Work crush who never speak to me, despite being super extroverted, teases other girls in my presence, but we make Intense eye contact. Meaning?

[Anonymous]

I work in a hospital setting. There is a guy at work, I don’t see him very often because he rotates through my unit as well as different units, and also due to shift work. However, over the past year, whenever we work on the same shift in the same department, I feel like we always make brief but significant/intense eye contact. However, apart from a few work-related interactions, we have not really spoken. He is extroverted around others, but when it’s only me and him around he doesn’t speak to me. If there is another girl in our presence he will tease her and have playful banter with her whilst practically ignoring me. Although it does generally probably seem like there’s nothing there, we always make eye contact, and it feels like there is something between us that’s not been verbalised. I don’t know if I’m over romanticising this situation because I have a crush on him, but can someone give their take on the situation alongside any advice. What signs can I look out for from him? How to approach the situation (bearing in mind we are practically strangers, I don’t even know if he is in a relationship status/age etc)

[Anonymous]

He is really into you. People need to stop using logic when it comes to attraction. This is so obvious to me. He does not talk to you because he feels too attracted and that energy is being dissipated through the other girls because he is not interested in them. He also wants you to feel jealous, desire him more and become visibly effected in some way proving you desire him. However, this guy is showing many redflags and is either emotionally unavailable or emotionally tortured in some way. This guy wants you, no doubt, but he will not ever do a thing about it. You shouldn't do anything about it either. The saying 'there is a thin line between love and hate' applies here. He does not like how you make him feel...

I wouldn't recommend peeing in the companies own bedpans...

[Guy13]

Sounds like he is trying to make anyone or everyone jealous. We call that "stirring up a hornets nest". This guy is not serious... don't get your heart set on him !!

[Guy13]

Why doesn't he speak when you are around him? That's strange... I would have to ask him ;-) really... what's your best guess?

[Asker]

No he speaks, but to people other than me (who tbf he knows better bc works together more often). Like he will speak to me but not how he speaks to others. More reserved somehow. I really don’t understand why, because in my opinion I’m an approachable person.

[Asker]

I would like to initiate a conversation just to see if he would be open to it, but I don’t want to make things awkward either because we don’t really know each other. And I wouldn’t even know where to start with asking him something that doesn’t seem too random for me to just casual say/ask him.

[Guy13]

Well, whatever you think is best !!

[Chrysantenum95]

You said extroverted person but dont speak with u and speak with others.. Maybe his just analyzing how he would communicate with.

[Asker]

I don’t see why he wouldn’t be able to speak to me the way he does with the rest. It is kind of frustrating, that he’s able to initiate conversations with others but not me. I just don’t get why.

[Asker]

Especially since we have this strong eye contact, almost like every time we enter a room we know there’s a chance we’ll both be in, we search to find each other’s eyes, even if it’s for the briefest of moments.

[Chrysantenum95]

Maybe try to approach 1st, to clear your assumptions..

[TheNewGeneration]

I'm sorry, but I don't think he likes you. You're probably imagining things because you have a crush on him.

[Avicenna]

Means he's attracted to you. Find a way to start a convo with him.

[spartan55]

So, you think there is something between you and this guy because you have 'intense eye contact' once a month. He probably doesn't talk to you because you don't seem intersted. Like at all.

[Anonymous]

He’s just being a tease.

[Asker]

What makes you say that?…it’s only in my presence that he has banter with other girls, so do you think it’s related to me or I’m reading into it a bit much?