Why would a guy add you on social media after not talking for a while?

[Anonymous]

I used to help him out a lot with studying for tests and assignments and I liked him back then but he wanted to just be friends and then he got sexual a few times and it was unwanted and that threw me off. I told him to stop saying that stuff once and he said that he will, so I then gave him the benefit of the doubt. He then did it again and I didn’t give him another chance, so I ended up blocking him. I would reach out and ask if he was okay (this was 2 years ago) and sometimes he would either be rude with me or be friendly and it felt like I was walking on eggshells. Last year he found my number and he wanted to talk but I wasn’t interested in talking to him at all and then he became rude with me again, so I blocked him and now this year, he created a new Snapchat account. I blocked his other account and I don’t know how he found me because I changed my Snapchat username and my bitmoji is very different and he somehow found me again and added me. For now, I just left him there.

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We used to call each other as friends, but after he became cold I just let everything fizzle out.

[Guy13]

"No hard feeling" Maybe we can reconnect !!

[Asker]

I used to be kind and caring towards him and at one point he really treated me like crap. We used to call each other quite a bit. We didn’t know each other that much, but we did know each other.

[Guy13]

Sometimes people burn brides. It sounds like he burnt this one. There is probably no need to go back in any kind of relationship with one who "treated you like crap."... it sucks though!

[Asker]

We weren’t in a relationship. We were friends, but I wanted more and then he started becoming sexual and I didn’t like that I told him to politely stop at first and he did that more times again and because he didn’t respect that, I had to block him.

[Guy13]

You can't fix that kind of character flaw. Best thing you can do is stay far away. He got pissed when you said no... is that the guy for you?

[Asker]

That’s very true. Only he can fix that, if he really wants to.

[Guy13]

Fixing one's life etc... is AFTER hitting rock bottom. No one truly Fixes for someone...

[Asker]

That’s what I’m thinking. He probably hit rock bottom.

[Guy13]

Nope... you will know if he hit rock bottom. Move on in life please...

[Asker]

I did? I just left him there. I didn’t add him back.

[Asker]

Either way, because of how he treated me previously, he no longer has access to me or deserves me in any way.

[Guy13]

💔💪💪. Be strong because you are accurate ‼️

[Asker]

Thanks a lot! I’ve learnt the hard way. Sometimes the hard way isn’t so bad after all. 😊👏🏽

[Asker]

Quick update. He removed his friend request because I left him there. He just did me a favour! 👏🏽👍🏽

[Guy13]

🎉. He must have been secretly following our Conversation 💪😎💪

[Asker]

Hahaha yes! I appreciate your advice a lot. I’ll laugh if he adds me back. 💖

[20yearsolder]

If I had the guess, I'd say he wants to reconnect

[Asker]

I used to be kind and caring towards him and at one point he really treated me like crap. We used to call each other quite a bit. We didn’t know each other that much, but we did know each other.