Guys would you act like this with your platonic female friend?

[Anonymous]

Guys my question is that do you do these following with your platonic female friend or when you lke her more than a friend? Also would you confess to her if you like her or wait to make sure she likes you back before doing so?
1. Stick around her (like in her class) even when your job is done.
2. Message her when you are with your other friends without any important thing to sah.
3. Tell her to message when she gets home (in daylight and her house is like 10-15 min by bus)
4. Want to be in 1 on 1hangouts with her. (Not be eager when others join in and most of the times find a way to end having some alone time with her)
5. Be protective over her when in street and cars passing by.
6. Pay for almost everything.
7. Stand up for her
8. Never mention being with other girls and if you happen to run into one explain that you are just friends without being asked.
9. Want to be paired up with her in almost everything.
10. Help her in any way possible and say you are available if she ever goes through a hard time and wants someone to talk to.
11. Even though she has difficulty talking in your mother tongue fluently you are patient with her and don't rush her at all.

These are the behaviours I have seen from my guy friend whom my friends think likes me, so I got curious.

[LikeALog]

After reading half of the list I knew he's in love with you. The rest of the list confirmed it.

[Asker]

I see... so if I keep on acting friendly am I leading him on? My feelings for him aren't more than just friends and he is a nice guy so I would feel wrong if I give him false hopes.

[ImNoOne111]

Dont friendzone him. Getting friendzoned is terrible. I guess you have to reject him.

[Asker]

@ImNoOne111 Isn't it less hurtful than directly rejecting him when he hasn't even confessed? I don't go too hard with friendzone like I tried calling him bro but after he directly told me not call him that I almost never repeated it.

[Asker]

@ImNoOne111 Just a question, if he does like me why he has never actually confessd rather than dropping hints?

[ImNoOne111]

No, because we tend to dream and spend time and effort on it. After I realized I was friendzoned, it just hurt badly because of what dreams I had. If you dont want him around, please tell him

[ImNoOne111]

It could have a lot of reasons why he didn't confess it. First its very stressful, like I nearly got a heart attack out of my first time asking a girl out. Also we spend a lot of time preparing what to say. Also we want to make sure the girl is in a comfortable situation. So its a lot more thinking, planning then you think. Just approach him completely casually, see if you can make yourself look ready to be approached by him, he might confess it and you can get to reject him. If he didn't, see if he drops more clues, if yes, then reject him without him confessing his feelings. Just be kind to him, please. You have no obligation to reject him nicely but as someone who has got rejected badly, it can even cost the person's life

[Asker]

@ImNoOne111 Thank you for the insight. I assure you that my rejection would be kind and polite since he has been nothing but kind to me so there is no need to be rude just because he likes me. Hope you have been able to get over her
Last question: Did you try indirect way? Like ask one of you mutual friends to find out if she likes you?

[ImNoOne111]

Yes, I have moved on. Living with the cutest girl right now. I just dont want someone else suffer like I did. Im glad he doesn't have to. I am really strict with privacy that way that my friends dont even know the name of my exes so I really wouldn't try the indirect way as I both breach my rules and cause headache for someone else (the mutual friend). Also I dont recommend engaging a mutual friend as you never know if they would rather side with you or the other guy in case something went wrong. This one comes from experience as my friend really sided with her in an argument

[Asker]

@ImNoOne111 oh good tip and it's a good thing everything worked out well for you in the end

[ImNoOne111]

As long as some one else doesn't suffer like I did, Im happy

[Asker]

@ImNoOne111 I hope I won't cause him to suffer like you did

[ImNoOne111]

No, those aren't platonic

[Asker]

I suspected so no wonder my friends think he is super obvious

[Nahid1707]

Seems you two are good

[Asker]

Good friends?

[Nahid1707]

Yea.

[Asker]

Thanks maybe I read too much into it

[Nahid1707]

You’re welcome and do you like him?

[Asker]

I like him as a friend but was afraid that maybe my behaviour is giving him false hopes if he actually likes me (my friends are certain he does and even asked if there is something going on between us)

[Nahid1707]

I understand as a friend then

[Asker]

He also has made comments that made be doubt his friendly intentions like he calls many females bro and vice versa but when i did he told me not to as it makes us distant. He also stated that he wants to get closer to me so naturally I started getting suspicious

[Nahid1707]

I understand it does make sense

[Asker]

One last question: If you had a female friend and told her you would like her to come watch your presentation and when you messaged her she stopped what she was doing and came (she was nearby) would you think she may have feelings for you?

I did this and afterwards he became more attentive than he used to

[Nahid1707]

That’s very nice of her

[Asker]

I see, maybe it was too much tho he too is always ready to run to me whenever I need him (I almost never tell him to do so tho)

[Nahid1707]

I understand and I see
You two are good it seems

[Asker]

Yeah we are good friends and I hope we can keep it that way

[Nahid1707]

Hopefully