Why men only want sex and don’t want a girlfriend?

[Sugar100]

I’m 25 next year 26 and never experienced tasted what it’s like walk next to a guy at a family party or be with a guys family holidays. I don’t know what it’s like meet a guys mom and dad. On dating apps daily each guy I talk to don’t want meet my parents they only want sex. I don’t even post sexual pics just my face. I cry daily depressed live alone no guy to live with me. I don’t know what’s the point for me to even live. There’s no point of my life.
don’t say to focus on working I’m not a fucking animal, I’m settled down I just cry in bed depressed sleep daily. I want meet a guys family live together be always with his family complete. I don’t want date forever I want meet a guys family.

[EyeKnowMeNahYou]

A few things in my thoughts are... I would think is whom it is that you are attracting. The individuals you attract are they family oriented? What you are looking for are they also looking for? Are you forcing them to or dropping hints to see their family, and what will you gain from seeing and meeting the family? Honestly, if the man trust you and you are someone important or valuable he will suggest or bring you to an outing with family. If you force or demand or whine then most men will say hell no. You must be patient, not only that how well do you know yourself and him to be thinking so far into the future. Another thing , stop the tears and complaining of being alone. It happens but it can change and you can change but stop living to be loved and have a man. How much can you say you love yourself or love that individual and yet cry and be angry? Can you show the person your family and would they be accepting of him?

Basically I see that you want things but you're basing everything that you want on a time limit and honestly you worried about whether or not an individual is only going to date you to have sex or day two to actually get to know you. Stop putting a stipulation on how long it takes an individual to either fall in love with you, want to show you to his family, or even being into you for sexual pleasure. What comes to mind to me is that you don't even want sex and that's even with a relationship, all you want to do is be a part of something which would be that individual's family and that is fine but you are actually going to have to put in some work to get to know the person but before any of that begins and I will reiterate you need to get to know yourself. What are your preferences what are your wants what are your needs what is the type of individual that you feel fits that criteria to be for and with you. And you're too busy judging individuals and wondering why you are alone because they have boyfriends and they have children which they take care of and will stay a happy about and you have neither boyfriend nor child nor family to be introduced to but these individuals do, so does that mean they have the right formula no but they have something that you are aspiring to have. So don't judge them all the many of others that are out there having sex enjoying themselves because they want to they made choices decisions and took all responsibility and accountability for it. If you do not want a boyfriend that only wants to have sex with you on wants to have sex with you and you don't then find someone that's celibate find someone that looks deeper into your whole inner psyche, or how about you stop looking and let them find you.

[Sugar100]

Didn’t u reas this guy ik 5 years that I’m dating since last year he is family oriented! On each date he dont stop talking of his fmaily. I even gave hint 2 days ago I said I’m lonely my family is distant they have their own lives, family is important to me, I hope one day i can meet a guys family

[Sugar100]

That’s what I told him n he say nothing. He’s going this weekend to road trip see his cousins and aunt so we won’t meet this weekend.

[Sugar100]

Daily I talk to random men on dating apps for one month all men has told me they only want sex hookup no girlfriend. That’s y I asked on here y do men want sex only not meet parents? I post my face into on dating apps no sexy body

[Sugar100]

People say u need have no sex To have a boyfriend meet his partners but y all girls r pregnant with guy fast after few months of dating? Y people r telling me wrong advice? Obusouly to have a boyfriend u need have sex or have sex to meet his family. I don’t get why people r telling lies

[Sugar100]

Ik the guy since I was 18 now I’m 25 next year 26 but since last year we r dating weekly barley. He obviously must love me to still be with me but I still never will get to meet his family it don’t make sense

[Sugar100]

It’s not random guy I met yesterday that I can dump. I even look for a guy to meet family while I’m with him and no luck. I feel god wants me stuck with him. Girls in public dress slutty and have bfs and I dress elegant and I boyfriend? I don't know y I can’t meet parents and the girls that dress slutty meet parents fast?

