Should men protect women?

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Lliam · Accepted Answer

I think that's their job. A man's family or partner should be able to depend on him for protection. If he can't keep them safe, what good is he? If he's an upstanding man, he'll help others, too, when needed. You don't need to be a professional cop or firefighter to do the right thing.

It makes me feel really good when I know my woman feels safe and secure when she is with me. I love when she snuggles up against me when we are walking or sitting somewhere. I love it when she slips her little hand trustingly into mine or looks up into my eyes.

So, yeah, I protect my woman because it feels good and because it's the right thing to do.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Not needed anymore ☺️

Anonymous · Answer

That depends. Is that woman willing to blindly follow that man and trust his instincts as a protector? If yes, than absolutely. If not, absolutely not. I will give examples..

1. My ex of 7 years. I only stayed with him because I felt it was the right thing to do, being I had children with him. He did not protect me and I did not want him to. I did not trust him to lead me, protect me or provide for me. I was capable of doing it myself and did so every single day because I knew he was incapable of doing any of those things for me, despite him often trying. He was not a good man and he was not a good leader. For those reasons alone I could not allow him to protect me, because his idea of protecting meant physically fighting and acting out violently.

2. My current fiance. I follow him blindly, no questions. This man has given me no reason to doubt his capabilities or given me reason to question his motive. He defends me, protects me, provides for me and always has my back. I know standing beside him that any harm that were to come me and my children's way would be 100% taken care of by my fiance and it would never, not once, be used in harsh words against me. I trust him to protect me and he exceeds my expectations.

With any sort of protection there must be trust. Without trust, protection is useless. Take for example that video that was just released to the public sometime last year (I believe). The one where a man approached a woman who was being harassed by another man and acted as though he was with her to take the harassers attention from the woman. It worked but the woman was not grateful because she did not trust him. In fact, she was shown in the video yelling at the man who potentially saved her from being raped/kidnapped because she thought he was creepy to pretend he was with her.

hIopinionated_ · Answer

Thoughts that I have because on this question truly annoy me. It’s like a sadden reality check

The facts are that, yes, women are strong. We can think for ourselves, manage money, invest, think critically, have common sense and logic, succeed in our work, understand we deserve respect, raise children, do construction, make laws, etc. However, we are 100% vulnerable to society, the world, walking out of our homes, BEING in our homes, shopping, out eating, clubbing, etc. The reality of that is truly depressing

Do i believe men should protect us? I’m indifferent about that. It isn’t as if I wanted to be born a woman to be vulnerable and at the mercy of men. I would have much rather preferred the opposite.

Overall though, it shouldn’t be a man’s responsibility, obligation or any of that sort to care for my and other women’s well-being at the hands of violence caused by men. And even if I did feel a guy should step in when a man is beating a woman in public (or anywhere), I won’t count on it. I’ve seen too many times in public, social media, whatever, many men hating women, even loving when a woman is beaten up by men. Feeling that just because women can vote, say no to sex, argue, push back against sexism, etc we somehow deserve manhandling and or death

As a pessimistic, I have no hope that the majority of men respect women let alone want to protect us. And genuinely not because something is wanted or valued about her

The reality is being a woman and understanding the cold hard truth of the world is depressing and I’ll rather much pretend the world doesn’t suck too much

Qdbrown · Answer

In the old days many men would die to save any woman. The ones who wouldn't were branded cowards.

Many guys, especially the ones who are running low on testosterone, are losing their need to be the strong provider/protector traits.

Other guys are starting to question the need to help anyone. Especially in an age where some women say, they don't need no man.

Speaking to reality, there are people among us, often men, not that there are exception to a rare woman, who will unquestionably put themselves into danger to help anyone, at a moments notice, to help even a stranger who hates them.

Essentially the tribe mentality of we are here to help each other is going away, and many people feel and expect others to live on their own islands so to speak even being in close actual proximity, and if they cannot think ahead of enough to prectect themselves, if the authorities, who are beginning to dwindle in number, are there to help them, you are essentially on your own.

globetrotter22 · Answer

Most men are instinctually more protective of women.

This is one of the reasons the US military resisted putting women in combat roles for a very long time. They ran psychological studies about how men react when they see a woman injured/killed in combat vs how men react seeing other men being harmed. Men react differently when they see a woman hurt and it breaks up teams.

