Please read evweything and give me your opinions. Been with my guy for almost 5 years. First year was toxic. We both were fighting and yelling at eachother. Eventually we learned to keep our demons down. But the things that slowly put emotional distance between us (we were living together) were his addiction to videogames, to always stay inside the house. We were going out once every 3 months. But the things that really f****d me up were the fact that he doesn't know how to react when something life-death is happening. Eg:It was night and I was in pain, I had 2 infected tooths and I was afraid that will go up to my brain. I wasn't really able to talk a lot and I asked him to call an ambulance for me. He was like nah.. I won't call, I 'm shy, I don't know what to say.. and hey I m not calling for your tootache. They will laugh at me. These words haunted me for years. Even today I am shocked. Am I overreacting? Another recent incident ( that's why I told him let's go into a break): I'm allergic to pets but I went to his parents house because he was there. His parents have pets but I really wanted to stay with him. He was happy because he was missing me too. In the middle of the night I woke up and I couldn't really breathe. I was coughing and fighting for air. He wasn't asleep so I told him: ,, babe I don't feel good, I can't breathe". His answer : what do you want me to do? Give you a ventilator? Look I want to sleep. How would you react if I would disturb you? I left in the middle of the night and I spent next days just crying and thinking he really doesn't give a damn about me. Ofc he said 'sorry I was just frustrated I couldn't help you.'The issue here is that during our relationship he always choosed to use my weakness or my health problems against me. Like knives! All this time I was hoping he could really change cause I loved him and we had awesome connection and great moments despite everything.
Everyone wants the fun times, but when things get hard and you need to count on someone that's when you know who the true people in your life are.
That fact is you could've died like you said. What's going to happen if you are in a car accident? Or mugged? From the sound of it nothing good will happen because he has only been concerned with how your situations made him feel. He has left you to fend for yourself.
Only thing worse than being alone is being with someone who makes you feel alone.
Your relationship is never meant to work if that's how he's acting towards you. We don't know if you're a hyperchondriac and overreact to things, but he's definitely not the one for you.
We were forced to take a break when she spent a month in the mental hospital. Our relationship was on a fast track to destruction (largely due to her mental state), but that time away made us realize how much we mean to each other and now we're better than ever. I didn't believe in it before, but it really does work
Breaks mean the relationship is over. One of you will fuck someone else and then even if you get back together your relationship will be even worse than it is now. Either stay together or break up. Dont take a break.
I do not agree with breaks that’s a big problem it will lead to a final break up talk it out go out to dinner be positive if that doesn’t work take it to a Christian counselor you don’t just separate then it will fall
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