Why didn’t my coworker (and crush) follow me back on instagram?

[Anon98]

A male coworker of mine (and also my crush) is giving me all the signs he likes me (mirroring, always standing in my personal space, checking me out from head to toe, makes jokes - only with me, other coworkers think he is way to serious, holds eye contact with me even when he’s talking to other people), and the thing is all these things made me like him, i didn’t even like him at first. So i followed him on instagram but he didn’t follow me back. Can anybody tell me why? Is he just playing games or is he too shy or what? I really don’t understand. His profile is public and he regularly posts stories, but he never followed me back. My acc is also public.

[DaveJord]

Well I will tell you this I always keep my socials and dating prospects separate. Once we start dating then at some point I will link up with them on socials, but only after I am in a committed relationship with them and we have had all those personal conversations. Last thing I want is her getting into my follows and making assumptions about things before she really gets to know me. Plus work place relationships are difficult so I would not want a work place love interest posting on a public forum about anything we are doing in private.

So I say all that to say this, if your interest in this guy then date him and do not worry about trivial social media things like this. Get invested with the guy and them ask him about it when the time it right. Make your interest known to him if you want to date him. All the signs are there that he might be interested but you have to take the next step, because like I said work place stuff and get complicated. He can only do so much without crossing the line or risking crossing the line. That line is different for every person so you have to take the next step other than social media to let him know your interested. Now as far as what he is interested exactly you have to determine that for yourself.

I as a guy would not want some girl that I just want to hook up with on my socials... but at the same time that doesn't mean I am not interested in dating or in seeking a committed relationship. You can not allow yourself to read too much into this things like this or get inside your own head about it.

[spartan55]

Oh dear... how tragic. Why don't you TALK to him instead of using stupid Instagram?

[Anon98]

It’s hard because we’re never alone at work. There are always other nurses around or patients. You know it’s so weird, i’m helping a patient and he comes to talk to him or her and the whole time he is talking to them he’s holding eye contact with me.

[Silvermantis]

Keep your account private. Nobody will see the point of a follow because they already see your pics

[Fuentes]

Does he know that's you on IG and not a random & is his profile open or private

[Anon98]

I don’t know. I haven’t talked to him about it yet because we’re never alone at work

[Anon98]

His profile is open

[Fuentes]

Send him a dm and be like hey i followed u

[maximumpower]

Maybe its not a big deal for him.
Maybe he's not as into you as you think.

[Anon98]

But if he’s not into me why do all those things i wrote about above? All those things made me like him, i didn’t even pay attention to him before.

[maximumpower]

Maybe he wanted to see what it would take to get you interested.
Girls do the same things to guys.

[Anon98]

So it was all just a game? Well very mature…

[Anon98]

But why would he do that? He knows, he knew from the start that i have a kid. You don’t just play games with people who have children - mature, adult, resposible people. I don’t have time for games, i’m a mom

[Guy13]

Did you ask them in person first ⁉️

[Anon98]

No it was pretty random. I was checking out the profile of a female coworker and i saw him in her pics so i just gave him a follow.

[Guy13]

Work peers... one never does that unless one asks face-face... I'm sending you an invite. Lots of people do not like mixing Work and Personal life. Make sense?

[Anon98]

True. So what do i do now? Is it ok if i just casually ask him why didn't he follow me back next time i see him at work?

[Guy13]

Ask if it is okay to link up?