Why do men live with thier mom? How do men start life with girlfriends/wife if men are all mommy boys & live with mom?

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I hear so many men are 30 and live with mom. How do girls live with them & have babies have life with a guy if all men are mommy boys & want stay at moms house forever? My boyfriend takes care of mom lives with her. I have 2 guy friends that live with mom they aren’t independent or pay bills their mom pays everything & cooks thier food at age 30. Some time ago I was on a dating app & all men said they live with mom and were 30. I follow one guy lawyer on Instagram & he lives alone has his own Apartment. It doesn’t attract me when a guy says he lives with mom. I understand rent is high but really? Living with mom instead of cutting rent bill with girlfriend or wife? Seriously? Are girls living alone while guy is living with mom? 30 year olds are now acting like 10 years sucking on moms breast playing with toys. No women wants a boy.

TonyV · Accepted Answer

Now it makes sense why you have a hard time finding a man, cause for some reason you have a redicous preference on how they life with there moms.

Not only is it very convenient, shared split up chores and basiclly like having a roommate without the part where you picked some stranger from the internet to live with you.
It's just financially responsible, why in the world should I get my own place? What is the benefit? To impress a girl like you? Any girl more concerned about my living situation than me is a deal breaker.

I make around 500 a week, and where I'm at you really can't find many apartments under 1000 a month so I'd be spending half of my income just to be able to say "I live alone"
I mean technically I do live alone now but the whole point is where men choose to live and our living circumstances are none of your business.

The housing market is completely broken, I make a lot more than minimum wage yet still financially an apartment would be a horrible idea cause apartment prices are simply unreasonable, anyone who can life with their parents should.

I don't know why you can't get along with a guys mom, but if you can't get along with my mom that's a deal breaker, I would never abandon my actual family just to start one with a woman, so right of the bat your giving this "it's me or your mom" ultimatum and I don't do ultimatums.
And let's not overlook your weird, creepy desire to be married and have kids in your early 20s, I would never do that, kids and marriage are suppose to be a life long responsibility and I'm not jumping into that right out of highschool.

Derekk · Accepted Answer

You mention that your boyfriend is currently living with his mom. I'm sensing that this is less of a question and more of a rant or request for validation because you're frustrated that he won't move out.

If he needs to be there to take care of her (as you say), then he shouldn't abandon his mother without care if she needs it. What is your goal here?

BlueScorpio · Accepted Answer

This is mostly a economic problem. Basic living has gotten really expensive here in America and across the world. Rent is out of control in some places like NYC that's charging people 2k to 3k for a single bedroom. If i lived in the NYC, my husband and I would definitely be broke and homeless cause our income combined wouldn't be enough for rent. Then you have gas, utilities, food, insurance that you gotta take into account and with that all added up, it becomes too much to afford.

I stayed home till I was about 28/29 years old cause I just couldn't afford a car or place of my own yet cause I was only part time. Thankfully I'm full time now but even that doesn't cut it anymore for a lot people. Most of my younger co-workers either have 2 jobs or need to live with a roommate to make it these days and if you ask me it's sad. You shouldn't have to work around the clock or be stuffed in one home with multiple people but this is what the 1% is doing to all of us on purpose. Greed is killing us slowly.

Besides that, yes, there are some mamma boys out there who just want to live off mom or being taken care of by a woman. If he's caple of making it out on his own but just doesn't want to try, then that can be a problem when start a relationship. Even if he lives with mom, he can still work, clean, by food, and help out with some of the bills. It's what I did when I was still home.

Aerissa_Jade · Accepted Answer

Up to them if that is how they want to live, their choice... but it shows that if you get together with them, you will be supporting them. As men often say, history and past is a good measurement of how things will be in the future.

It is different though if they have lived on their own and they moved back in temporarily to get on their feet vs. they have never moved out and still living at home.

If they are paying their parents $500 plus a month for rent, that is one thing too, vs. living rent free and having them be your house maid.