[EyeKnowMeNahYou]

No you absolutely don't need to have sex with a guy in order to see his family. That's false if I ever heard it that's not even a lie that's a fact. If anybody tells you that you need to have sex with a guy in order to see his family then you don't need to be with that guy and you need to stop listening to those people who are trying to give you advice. Just like guys previously what exactly will you be gaining from seeing this Man's family well amen's family isn't the relationship supposed to be about you too how about you work on the relationship first. The family will come later and that's if you two are compatible

[EyeKnowMeNahYou]

And why are you worried about individuals having sex and getting pregnant, in order to get pregnant it takes two things one you making a choice to have unprotected sex with an individual too having sex in the first place. Either way it is a choice and a decision that you have to make if that is what they feel comfortable doing that is not the standard for you to do the same thing, it was just there choosing. So again stop judging them by what they do if they want to do that then it is fine if you wanted to do that then it is fine but that is not what you desire to do and that is okay you have a different set of standards and you have a different preference that is okay

[EyeKnowMeNahYou]

So tell me I'm telling you all of that and you telling him all of that have you even introduced you and him to your family. Make that a goal or venture first, perhaps you should introduce him to your family so that they can see whom it is that you're dealing with and you approve of. And if you don't feel that he will ever show you to his family and you're okay with that and you still desire to date him then do not complain but if you feel that it is necessary to see his family then you need to make it straightforward and playing don't throw hints. You're throwing hits is like someone trying to throw a rock at the Sun no matter how hard you throw it it isn't getting there unless it's getting out of Earth's orbit and the likelihood of that happening is never

[EyeKnowMeNahYou]

All right so this is what I'm starting to get and I know clearly intuitively you understand it if he's not taking you to see any of his side of the family and either you're asking or demanding or wanting to then you should stop clinging to him because he's sending you on an emotional roller coaster and you are being an emotional punching bag.

[EyeKnowMeNahYou]

Okay is the truth about the dating apps that I've noticed a lot of times, most of them only want to have sex therefore you probably shouldn't use dating apps. Go out and actually try to meet someone or people that is of your age brackets. If you are looking for apps to tell you all the truth and things that you wish to know you going to find out the unsavory truths that you already knew. They say a form of insanity is to do the same thing over and over again and expect different results, so if you keep going on these dating apps hoping to find Mr Right a family man or someone that looks to be a life made of any sort by your preference and you keep finding scumbags then you should probably get off the app cuz you're not going to find whatever diamond in the rough You think You are

[Sugar100]

I tell guys daily on the apps I want meet family it’s written in my bio and men still message me for hookup then block me as I say I want meet parents have boyfriend not hookup.

[Sugar100]

If that guy I’m dating if he only wanted sex he would be gone by now n not care of me but we r dating weekly it’s just impossible meet his family and now on each date he don’t shut up talking of his mom dad sister. Y he’s giving me details how his dad looks like? A normal friend would not talk of his family nonstop. Am I going to meet family next year 2023 or 2025? I don't know wen I’ll meet his family. Ik him since I was 18 now I’m 25 soon 26 and we just began dating since last year.

[EyeKnowMeNahYou]

So then they were absolutely unnecessary in your life and you shouldn't feel bad about that not only that when you have that really blatantly out there in front of them I'm going to be honest with you it is going to turn away guys because they already feel that you're only trying so that either you get married or as you said just want to meet the family and some senses that could come off creepy and way way too forward they want to actually date you and get to know you first you already coming off like yeah I want to meet your family yeah that's going to turn away a lot of people and they're going to try and stick to one other issue which is hooking up. And to be clear you don't need a sexy body to have somebody to hook up with you a pretty face I suppose can definitely help personality definitely always helps but you don't have to have sexy pictures in order to have somebody hook up with you and like I said before some of these guys are just scumbag so that's what they only think some of these ladies on here have wanted because maybe one person they encountered has been only about sex with them. Some people might pass arounds or hand me downs

[Sugar100]

In public men say they have girlfriend or at jobs I stand next to a guy and they yell out loud MY GIRL MADE ME FOOD NY GIRL IS AT HOME ETC. or men only stare at women in tiny crop tops or showing body. They don’t stare at me in elegant dress shopping for food or home decor. I’m very short look 15 not 25. And too skinny as I’m not happy in life in love. The more I eat the more I lose weight. I sleep cry daily from depression. I’m settled down in life but I hav no guy planning family vacation with me or saying my mom made dinner u r invited. No. This guy is just planning future dates with me weekly more n more n I don't know if I’ll ever meet his mom.

[Sugar100]

Meeting parents don’t mean u will marry, u just need show your boyfriend girlfriend to fmaily that’s it. Then resume dating. Even teenagers meet parents and they don’t marry lol. Meeting parents don’t mean marriage. Girls get 10 bfs and they all meet parents it don’t mean marriage at all.

