Confused, he is pulling away and I know there is a connection?

[Pamelasue]

We have been talking for about two months, we have seen each other twice, he was very attentive to begin with and now I feel like he is stringing me along, when I finally got him to talk to me about his behavior he said he was starting to catch feelings and that is why he is pulling away. He is still pulling away and will not answer my question about what he wants out of this relationship, so I know how to proceed. Which I feel is only fair, what is going on and what should I do, if he doesn’t want to see me anymore that is fine and I have given his plenty of outs, im not crazy im not going to anything drastic if he doesn’t want to see me anymore but I can’t get him to respond to me.

[DoctorSex]

It does sound like an unusual case. My best guess would be that he has a genuine fear of commitment. Your age says 43 so I'm guessing he's around that age or older? I'm sure he has experienced his fair share of trauma in his life as I'm sure you have as well.

My disposition is to give people the benefit of the doubt, I believe that people genuinely want to connect and fall in love. Non of us truly know the demons that haunt another.. I'd ask you to forgive him for how he's behaving and forgive yourself for being upset. Then I'd suggest finding some poetic way to express yourself and send it to him. Art has always been the most sincere way of expressing the most disruptive feelings, in a loving way. This is not suggesting that you chase after him. It is about finding a way to make lemonade out of lemons.

Kind regards,

DoctorSex

[spartan55]

Ya, keep pestering about 'what are we'... guys LOVE that...🙄... especially after seeing you twice? Ugh...

[Anonymous]

Men don't know what they want half the time. All you can do is give it time and see what happens.

[MzAsh]

You need to pull away now. He’s got issues and they don’t need to become your problem.

[maximumpower]

You've seen each other TWICE and you KNOW there's a connection?
You're already at "clinging vine" and approaching "obsessive."
No wonder he's pulling away.

[Anonymous]

Honey, you hung out twice. Twice.

And you’re already giving him the old “What are we” treatment?

[Guy13]

That is normal for a male...

[Guy13]

Fact: Women need emotional before physical. Women push men to death to talf and reveal Self. Men get exhausted. Men pull away> some never return. Men tell their friends, "Women are F-in stupid."
Men: need physical before emotional as this is sign of love. Once connected men talk and reveal. Men still pull away... most come back. Men do NOT tell their friend, "women are stupid."

This is contingent on two good-hearted, kind, and mature individuals.

[Pamelasue]

I get that it is normal but what should I do and how do I proceed, I just want to spend more time with him I’m not asking him to marry me, i think we would both be making a mistake if we called it quits this soon.

[EarthRealm]

Grow up you must be a 1 year old you don’t know what to do
Then why the fuck are you even alive if you don’t know what to do how did you manage to live your life and survive in the I do not know mentality

[EarthRealm]

A baby knows what it wants to do but you don’t grow up or cry your eyes out and all the while your crying 😭 put your hands on him trying to fuck him I’m sure he will understand what he needs to do then.

[abinavzene022]

He got some issues to sort out, that's why

[In_Trance]

This is a gong show