This is an unchecked privilege women have in society. Yes they face special (usually sexual) threats given their gender. But other men men are much more likely to react quickly and vigorously when they see a woman harmed vs a man. Not that we don’t care about seeing innocent men being harmed. We absolutely do. But at a chemical level we more protective over women.

Does anyone remember the Chibok schoolgirls kidnapping by Boko Haram in Nigeria? Do you know why it got international attention? In the past boku haram would terrorize local villages and murder young boys but left young girls unharmed and just said “be good wives to your husbands”. That never got international attention because that was men getting murdered. So boku haram changed strategy to get more attention and kidnapped girls instead. It worked.

Chazmatazz269 · Answer

There are states with laws that require it. In Michigan, for example, a man was jailed for not protecting a woman he didn’t know from being beaten by another man he also didn’t know. It gets better. Dude ‘A’ goes to the ATM. Chick waits in line behind him and as he turns to leave the machine, she pepper sprays him and jacks him for his cash. Dude ‘B’ is waiting nearby, apparently an accomplice, but he jacks the chick for the loot. She fights back but gets trounced. Meanwhile, dude ‘A’ calls the cops. When they arrive, dude ‘B’ is gone, chick is lumped up and out cold. Cops ask dude ‘A’ why he didn’t stop the beating. He explains she had just robbed him and he didn’t want to get involved. Dude ‘A’ went straight to jail, did not pass ‘go’, did not collect $200. Ell oh ell!
After getting violently robbed by a woman, a man was still required BY LAW to defend her against another violent attacker. You can’t make this stuff up.

MrOracle · Answer

Yes, they should. Having said that, men, especially when they DO protect women, should be respected for doing so, and too often, that doesn't happen anymore - and it's not just women who aren't doing so, as there are men who don't respect this either.

It takes a lot to literally put your life and health at risk to defend someone else, especially if it's a stranger, but that's what builds and keeps a society worth having. When people are dismissive of those who do this, whether they're cops or firefighters or EMTs or security or just some person on the street, that's very literally damaging the fabric of society, and we all suffer for it.

cth96190 · Answer

Protect those strong independent women who do not need or want a man; who would destroy our lives via a false rape or sexual-harassment complaint, or in a divorce court; to whom our mere existence is offensive and a symbol of oppression?
Why would we protect such a person?
She would stab us in the back after we had dealt with the threat to her safety.
As a former soldier, I know how that dynamic works, on a societal level.
It makes no sense to put ourselves at risk to defend someone who hates us and has been filled with a Feminist desire to do us harm.
Walk away. Let it happen. Let women experience for themselves how little they need us vile patriarchial oppressors. 🤣

Anonymous · Answer

If they want to. I grew up thinking yes that’s what we should do but nowadays you don’t know if you’ll get in trouble for doing so. A lot of women say they don’t need a man, we’re equal, we’ll let them protect theirselves. I’m not protecting some stranger if it means my life. People can think what they will, but I’m protecting my family who consist of mainly women. Those are the women I will protect by keeping myself alive, not some other female who can continue to live her life w her man while my family is w out me. I use to be old fashioned as they say in regards to women in general. Nowadays I’m just like fuck them let them be equal as they wish. Course there’s no equality when it comes to selective services.

MCheetah · Answer

Only if they're grateful for it and actually appreciate men's existence. So many modern Western women nowadays don't, and hate men. So if they're being mugged or raped in an alleyway somewhere, "Not my problem, remember? 'You don't need a man saving you,' you said."

Hanrej · Answer

Well, in a sense we're obligated to as we're called to war if ever there was a threat. Most of the genderspecific benefits and protection systems that exists for women like womens shelters and what not are supported by tax payed for in at least equal part by men. Then if we're discussing economy most of the food stuff and housing are produced by men and made available to women so you could argue that men are through system put in place to provide everything a woman needs to survive and live well.

However, if men were just to leave women alone, keep from bothering them and make themselves a threat I don't think men should have to actually protect women from anything.

rtj1211 · Answer

I don't think men should protect misandryst feminists. They made it quite clear to men that they are superior beings, so if they suddenly get unwelcome attention from a drunken lout, they can handle it themselves.

For those women that value masculine traits, and want a man to protect them if and when necessary, then it is in a man's self-interest to protect her if he wants to have a successful, loving long-term relationship with her.