[Sugar100]

U go on few dates, meet parents continue dating then break up. Me no I’m going on million dates with this guy and still haven’t met parents. And before he wudnt talk of his family at all now he is talking nonstop of his family it’s weird

[EyeKnowMeNahYou]

So your goals are not aligned you need to look elsewhere, that's the common denominator here you're not getting what you want from this guy you're only getting just enough to stay in place or stay with him and actually having him as comfortable to you you need to get rid of him and do better but that is only my opinion

[EyeKnowMeNahYou]

Yes it's true men like that type of thing do they need that it's a totally different story. And see the minds of most young ladies will see that that is what men like are they feel that they are unattractive because medium of men like that and they don't feel confident in their own selves to figure out what they like about themselves and they're looking for validation through those men's eyes. That's not going to happen again like I said before and so you love yourself and you appreciate yourself nobody else is going to appreciate you why should they. And you keep constantly going on with what you see that oh well men like women in small crop tops and I dress elegantly so they can appreciate that. Wrong, but you are around them men that tend to like that but you're not putting yourself in a different place to where someone can appreciate your type of attitude your type of thinking and your type of dress it all falls on your decisions not theirs. Stop worrying about what they like what do you like where do you want to be who do you need to be around and why are you not there to get the proper attention

[EyeKnowMeNahYou]

No I don't agree with you there because I've had a girlfriend or two and none of them met my family, you know why because they didn't get to stick around too long not only that we lost some compatibility or communication and they didn't meet the family. Why do children teenagers tend to meet the family well that's teenagers and not responsible enough for themselves yet so the parents need to know who and what they are dealing with so that is why they meet the parents. Something that you are failing to grasp is that meeting the parents is no small thing meeting the parents means this individual means a lot so if a man can show you his family or parents then that means you are someone of great value you're not just a random person. Most times people won't introduce you to that family because they don't want to embarrass themselves because the families are probably thinking like oh here's another one that he's showing us I'm wondering how long they will stay. So yes showing your person to the family means much more than just the satisfaction of you showing the person to your family and say ooh look what I got

[Sugar100]

So u said ur gfs never got to meet family as they left early and broke up with u too soon. So I’ll meet his family with some more time? We barley began dating since last year. But Ik him since 5 years but we never Dated back then.

[EyeKnowMeNahYou]

If you've known him for 5 years that's different dating him all together is absolutely different so yes over time you will see him and you with family. The reason why those individuals never saw my mother our father or the rest of the family is because they weren't necessary to see them and you know what it was better that I found out that they weren't able to see them because they weren't fit to see them and that's fine. Again I only introduced people to family that I deemed worthy of seeing my family and that's how it should be I don't introduce them just because we know each other that's not the case because the see families especially occasion it's just not something that happens every day. So as you and him build a bond that you don't have to force he will eventually open up further and then introduce you to the family.

[Anonymous]

Honestly, I know I will hear some negativities about my opinion but this is what I think. Too many women nowadays are giving it up like it’s going out of style. If that’s happening why should he commit if you can get it as easy as purchasing bread at the store? This whole new era of I don’t need a man to do this or that. I’m a strong independent lady. That taking control of your sexuality is empowering. Fans only, girls who say men sexualize women but go on that site to sell what they despised. Whatever men can do women can do. There’s no morals, traditional values. Not just w a lot of women but w a lot of men as well. I’m not saying that a girl should idolize her man, be his slave. I’m ok w change. But there’s nothing there in the way of, courting, an old fashioned word. A lot of women tend to not hold men to standards, I don’t mean standards as oh he had to be rich. I mean polite, helpful, responsible, etc. I see too many women fighting over dudes who are straight scum, 4 baby mama’s yet they still open their legs for him knowing he isn’t even taking care of his other kids. Im sorry about you’re situation, I know there is a lot of stress on you as they say your clock is ticking.

[Sugar100]

We’ll I see all girls that have sex with guy they meet parents and then become baby mamas without marrying the guy. Most women Ik are baby mamas women aren’t waiting til 30 to marry have sex. Life is empty without being with a boyfriend and inside his families life that’s y girls don’t wait until 30 marriage. Some are settled down at 25 ready like me but I won’t a
Wait til 30s to marry be with a guy.

[Sugar100]

My bfs sister has a lot of kids a lot sex not married and his baby daddy met her parents live in their house. Meeting parents don’t meet commitment forver lol meeting parents is not marriage.

[Opinion Owner]

Yes I’m not saying there aren’t relationships like that out there. There are plenty, but if they’re not married it’s as easy as that for the man to just leave. So why do you think he’s living w them in her parents house? He can’t provide for them on his own. I’m almost positive that most people who have kids before even going to college, then dating, then marriage, then kids are probably struggling. I can almost guarantee they won’t be together forever.

