I wouldn't call it a breakup because we've never been really together, additionally because its an online story where they live like 3000km away from me. I phoned with them last week as they had a heavy panic attack after I didn't said good morning to them. And they were trying to distract from the essential problems until I squeezed it out of them. They felt insecure about that relationship but wouldn't want to lose me as they love me. All cute so far you might think, when in reality they would never respect my boundaries and constantly ask me about my day even though they knew that I didn't want to talk. They would offend me on the phone for "sparing details" and "lying" after telling them that I had made out with someone else. Lying because, they would label an act of kissing and biting and very lightly touching private parts OVER panties as sex instead of making out. ("Cuz lesbians do that too and its called sexxx"). They would call me all the bad things, existential insults that drill deep into ones skin and then blame it on their brain because "ma brains does thet sometimezz im sawee". Anyways the point is that I had told them over the phone that our lovely online affair wouldn't make any sense anymore since I had nothing left for them, apart from loving them still (in a very platonic way) and that I'd need distance. We haven't talked until today.. They proceeded to send me a very big message (like , 50 cm of phone screen) where they explained why they loved me so much and that they'd still love to proceed talking to me, even as just friends. Another wall of messages including a picture of the parcel they'd send me as a birthday gift. Very sweet I think, but they didn't get my goddamn point of me wanting distance. So I thanked them and then told them, that indeed, I needed distance. They said something like "oh, ok I understand, im sorry. I'll try to get the parcel back then" ? am I too dumb to interpret this?
Bipolar ex-lover doesn't leave me the F alone?
