Can a guy with aspergers and social anxiety meet a woman when the social dynamic means women will not initiate and only see's weird or "mr nice guy" ?

[WayneyG]

Due to my perception of the world , i find social interaction to be biased, manipulative and rigged in favour of women...
Women are NEVER attracted to "mr nice guy" or generally find me weird and run...
Previous relationships happened without thought...
Getting past that first coffee is the biggest hurdle and leaves me feeling judged and rejected for no reason... resentment and two suicide attempts are the net result of "equality" for me...

[Wonderwhat]

They like guys that are disarming and make them feel safe. Sure sometimes they like the bad boy but that's because they have nearness to them that is charming and charming is disarming. You have to take the lead and open up. Encourage her to talk and listen to her feelings and assure her that she is safe with you. If she gets angry don't fight her just listen speak softly and calm her down. That'll make her feel safe and want to stay with you. It's not about being "mr nice" it's about making her feel safe and comfortable when she is around you. If you get angry or lose your confidence she will start to feel uncomfortable. A woman likes to feel safe and secure and that her man is going to take care of the problem.

[WayneyG]

I'm sorry but being "mr nice guy" and letting her feel safe does not work, women judge you as boring withing the first 5 minutes...
All i know how to do is be "safe", from her physical perspective and my communication perspective...
The confidence is the part i am missing because being laughed at, judged and discarded does that to a guy, they don't care i am a trained chef, computer techie, musician and generally good (not great but capable beyond average) at most things i do, all they see is boring...

[AMS700CX4u2]

My brother has Asperger"s and I am on the Spectrum. He has been married twice and divorced as many times. Neither of us are competitive. I will have been married 50 years in August of this year.. You have to remember that you don't think like the majority, Your perspective is different. You don't follow the masses and teenagers are most concerned with fitting in. My advise is to be yourself, The more you try to follow the crowd, the more you will resent the lie, and at some point you will "drop the ball". We have a tendancy to overthink a situation.

[WayneyG]

"Be yourself" is all the advice i ever hear, women hate a boring logical guy, it's the worst advice ever but thanks you for your time...

[Anonymous]

I like a Penis like I like my coffee, black el grande

[Guy13]

Please…perhaps, I don’t know but a MEDICAL and/or emotional psychological doctor could help you with this 🤷🏻‍♂️🤷🏻‍♂️🤷🏻‍♂️

[Iron_Man]

Maybe

[In_Trance]

Of course