Why has he suddenly become perverted?

[Emz19]

Me and this guy have been talking and it seemed to be going well. He was asking me nice caring questions over the last 4 weeks. Now it’s gone weird. Last night he started asking me what my thinnest pair of leggings are. I told him I felt uncomfortable talking about my leggings and he just wrote back and told me that I’ve got nothing to feel uncomfortable about. He carried on asking me about my leggings. He’s interested in gym and we were having a nice chat about that, then he went on about my leggings. He asked me to send him a pic of me in leggings because he wanted to see my gym progress. So i sent him one. He then asked for another pic of me but without leggings, just me in my pants showing my ass. I got the impression a few weeks ago that he wanted a romantic relationship because he was asking me questions to get to know me in a normal way, now he’s started being perverted. I nearly blocked him earlier because it started to get to me but decided not to. Any ideas why he’s being like this?

[one1wild00]

Sounds like he is similar to me. I have a very high sex drive and I want a regular relationship friends with benefits/LTR with a gal, but the overpowering drive/horniness will start to slip pas and like a failing Dam, once a "leak" starts there is no stopping it. it doesn't mean i don't want the relationship, my body and brain just has gotten to the point where the sexual needs will show, if those are at least partially satiated or satisfied then I can be more focused on the "regular questions" that lead to a healthy relationship. For you or any gal reading this, don't give up on the guy if this happens. ride the relationship out like a tidel wave and see person as a whole, not just the first couple facets. If yo aren't comfortable with something tell him you aren't comfortable with revealing whatever it is at this point in the relationship, that will give him hope yet help you keep your sense of self and control over yourself AND still be able to work on the relationship if you enough of a promising relationship to do that.

[Ghostluck]

Just curious, how long have you been talking? Me personally, I get the "perverted" shit out of the way so I know if we are sexually compatible. Fart too often have I waited on that just to find we are far from a good match sexually, so I like to get that out of the way first before I invest real emotions in to somebody. I can't say this is his agenda, but maybe he feels that he is ready to move on to the next step and trying to gauge your most exotic side. From the sounds of it, he's most likely thinking that you won't be a good match or him. It's okay to talk about sex, it's only a bad thing if that is ALL they ever talk about. It's best to mix it up a bit. Getting to know somebody can be fun, but it's nice to spice it up too.

[Emz19]

I’ve known him for 8 years but we’ve been properly talking for about a month now. This could be his agenda but I don’t like the fact he bullied me into it when I told him I wasn’t comfortable. He was getting to know me in a nice caring way, then he decided to get sexual all of a sudden.

[Ghostluck]

Yeah, you have to set down your line. You draw a line in the sand and he should respect it. I never have issues with this, because women are usually VERY ready to talk about sex with me, however, if they drew a line I would respect it. Once you draw that line, the ball is in his court where he should decide if he wants to continue or move on. Instead what he has done is ignore your line and continue anyway. That should not be an option for him. It might be best to take that option off the table. He either respects you or he does not. If you are not comfortable talking about it, then he should respect it, like it or not. He made his choice, now it's time for you to make your choice. Good luck.

[Zealconsumesme]

You fart too often around them too?

[Ghostluck]

@Zealconsumesme Hahaha, no edit option sadly.

[HeartFullOfGlue]

He probably had an ulterior motives to begin with, just ditch him

[Rob70]

He is attracted to you. He was most likely making conversation with you and slowly getting a feel of how you might react. I think he had the goal of getting you to send nudes the whole time. Doesn’t mean that he is a bad guy but he definitely knows what he is doing

[Drumlin2001]

Why would you send him a photo of you're getting bad vibes? He's been on good behaviour to set a base kevek, now he's cranking up what seems to be a fetish to see how you react. Pretty normal, and seems you may not be into it. It's no where near as bad as it could have been. Hardly perverted

[PortraitOfTerd]

So you're not attracted to him,. why are you leading him on?
He thinks you like him and guys like to get sexual with girls to know they are interested to us and physically attracted to us.. the fact you don't want that sort of sexual relationship with him means you just see him as a friend and he should stop wasting his time with you and find a girl who is attracted to him

[PortraitOfTerd]

Poor guy

[Emz19]

I’m not leading him on. I thought he wanted a romantic relationship, sounds like he just wants sex.

[PortraitOfTerd]

Guys like sex and romance too, not jus one... Why have half a relationship? That's dumb, if you are a sexual find a guy with no dick.. and for him... Find a girl who likes sex

[PortraitOfTerd]

it's like why have half a relationship when you can have a full one?
I would break up with a A-sexual girl as soon as I find out she don't like sex

[Static_In_The_Attic]

Like a bee he has been buzzing around you for four weeks trying to get to know you & now that you sent him a picture of you in your leggings he’s like a horny hornet that wants to sting you.

[slatyb]

"Why" is not important. If you don't like the direction it's going, tell him or drop him.

[Trevelyan88]

Because he isn't interested in a romantic relationship, he is just interested in a sexual one.

[Sam_The_Savage]

Each n every guy have hidden motives...
It's just that how they play there games.

Sorry you can't do anything ✌️

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

He sounds like he has skeletons in his closet and he's not the guy who you think he is

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

@Emz19 He turned into a perverted and pretended to be nice in the beginning he needs his butt kicked and you deserve much better

[OddBeMe]

Why are you uncomfortable talking about it?

[Emz19]

Because I want a man who wants a romantic relationship. I don’t want to be used for sex

[OddBeMe]

You can be romantic and talk about sex.

[Luckycharms12]

His horny thinks you are hot