My ex and I have had an on/off situationship for almost a year. He doesn’t want to commit, but I have good reason to believe he loves me. I broke things off almost four months ago because he didn’t want a relationship and I did, I went no contact and blocked him on social media so I could heal. After about four weeks of being a ghost to him, we ran into each other at a place we often spent time at with friends. He was VERY nervous, extra, over the top attentive.
After about an hour of talking and being glued to my side, he came back to our table with a drink and said he was glad I called him over to talk. We had a reconciliation a few months prior to that night at the same place (after I broke things off for the same reason), and it’s where we ran into each other after four years of not seeing him (he ghosted me in 2017 after chasing me for four months and finally getting a date with me). Anyway, I said with a smirk that we’ve done this before, and immediately he said I KNOW!! and “If we ever get married, you know we have to do it here.”
Inside my head, all I could do was laugh/cry because, commitment. He went on and on about how great it was to see me, gave me “that look” of pure adoration…and an hour later he got up and pulled an Irish exit. Craziest thing I’ve ever seen him do.
Since then, we’ve run into each other a few more times (he’s still blocked). He’s always nervous, clingy, attentive, affectionate. Joked about being my on-camera boyfriend (for a video job I was doing). But no talk about getting together as boyfriend/girlfriend. He knows I don’t want to get remarried or live with someone. He hasn’t committed to anyone since his divorce six years ago. What gives?