[Sugar100]

We’ll many people divroce , with a. Divorce u r stuck paying money a lot file to divroce, stuck with guys name few months until divroce finalizes, a lot of paperwork , it’s better not marry and if u separate then it’s easy leave. Also most people I know are cheated on married. It’s not true if u marry life is perfect and men won’t cheat that’s Not true.

[Sugar100]

Most women that have babies are 25-27 , lol that’s way past the college phase I’m 25 this end year and not in college

[Opinion Owner]

So have you been able to meet men easily? What’s the longest relationship you were in?

[Sugar100]

I’m saying my experience from what I know from other people or seen.

[Changiis07]

You can always try church there’s decent guys there. As for me I’e hd a few boyfriends and honestly right now I’m so happy being alone lol once you feel good and happy being alone you will attract someone

[Sugar100]

That’s bullshit I’ve been alone my whole life I don’t deserve someone tell me to stay alone I deserve someone say u will no longer be alone !

[Sugar100]

I don’t understand y women get to have babies and live with the guy they love and I can’t be with the guy I love. Just cuz a random guy likes me don’t mean ima love them back or be attracted to. Would u date a random ugly guy u don’t care for?

[Sugar100]

The issue is not even an ugly guy wants a girlfriend everyone just wants sex. Church guys they already have girlfriend or want sex not meet parents.

[Changiis07]

Lol well suit yourself. Just giving some advice as what has helped me sheesh don't gotta be rude about it

[Sugar100]

The guy I love we just go on dates 2 years and he never let me meet his family I don't know where he lives either I just know we live in same city. Ik him 5 years. No girl is dating guy forever n not meet parents.

[Changiis07]

See then your just limiting yourself saying there's no guys out there when in fact there's a bunch of good guys out there you just have to know the red flags. Also I'm currently talking to a guy whom I do not find attractive but he has been very nice to me. Things can change as for now we are only friends

[Sugar100]

Y men don’t want meet parents I’m confused! I’m not looking for dates I want meet parents! Follow a guys family. Be apart of his family. Even if a random guy dates me I will never be able meet his family. Y men run away from meeting parents?

[Changiis07]

Well that's things to work on if he didn't want you meeting his parents that would have been a red flag to me. I'd have to ask as to why is the reason

[Sugar100]

Obviously ur happy being alone cuz u already tasted what it’s like meet guys family!!! I NEVER HAD NET A GUYS FAMIKY ILL BE 26 next year no experience!!! If u were alone like me Whole fucking life u wudnt say I’m happy being alone!

[Changiis07]

That is very true. I do agree with you. My last boyfriend we were together for a year and got to meet his family which was really nice but then got my hopes up and his family mostly his dad stayed in touch with me after we broke up and it was hard for me. I'm still not completely over it I guess you can say I'm healed now and which is why I'm happy alone

[Sugar100]

But y he let u meet his family y he don’t run away avoid tell his fmaily of u? Y he don’t run away from meeting your parents?

[Changiis07]

Because he wanted me to meet them. We were dating so a family's approval is nice when dating a partner. The fact that you never got to meet someone's family is a red flad. Is he hiding something, does he not see a long term

[Sugar100]

I don't know we just date n date n date n we don’t meet family. He talk a lot of his family on dates but he don’t ask me meet them it’s weird

[Changiis07]

Then you don't have to wait for him to tell you. You can always ask to meet his family

[Sugar100]

But if I’m giving hints y he don’t tell me? I don’t get it

[Changiis07]

I'm not sure sometimes guys don't understand hints. You need to tell them straight up your wants and needs

[LazerBean]

It's not that all men only want sex, it's just that the men that YOU attract only want sex.

[Sugar100]

But I put in my profile pic of my face no body so how I’m attracting sex? All girls that hav bfs get pregnant fast in one month, they r the ones attracting sex having baby daddies, not me. They r the ones having sex daily with men

[Sugar100]

Y men don’t want meet family I don’t understand. Men only want dates weekly but not meet fmaily? How do girls meet family if girls just have sex with guy and babies get baby daddies?

[LazerBean]

Getting pregnant with a boyfriend isn't a good thing? Most of those babies are going to grow up without both parents having a functional partner relationship. Also most people on dating sites are only looking for sex.

[Anonymous]

You can thank modern women for that. They think it's ok to fuck like hookers with tons of guys until they're 30, then want to settle down and are wondering why a guy wouldn't want them after that. No self respecting guy would want some used up girl who's literally had 50 dicks in her. Hookup culture, sluts, plus women not offering anything to marriage like they used to (having children, being homemaker, etc) is why men won't commit. Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free? Married women initiate 70 percent of divorce, men are screwed over by the courts.

