I really messed up?

[Anonymous]

I am an idiot. I was staying at this hotel with a
few girl friends over the weekend. We all got
very drunk and I got into a fight with the girl
who got the room and she kicked me out. I
called this guy I like crying asking him to pick
me up because I didn't have my car. Him and
his friend drove 45 minutes to get me. I barely
know either of them, the guy I like is very quiet
and has not really shown much interest in
actually liking me when I see him. I drank more
in the car and the guy drove us to his house.
He left, went to bed and had his friend drive me home. This was the first time I met his friend. Well then all of a sudden me and his friend hooked up. I was wicked drunk and regretted it immediately. His friend acted obsessed with me for a few days after but now has left me alone thankfully. He claimed he won't tell his friend but he was getting mad at me at one point for not reciprocating liking him back. I don’t think he has yet but I feel like he will tell the guy I like eventually I'm not sure. Now the guy I like has actually been showing interest in me and texting me all the time finally. I don't know what to do it was a huge mistake I barely remember the whole incident. Should I tell the guy I like myself and have him hear it from me first apologize and explain? I really want to fix this but I feel like the guy I like will never talk to me again or give me a chance if I tell him. He asked me to go to the beach with him this weekend and I don’t know what to do..

[Anonymous]

Better to own up to your mistakes. imagine if the shoe were on the other foot and this guy had drunk sex with your best friend: Would you want him to hide it from you? Clear the air sooner than later. It shows maturity.

[Asker]

Should I tell him in person or over the phone/text? How do I even say it?

[Opinion Owner]

Most things are best done in person. However, at times the stressors of being in person can make it extremely difficult to articulate what we wish to say in a way that is coherent and representative of how we truly feel. In this case, I think you are actually better off sending a well-crafted text. In this text, I would say that you need to clear your conscience of a serious transgression of yours involving his friend. Provide a concrete justification for this instance of binge drinking along with a believable plan for the future that you will adhere to to ensure that such a transgression will not repeat itself neither with his friend nor with any stranger who uses your vulnerability against you. In other words, do not just say, “I’m so sorry. The night you gave me a ride, I had sex with your friend. I was super drunk. It meant nothing. It won’t happen again” without any concrete support; your sentiments will seem insincere.

[Iris02]

I think, you have to be clear with him, if things are clear now in relationship then you won't regret in future for hiding and ruined your love life because of it.,

[Pterodon]

Why didn’t he drive you home?