I started talking to a guy about 3 or 4 months ago. We text sporadically and talk on the phone a few times per week. I've only gone out with him 2x. I wasn't sure how I felt about him, and I don't always have time to see him bc im a single mom, and sometimes I just dont feel well to want to see anyone. So thats why i haven't seen him much. He said i could see him any day of the week.
The first time I saw him, when I left I asked if he could go with me to the gas station so I could put gas, bc it was late. He went inside and without telling me he put $50 in my tank. I was going to pay for it. And then this last time i saw him he gave me a massage bc he knows I've been in pain, and was asking if i need help with any chores or anything. And he said that If I ever need anything he will go buy it for me and bring it to me (which is an hour round trip). And then left $60 on my counter when he left. I noticed after he was gone. I felt really bad the 1st time, so I think that he knew I'd decline it if he tried to give it to me directly. I texted him and asked why he left it, and he said he gave it to me so if i want to buy something for me or my son.
I think he did it bc he knows I've been having health issues lately and haven't been feeling well, and had to spend a lot of money on medical things I needed. And I go out of town next month to my brothers wedding, and I did mention (indirectly) that the cost of it is stressing out on top of my issues. So I think he felt bad about the things im going through right now, and wanted to help. Or I don't know if it its a red flag? by the way im Puerto Rican and he's Honduran (raised there), so I don't know if it's just a cultural difference
I don't know why i feel so bad accepting his money/help. I've always been on my own and have taken care of all of my things myself. So I don't know, I think I just like to feel independent. And I'm not used to anyone spending giving me money. So I don't know maybe im just not used to it
The first time I saw him, when I left I asked if he could go with me to the gas station so I could put gas, bc it was late. He went inside and without telling me he put $50 in my tank. I was going to pay for it. And then this last time i saw him he gave me a massage bc he knows I've been in pain, and was asking if i need help with any chores or anything. And he said that If I ever need anything he will go buy it for me and bring it to me (which is an hour round trip). And then left $60 on my counter when he left. I noticed after he was gone. I felt really bad the 1st time, so I think that he knew I'd decline it if he tried to give it to me directly. I texted him and asked why he left it, and he said he gave it to me so if i want to buy something for me or my son.
I think he did it bc he knows I've been having health issues lately and haven't been feeling well, and had to spend a lot of money on medical things I needed. And I go out of town next month to my brothers wedding, and I did mention (indirectly) that the cost of it is stressing out on top of my issues. So I think he felt bad about the things im going through right now, and wanted to help. Or I don't know if it its a red flag? by the way im Puerto Rican and he's Honduran (raised there), so I don't know if it's just a cultural difference
I don't know why i feel so bad accepting his money/help. I've always been on my own and have taken care of all of my things myself. So I don't know, I think I just like to feel independent. And I'm not used to anyone spending giving me money. So I don't know maybe im just not used to it
