above that you dodged a bullet and were saved from chasing this man as your crush.

[ZainabAli123]

That’s what I mean it was just strange behaviour from him usually he’s not like that usually when ever I need help he comes directly asks me but I think I scared him off by looking into his eyes a lot

[SignedAutographs]

Why don't you just tell him you like him. Crush's are just silly games people play

[ZainabAli123]

There isn’t a point if he knew I liked him I just don’t get why he didn’t tell me directly instead it felt like he’s humiliated me so I decided enough is enough now. But then he came into my dream last night I didn’t think about him he just came first

[SignedAutographs]

You two are playing games

[ZainabAli123]

How are we playing games I’m just respecting him incase he has a girlfriend