Be real: why is my partner bullying me like this?

[Anonymous]

Whenever we get into arguments lately, he likes 2 point out the inequity in the relationship. He likes 2 point out what I get away with that he can't. No clue where this concern comes from b/c I don't ask for much in the relationship. He admitted that this is a trigger from his past romantic relationships & yet its still an issue now.

1hr ago, he gets upset after I cut him off in the middle of an organic convo correcting him on something that he wasn't knowledgeable about. He thought that FIFA is the American organization regulating solely American soccer, when it's MLS smh. Then he fixates on me interrupting him instead of admitting his ignorance on the subject. He doesn't like 2 admit that he's wrong. He likes 2 hang-up abruptly &/or talk about how he needs space after he spews his 2 cents on why I've upset him then hangs up.

He admits that he is stubborn & petty @ times. Whenever he does annoying things like cut me off mid-convo, I tend to let it go but it's like he can't. Sometimes I get the impression that he thinks that I have the upper hand in the relationship. He always finds ways 2 call me out on stuff like my diction and pronunciation. He likes 2 poke @ my knowledge & intelligence. It makes me feel small & beneath him @ times. I don't know what I'm doing wrong especially when I assume a submissive role by choice.

FYI: We're currently in a LDR due 2 school/work. In a serious courtship. He works 4 a local government w/ plans of becoming a mayor/governor/state rep & I'm getting my medical degree. He's shy of a decade older than me. I'm taller than him by 5 inches. He is more emotional/secretive preferring 2 cope alone & then move on. I am more transparent/logical mental space preferring 2 talk things through & then move on. When he's upset, he's very intimidating & yells @ me but calls this passion. He uses grandiose verbiage 2 throw jabs @ me & low-key expects me 2 get on his level before accepting whatever issue I have w/ him.

[Flunkerdunk]

He is bullying you because you are taller than him, younger, and you correct him. If what you are saying is true, it literally has nothing to do with you and everything to do with old school societal standards.

He could also be narcissistic due to the kind of job position he is "shooting" towards. He may not be able to comprehend that he can be corrected by a younger "girl". I'm curious as to why and how you two even got in a relationship (You being taller and younger).

All that being said, how you socially correct a man that is obviously damaged from his last relationship matters, too. I only know your side and not entirely his side. The fact that you mentioned you are taller than him and younger than him makes me wonder if that got brought up before in an argument, but that is just a possible assumption...

Regardless of whatever the case is, words and how you convey information to each other is everything in a long distance relationship. All you really have is communication and your imagination. You have the added bonus of visualization with webcams, but the communication point still stands (along with body language and if this guy is getting into upper level politics, that will be a huge point to consider.)

"A soft word turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger." -- Proverbs 15:1

(Also avoid ever using height in an argument, unless you want to breakup within that same month lol)

[Anonymous]

Why are you wasting your time in this toxic, dysfunctional, ego driven and low vibrational 'relationship'?

Life is far too short and important to spend a second around anyone that is not trying to bring you up and move you toward ascension. But your mention of a medical degree suggests you are unaware of the true nature of much, or perhaps turn a blind eye to it. Therefore your partner is bullying you because this is his nature due to his vibration. He will only bring you down, never up and you will do the same in different ways. In short, the both of you will bring each other down keeping each other where you are... away from ascension.

[FilmGuy93]

Why on Earth are you with this person?

[Asker]

Very good question. I fell for what now feels like a facade.

[FilmGuy93]

It should do a lot more than feel that way

[Guy13]

No offense intended but it seems like it is two hard-headed and stubborn mules going after one another.-This is difficult in person especially when both i have to be pointed out right whether it is a positive (something good) or negative (others errors/failures). Certainly Distance, no time in each other present both compounds frustration and need for emotion/touch. What do you think is going on?

[Asker]

Oof. I think he's insecure and immature about who he I'd so he's projecting to someone close to him: me.

[Guy13]

To me, the blame game is never effective. It is always two-way street and I know, at 36-45, I do not have to tell you that. Sometimes, it is Narcissist (12-15 child in adult body) verse Narcissist (12-15 child in Adult body)... sometimes it is Narcissist and feeding victim.
Pretty much, unless God is in it, LDR do not work. Why don't you guys use that Time apart to relax relationship? Obviously, there are too many stressors and they are compiling and compounding. You care so what is your Plan? or you two Plan?

[spartan55]

You have the 'playing the victim' thing down perfect. If you are going to say he is bullying you than agree that you are bullying him too. You both sound like royal 👑 pains in the ass.

[Asker]

Perhaps I'm better off alone and miserable.

[kespethdude]

The guy sounds like an imbecile to the extreme, and a narcissistic one at that. I strongly suggest you kick him to the curb and warn your friends about him.

[RavVid]

I think he has problems and that is all you need to know.

[Asker]

Well... you're not wrong?

[Anonymous]

Damn I read this thought you two were like in your 20’s. Never mind.

[Pleaznhim4me]

Probably ready to dump you.

[Asker]

Possibly. He's doing a really good job at pushing me away. I could beat him to the punch.

[MiseriaCantareAFI]

He a trump supporter?

[Asker]

He's not actually.