GUYS that go to the gym, what would make you approach a girl in the gym?

[Anonymous]

Guys how can I be more approachable when I am at the gym? I know it's a place to work out but I want Guys to notice me talk to me and approach me asking me out or stuff... there so many hot dudes I want to date someone from the gym help

[IAteTwoFullHams]

I have read about nine thousand things on the Internet that say "MEN, DON'T TALK TO ME AT THE GYM, I'M TRYING TO EXERCISE, BACK THE FUCK OFF YOU DISGUSTING PIECE OF SHIT"

Therefore I would not, under any circumstances, approach a woman at the gym.

[Asker]

😅 oh sorry

[Anonymous]

Then you need to go talk to them. Women who use the gym to work out don't like when guys approach them UNLESS we need help. If we need a spotter or Lord forbid we get injured, we absolutely appreciate men coming to us and assisting. Other than that though, women who actually use the gym for it's intended purpose do not want to be approached. So you approach them. They don't need to approach us.

[JPresidente]

I’ve seen tons of TikTok and other videos with women getting upset with men gawking at them and approaching them at the gym so a lot of guys are standoffish as a result. You’re probably gonna have to try a more direct approach and smile, say “hi” pick on them a little or light flirting. It’s the crazy world we live in.

[exitseven]

I would never date anyone from the gym because if it went south I would have to find another place to workout. But I imagine I would tend to be more friendly towards somebody who put in good workouts and did not dress in a skimpy little outfit.

[Chill_Thoughts]

Looks, people are saying there's established things and they are not wrong, but looks don't lie. If I keep catching a girl glancing at me and at somepoint she doesn't look away but smiles, I usually go up to her (if I find her attractive)

[Chill_Thoughts]

It's not staring by the way... It's glancing, people know you're checking them out if they catch you glancing more than once. And if you don't feel confident smiling, read their body language: do they fix their hair, do you cath them glancing as well... Stuff like that might just be enough to give you that confidence boost, in case they haven't approached you yet

[Asker]

How does one look attractive working out?

[Asker]

I get checked out outside all the time but at the gym literally no one looks at me

[Chill_Thoughts]

You sure... Like you try to mind your business at the gym, it's first and foremost a place to workout, not to find a date. But if a girl is hot, you notice her, might have some flashy leggings or nice outfit, but usually you don't need to do anything specific. The thing is guys take notice but most are respectful of you, that's why you need to glance at them first, I'm not saying go up to them, but you have to do that so they know you want that attention.
If after that they still don't check you out, then they're most likely not interested, you're say they're hot, so they might have different taste to the people that check you out outside

[Asker]

So if you're hot and you show them you are interested they will talk to you?

[Asker]

I am also mostly without any make up

[Chill_Thoughts]

If they're interested, probably

[Asker]

If I put on something nice, won't they think she puts to much effort into her looks for going to the gym?

[Chill_Thoughts]

Obviously, don't wear make up to the gym or wear very little xD but don't worry about that, if you ask guys most will tell you they prefer little to no makeup on a girl

[Chill_Thoughts]

Well what I meant by something nice is a nice pair of leggings and a cute crop top/ sports bra. No-one will think you're trying too much if you wear that

[Chill_Thoughts]

Well I don't think we go to the same gym, but I'm sure you'll find some guy there that's into you and will come flirt if you play it right. Good luck!

[Asker]

But what attracts guys?

[FilmGuy93]

Nothing short of her approaching me is going to get me to talk to a woman at the gym. We all have too much personal experience with uptight women telling us we're being creepy. It's easier to just focus on our workout and play it safe.

[Asker]

😔😔😔

[FilmGuy93]

Yup. Modern female attitudes really suck the joy out of life

[Anonymous]

Literally nothing. I go to the gym to work out. I avoid women and ignore them. I’m not going to be another creep, or be used to feed your ego and give you validation. In fact I want nothing to do with you. That’s why I’m in the corner listening to metal and moving iron.

[MountAverage]

For years now women have been trying to establish that guys shouldn't approach women at the gym. So I think it should be the woman doing the approaching at the gym, if she's interested in a guy there.

[Asker]

But I can't i wouldn't know how

[MountAverage]

You're a grown up. You'll figure out.

[jamiexoxo]

How do you like to be approached?

I've always been a bit nervous with the forward method, Is that what you & the majority of females prefer?

[Vasarion]

You might be either too hot (thus too intimidating) or too ugly (thus not worth our time) to approach. You should figure out which. You could try striking up the convo yourself.

[LiamSawyer]

Ask a guy to spot you with the weights and strike up a conversation

[Asker]

Spot with the weights? What does that mean?

[LiamSawyer]

Ready to grab them if you can make a lift so you don't get hurt. usually a barbell press

[LiamSawyer]

Bench press

[Asker]

But won't they think if she needs someone why is she here alone and what if they don't have the time to do that

[LiamSawyer]

It's a normal regular thing people do forveach other when lifting weights it's a safety thing but good opportunity for you to talk to whatever guy you ask

[spartan55]

I thinking power cleans.

[Asker]

Oh ok I've also never done that so would need to learn it first otherwise it will be totally creepy right?

[spartan55]

@asker Spotting someone properly is a safety issue, not a creepy one.

[Pegases]

It's 2022, if you want a guy, go talk to him.

[SiberFox]

Girls are off limits at the gym, the only exceptions are for bad form or asking for a machine/help.

[Asker]

Noooo but who made that rule

[SiberFox]

Other women

[maximumpower]

I wouldn't.
People who are serious about going to the gym really don't like it when others use it as a hook-up joint.
If you're truly interested, catch her in the parking lot.

[Ironic_Method]

No, I'd approach a girl at many places but a gym isn't one of them.

[Texaskid1]

Jiggle your booty and men will line up for you.

I repeat : jiggle it girl.

[Harbringer26]

Extremely clear signals that she wants me to, otherwise you're not supposed to bother people at the gym.

[RandomGuy1030]

In the gym you will have to be the friendly one that starts a conversation. Guys aren't going to risk being thrown out of their gym

[MrTaboo]

Say hi. Ask questions. Start conversations. And guys will do they same

[Asker]

Yeah but I want to be approached not start the convos

[MrTaboo]

Eye Contact, smile.

[DevinAM]

Have you tried approaching one of them? There's a good chance they assume you're taken already.

[Salsalsa2]

Have you tried staring / smiling? Or do you want it to be effortless?

[Asker]

Effortless, staring and smiling seem a little creepy

[Salsalsa2]

Honestly in the gym I wouldn't approach without a clear sign. Men loves to feel appreciated and help out, if you point at your weights or ask directly they will probably help spot you, then go from there.
https://youtu. be/dH6GxMrguH4

[spartan55]

Just sit back and do nothing.

[Asker]

Not working obvsl

[spartan55]

You can't expect to just show up and expect the guy to do everything. That's not how it works, especially at the gym

[Asker]

How does it work then?

[spartan55]

You have to let him know you are interested. And I'm not talking about lame ass staring.

[Asker]

What then?

[Asker]

I can't walk up to someone at the gym starting a conversation

[spartan55]

Yet you expect guys to... so clueless

[Asker]

Yes of course

[spartan55]

Have fun by yourself thwn

[Truthatanycost]

Stupidity.