[TheSpaceGnome]

Why do some women make slanderous stereotyping claims about men as if we are made in some sort of clone factory?
People are individuals, also all humans are animals, and the reason you are alone has squat to do with your complaint.
If you want a guy to take you home for keeps, you need to find one you actually get along with, one who shares your interests and hobbies, and you need to stop stereotyping.

[Sugar100]

It’s cuz all men I talk to online don’t want a girlfriend. That’s y I asked on here.

[TheSpaceGnome]

You haven't talked to very many men then.

Where are you talking to them? if you are on a hookup app, then thats your problem.

[Sugar100]

I thought apps were for finding a boyfriend girlfriend?

[Sugar100]

Each time I ask a guy I want a boyfriend they block me

[TheSpaceGnome]

Hookup apps like tinder are only for people who want casual sex, if you want a real relationship, you need to use websites that let you actually write about yourself in great detail. Anyone wanting a serious relationship, is going to hit pass on any profile thats just a picture and a paragraph, you gotta list your hobbies, interests, goals, dreams, talents, views, preferences, pet peeves, dealbreakers, etc. You have to BE a catch, to get a catch. And looks alone isn't enough to acomplish that. Most hookup apps have a bio character limit so small you are lucky to even write a whole sentence, so they are worthless to people who are serious about finding love.

[Sugar100]

Don’t say find hobby or meet guy in person, any where I go all men r next to women and baby or they r alone talking on phone to girlfriend or at job I stand next to guy and he says MY GIRL DID THIS MY GIRL DID THAT…

[TheSpaceGnome]

I don:t understand your anti-hobby fixation. As a guy who is looking for a serious relationship, I automatically ignore women who don't have the same hobbies as me. Hobbies are how you connect with people. And you can't marry a person without a mental connection to them.

[Sugar100]

The guy Im dating and know 5 years that I love we have the same hobbies!!! But I don’t meet his parents he leaves me alone for holidays and my bday. He left to Vegas with fmaily without me when he planned it first with me March that’s messed up. He don’t want to go ocotber for my bday he wants go to another stupid city. Im lonely with him I’m always alone while girls r followingnguys family weekly or daily with boyfriend

[Dareu2bb]

TheSpaceGnome.. you the man well said 👍

[Th3ft]

It sounds like you need to get off of the dating apps and try a real relationship. Like go meet a guy at a bar or go take a painting class. Do things and people will want to get to know you and then they will want to have sex with you.

[Sugar100]

I don’t want sex I want meet a guys family, spend chritmas Thanksgiving at guys families home then to my families home, or I eat dinner with boyfriend and my mom, stuff like that I’ve never done in life

[Dareu2bb]

Naww 😘😘
Yeah times have changed sweetie and people don't date like our grandparents did that's real love, guys wanting to screw all the time is natural BC I'm one of them lol..
But.. I'm also a romantic and love romancing a girl.. so with sex I enjoy screwing a girl good n hard and at the same time I just adore making passionate love to Her as well.. wether there's magic there or not I love the intense feeling it brings.
You need a cuddle huh... come on guys where's the love!

[rabbitzzz]

You don't have male friends and you shame humans for having sexual desires. Which is natural.

[Sugar100]

I don’t have make friends as they all have gfs.

[rabbitzzz]

Have you ever been to a gaming convention?

[Sugar100]

Yes with boyfriend. Mostly all men Attend with girlfriend.

[Sugar100]

We go to a million nerdy guy conventions

[exitseven]

I think that is not an accurate statement. I think lots of guys would like a girlfriend.

[one1wild00]

I have a very high drive that needs to be satisfied but underneath that I want a full on relationship girlfriend/Wife, kids, family gathering, etc.

[clampfan101]

I’m waiting until marriage for sex. What I’m looking for is a partner in life.

[Aiko_E_Lara]

Same reason why women only want sex and money and don't want a boyfriend.

[Zygum]

Girlfriend is for sex, not for cleaning house, you be courgious and talk to nice guy

[Anonymous]

why would they?

you women are prostitutes
most of you women have not turned to the most high

above the dome

[Opinion Owner]

MEN WTF DO YOU WANT ? ↗

[DermalPunch]

They think we talk too much.

[MountAverage]

You're a sexist.

[Sugar100]

I can’t meet any guy that wants meet my fmaily, I’m asking daily , can’t find anyone say yes. 😓

[MountAverage]

Okay. Doesn't change the fact that you're a sexist.

[Anonymous]

Girlfriends are too much of a headache

[Straight2thepoint]

Trust issues.