BlackBeauty90 · Answer

@sugar100 - not that intelligent are you? It's quite common in Europe where there's still a lot of value towards family. Not something that can be said in North America where cheating, sleeping around, etc. is beyond disgustingly common in comparison.  It's smarter to live with parents nowadays with today's economy. Not only that but it shows they have value to family. Are responsible towards family.  Unlike some fool that lives by themselves thinking cool, yet they live in a pigsty & can barely look after a pet fish nevermind manage a serious relationship or later family.  . As for splitting the bill with a girlfriend - why bother? Many "couples" nowadays are a joke so if a guy gets an apartment with some slut he'll end up saddled with the entire rent when he kicks her useless cheating ass to the curb.

LazerBean · Answer

That's pretty absurd, honestly. Living with a mother while single is a 100x more intelligent and efficient choice than moving in and sharing rent with a girlfriend who probably isn't going to be around in a year or two. All that rent money is a total loss and unnecessary waste of money.

weysally · Answer

that is a very broad statement, a lot of men live at home for many reasons,

1/ cheaper than a flat,

2/ some work very hard and they are waited on by their mother

3/ these men will obey the rules that heir parents lay down, unlike a lot of youngsters

there's more but these will do for now

letuswaltzforthedead · Answer

I dont understand the problem, can't the girlfriend move in with the boyfriend or just take the mom with them if the couple wants to live elsewhere. Now, if you genuinely have a issue with it, you could talk to your boyfriend and let him know its unattractive or something.

I'm curious now lol so I hope I'm understanding the problem. I hope I'm not being rude since that isn't my intention.

Sour-rose · Answer

Well besides it's "my mom is weak, i gotta take care of her" men really DO NOT grow up. And the moms love them so much they let it happen. Therefore, he plays games all day and doesn't pay any bills, try to be on his own and his mom will just let it. Truly a sour relationship that many can't see happening

Apple1996 · Answer

And this is why I married a man that hates his mother. The mamas boy thing is soo unattractive. Only excuse is if they are living with their mom to help them then thats okay but any other reason is weird.

Anonymous · Answer

Because it's easier
They don't and don't want to these days you move in with a girl and violate the MeToo statutes then get executed or you get married then lose everything in the divorce

Soon the elites will separate the genders hence the high profile divorces last couple of years

sage2021 · Answer

When I was only 19 I had a job, a car, an apartment and a boyfriend ho lived at his parents house. Why can't you do the same?

OlderThanILook · Answer

I'd choose to live with and take care of my mom over trying to impress 99.9% of women out there. And my mom was toxic as hell. That just goes to show how nasty yalls personalities are.

BeMuse · Answer

Sounds like your lonely and angry... You should probably look in a mirror and fix your shit before you stroke out.

Anonymous · Answer

Did you ever stop to think maybe the guy is a carer for their Mum? Not all of us women are shallow and think a guy living with his mum is a boy. Geez

Anonymous · Answer

NOT that it's ANY of TOUR business, but my dad died 8 years ago, after bankrupting her of their life savings, then she got multiple life-threatening illnesses and is living on a meagre widow's pension. I am her only child. What was I supposed to do? Let her starve and die?

Before you pass judgment on others, make sure you can pass it yourself.

Ryan1979 · Answer

Both male and female take advantage of having no bills for an extended period of time now days. Which a very small % of young adults being able to afford living by themselves

exitseven · Answer

I was living in a house with two other guys but when i was going to get married I moved back in with my mother to save money so i could buy a house.

Avicenna · Answer

Well, if they had a partner they could share a place with, they’d do it. But it’s harder to get one when you live with your parents.

Tamera952 · Answer

Just because they live with mom doesn’t mean automatically they’re mamas boys.

Anonymous · Answer

Lol, another rant from a woman who struggles to attract a good man so she blames it on men.

If you actually want to have some success with good men, you will need to address the real problem here, which is you.

clampfan101 · Answer

For me epilepsy was preventing me from getting a job until recently. My dad being busy with his job almost 24/7 doesn’t help either.

Juxtapose · Answer

lol what about you? Do you have enough money to live all on your own?

Anonymous · Answer

You're obviously not the brightest star in the sky, girl.

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