Googlemyahoo · Answer

My wife started a mini revolution at 8 months pregnant.

Went to watch The Dark Knight, 10 min in and fire alarms start going off. Everyone rushes outside freaking out because there was that mass shooting.

Firemen arrived went in and as they left explained it was just a popcorn machine setting off smoke alarm. An employee comes to the door and apologizes saying they’re just going to close. Everyone standing around starts to get vocal.

Suddenly my wife barges passed the employee through the door. I’m standing off to the side thinking wtf? Everyone, like 4 theaters of people follow my wife back inside.

She goes up to the desk where this young kid is and starts banging the table I WANT TO SEE MY MOVIE OR GET MY MONEY BACK NOWWW!

All the people around shouted YAAAHH!!

They let everyone back in and before it started back up people clapped for my wife.

They don’t need protection

letuswaltzforthedead · Answer

Maybe Their wives/girlfriends and family but beyond that, it depends. I've seen a bunch of videos where men end up with serious injuries just because the women decided to start unnecessary trouble.

Anonymous · Answer

I can't speak for all men, although I think the opinion I'm going to share does reflect that of most men today. What I hear from most women is a parroting of the "I can take care of myself and I don't need a man", or "a woman needs a man like a fish needs a bicycle" messages, which has kind of made most guys have a go-fuck-yourself-then attitude about protecting women. The fact is many/most women just don't respect or appreciate men in general these days. I'll protect the women who care about and appreciate me, and the rest can go fuck themselves as far as I'm concerned.

Aerissa_Jade · Answer

Men do protect us from other evil men, as most the evil done to women is from men throughout the world. It only takes small percentage of bad men to do all that pain and suffering though, while the other 95% do either nothing or try to protect us.

Women though are not defenseless and should not rely on men, should do what they can to protect themselves.

Also you can only pick two MHO for each question, regardless of gender... looks like you picked two men and then your done.

Pinay_ako · Answer

We should protect each other. If my man is in danger, all 4’11 of me will jump a mf if I have to to save him!

TroyDT · Answer

Depends upon the context. I will defend my female friends (I have no living family), a little old (or young) lady (of guy even) who is being mugged but a random who is being obnoxious, violent, or instigating? Would only even consider it if I think she is in danger of being killed. Otherwise I would leave her to suffer the consequences of her stupidity.

DaveJord · Answer

I think everyone should protect the ones they love... it comes with the territory, if not you only love yourself more then the rest.

Now when it comes to complete strangers I don't protect a women just because she is a women, but I assist those that are actively defending themselves or in need or in a situation that I know can aid them with.

Man or women I am not going to let some bully just walk over someone just because they think they can.

Kreneman · Answer

Yes because it's in are nature plus this is why we are rough, tough, hard, and strong. Furthermore, it's important to learned the will that we have as men to protect women and others.

Dreamclouds · Answer

There is no should here... but it comes as a natural instinct since women tend to be weaker physically, sometimes even mentally. From my experience they are also more dreamy generally, men are more practical so they would be more aware in dangerous enviorments or when danger is behind the corner, methaporically sometimes even literally.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes and no. It is always in my nature to feel compelled to. But that's something I've had to "un-learn". a lot of women will actually get mad at you for trying to protect them. It's a f***ed up world. Basically I look and see, for example if a woman is being slapped around by a guy. And she is giving back just as good as she's getting, then I don't get involved. Because this is normal for them.

BrickBiggems · Answer

Are we allowed to anymore? Last I checked being nice or helpful to women is considered benevolent sexism.

Dinklex3 · Answer

I think that people should protect and take care of each other in general.

Sour-rose · Answer

Nah, could be protecting a pedophile for all we know.

BlueScorpio · Answer

I still see men protect women who they know and don't know.

dustybiker · Answer

Depends. Hospital stays can lower the amount of nookie he’ll get if he doesn’t protect her.

Jackblue · Answer

It is difficult for us, especially when it is about protecting women from other men. If we intervene we are afraid you will say "I can take care of myself, stop patronizing me." If we ignore it you might say "How dare you be complicit in the patriarchy."

TonyMetal___86 · Answer

In general yes, only the real sweet ladies who have a lot of respect for men...
When it comes to husband and wife than it's his role to protect his wife cause he is her life and he's responsible of her!

