Why are men’s opposed to therapy?

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big_ben_007 · Accepted Answer

Saying the word "Men" is too general for this topic. Lets break it down.

There's 3 kinds of men.

Men who are ready to accept help and use it.
Men who are not ready for help.
Men who dont know they need help, can't accept help, or maybe they know they need help but their circumstances and childhood prevent them from using good advice consistently.

You can tell a crack addict to stop using crack. See how well that works.

Its a very tricky thing to suggest therapy these days when lots of people, men women or trans people get very sensitive and make shit way more complicated than it needs to be.

I think there are only a very few percentage of men who want help, are trying to seek help and are using good advice to better their lives because they have a job that they like, they live in a good place, they're in a good mental place and they have the freedom to be mentally flexible and desire to change.

Not everyone has that. If someone lives around a family who pressures them to be dysfunctional like them, their first step should be move out and away from their influence. But who has the money to do that?

Sixgunsound · Accepted Answer

I have no way of knowing the answer to this question so I’ll go ahead and ask: have you attended therapy recently? Have you had a chance to flip through the textbook and shrine to misandrist bigotry known as the DSM five? Masculinity and masculine traits are pathologized as mental illnesses now, and many trade or other government issued licenses to work can be revoked for mental health reasons. If you are sent to the wrong vengeful angry feminist who wants to punish men for the way they were born, that could have significant consequences for career and family. It’s ultimately safer to suck it up buttercup than it is to lose livelihood and get divorce raped.

fonduegirl · Accepted Answer

They're emotionally oppressed. Like, it's shameful for them to even cry. And they have egos the size of saturnian moons.

boredgal · Accepted Answer

because most men find it hard to talk about their feelings.

Lionman95 · Answer

Because of the method for many guys just talking about something doesn´t seem to be an option if there is no practical help coming along.

Another excuse is I also see my life that we don´t think our problems aren´t that big. For us it´s hard to believe that we actually need therapy.

Another reason for me is that most therapists are women I have had mixed experiences in the past talking about my problems with women so it would take some time until I´m able to trust them fully.

ChrisMaster69 · Answer

I spent over 8 years as a volunteer at a counselling centre.

this is a rough example of how bookings and initial assessments went.

20 girls contact the centre.

16 turn up for Initial assessment

15 continue for regular sessions

20 guys contact the centre

10 turn up for initial assessment

4 continue for regular sessions

1 or 2 drop out after 3 weeks, reason nearly always male friends commenting on them having counselling.

Doing outreach work was always a right mare as trying to get people to put in fro counselling was always much harder with guys.

Stoner710 · Answer

We’re not we just don’t find it helpful, give me a therapy that will get me a agnostic conservative woman who I wish to marry and spend the rest of life my life with. The psychologist it’s worth it. Beyond that I’m pretty sure other than drinking on Fridays and Saturdays I smoking weed at night I’m pretty sane. Of course she’s doing a live in Washington I’m in sane if I lived in Florida I would be perfectly sane

Brammer54 · Answer

It is mostly the masculinity. They see asking for help as a defeat so they keep it to themselves and try to figure out and solve their own problems. Emotionally and mentally speaking, they want people to rely on them and not the other way around.

I'm all in favor fixing your own life problems but at some point, if things are getting burdensome, it's best to ask for help.

Juxtapose · Answer

It's literally a sign that your problems outweigh your will, who wants to appear week and admit that? So far I have not needed therapy, I haven't had enough trauma and I'm not weak enough for what I have experienced to break me.

Anonymous · Answer

I have had to participate in a lot of group style therapy coaching things and I probably need therapy my life is a mess. I hate it I always have but have to go I get told it's OK to feel this way and coping mechanisms but my actual problems don't get fucking solved and it's a waist of time.

I also have to reveal a lot about myself my strengths things I enjoy emotions and bs ext and I fucking hate it.

userxvi · Answer

because its a fucking scam lmfao. they charge up the ass and then tell you to go eat some pills so big pharma can get bigger... no thanks. If you are a kid or have serious trauma or mental disability sure--if it not than its a stupid thing to do especially now days with access to so much info and resources online

Kaneki05 · Answer

Mostly toxic masculinity. Myself however is not opposed to it because it will make me a weak man I couldn't care less but just I cannot be arsed talking to a normal person.

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

He either financially poor and can't afford it or he is a dummy. If you need help then you should get help. We all need help at one point or another.

Jackblue · Answer

We feel it is patronizing. I have done it in the past and it didn't really help me. I actually feel it made me worse.

matchrestore · Answer

I did it when my insurance paid for it. I'm finally back on insurance that is worth a damn. I'll probably go at some point again.

God_of_Thunder · Answer

I have no idea. I've never had any reason to go to therapy, so I don't have a clue whether I would, or wouldn't, go if it became necessary.

BeMuse · Answer

Therapy is a fucking joke. Anyone that would spend money on that is a moron.

Drumlin2001 · Answer

Society tells boys from an early age to suck it up. Is it any wonder they grow up to be emotionally repressed

jasco · Answer

It's not often that you see men around you do it, more often they find other means of doing it or bottle it up till ya die. Plus therapy cost money

Alcoholic_Wannabe · Answer

You tell them what's wrong with you and they will look you dead in the eye and ask what can be done about it with a straight face. That's why I don't like therapy.

msc545 · Answer

Mostly because they are fearful of what we will discover about them.

CasaNorba · Answer

not, this man. I been going through different types of therapies since the age of 5

Jamie05rhs · Answer

Because women like to use it as an excuse to attack guys and tear them down.

_no_one_ · Answer

open up just doesn't feel like it, we tend to find a working solution out of it.

Danny_dan92 · Answer

I’m not, I’ve gotten a therapist several times. It’s nice

OnTheLevel · Answer

On the flip side, why do women feel therapy is required for every problem we face?

Anonymous · Answer

Because a lot of the therapists are crazier than the patients.

Anonymous · Answer

cause the society has to change not so much the men  the men need to change a little

NathanDavis · Answer

because we prefer to walk it out...

exitseven · Answer

it is considered weakness to ask for help.

Gangactivities911 · Answer

It doesn’t seem to work very well.

OddBeMe · Answer

Masculinity doesn’t allow it.

Fuentes · Answer

Cause it can be seen as weak

This_Is_My_Opinion8 · Answer

No idea. Helped me a lot

In_Trance · Answer

i didn't know they were

dolemite89 · Answer

talk therapy isn’t very effective 🤷‍♂️

Anonymous · Answer

mens? English pls

Reijen · Answer

I don't need it.

RuthlessAggression · Answer

why are women?

jahaims · Answer

I'm not

Dinosaursandanime65 · Answer

Cats are good enough

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