Anonymous · Answer

Yes they should, but if you're a women you need to be able to protect yourself because a lot of the time no one is going to be coming to save you. Check out this playlist

Ghostluck · Answer

Any real man would protect his woman. Only your thug boys and losers would leave them to fend for themselves.

For example:

You have boys who will dump their stash in his woman's purse when pulled over by police, allowing her to take the fall for it. Not a man...

A real man would own up to his own shit and protect his woman.

That is just a very minor example, that can get way more extreme.

msc545 · Answer

Protect yourselves. I am not risking my safety or well-being to protect people who could not care less about my well-being.

Jennz6 · Answer

Yes, I love ❤️ it when I am being protected 🥰

Einzelgeist · Answer

It's a basic social contract, YES! Men should protect women but women should provide men emotional comfort. Let the genders work where they are best.

jennifer_bloom · Answer

I believe protection is voluntary, just like kisses and smiles are voluntary. But a girl has a right to dump a guy with no protective instinct.

OlderThanILook · Answer

Only if there's a reason to. I can't get behind the idea of protecting a woman that doesn't appreciate it and will probably turn around and make fun of you afterwards.

Deed211 · Answer

@missgingles Well that depends, I'm double cheeked up like kim Kardashian. Should girls protect me? here's what I mean:

Ins0mn1a · Answer

It is true that a man must protect his wife and children. but most importantly we all have to protect each other..

RiseofArtemis · Answer

Nah we have equality now, they can protect themselves if they are single and only if they are in a commited relationship a man should do his natural duty.

Anonymous · Answer

As women are now equal to men give me one good logical reason why men should today go out of their way to protect women?
They have more protections under the law than men do, they do not do the dangerous or dirty jobs that men do, they do not commit suicide at the rates men do, I would go on but why bother.

Anonymous · Answer

If you're like me, I'd say yes. If you're a leftist piece of shit feminist, who believe men need a man like a fish needs a bicycle, then they aren't worth protecting.

Ms_Facesitter · Answer

We should protect eachother in the best way we can.

SomeJokeTeeth · Answer

No, not without reason. I am not about to jump head long into a fight I had nothing to do with just because one of those people happens to be a woman.

HighValue · Answer

Only if it is someone they know and really care about and she is good to him.  They should make a point of never protecting feminists. Let those ones fend for themselves.

Hardworkingguy · Answer

I believe that when you love a woman you want the best for her. I wonder if women mind being protected

KrakenAttackin · Answer

Protect women from what? Their own bad decisions?

Kaneki05 · Answer

Nope. People should just protect people. Gender and Sex and Race shouldn't ever become a topic of issue in that.

YollyM · Answer

The real question should be,  "Should men hurt women?" No , so that the good men don't carry the "burden" of protecting women.

EmmaMary · Answer

It's certainly a very nice reassuring feeling, which I feel sure works both ways.

bubblegunnn · Answer

Hell yeah baby thats what i love and it sweet.. ill take care of him as return

Bluemax · Answer

People should look after each other and defend one another.

Midgetmcwidget · Answer

My man I has been protecting me, a debt a gratitude

Vegasrunner · Answer

Men should pick and choose when to protect women the same way women pick and choose when to provide sex to men.

Rockstarrrrr · Answer

Yup of course... glad I don't think like most guys nowadays lol

CallmeTheKnight · Answer

A man should always protect his woman. I'm not protecting or helping a woman I don't even know unless my gut says otherwise

Straight2thepoint · Answer

Yes, at all cost. They are the reason of existence to many.  If the ABC community was a thing before women. Our existence would of been short.

HippieVeganJewslim · Answer

Definitely! Men protecting women, men protecting men, women protecting women, and women protecting men are all necessary. Don’t forget the non-binaries! Together We stand, divided We fall.

RavVid · Answer

I have saved a few girls but I am not going to let a girl get me into a fight.

Berethor · Answer

Captain sweden would protect you from rapefugees. :)

NottaNatty · Answer

Yes instinctively it is a a mans job to protect and provide for his woman and children. Likewise protecting others.

Anonymous · Answer

Family , close friend for years , girlfriend , yes. Random girls or new friends, never. Last time I did it was a trouble , she was pressing false rape charges on another guy.

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