Sorry I’m a little in my head so this might sound everywhere
My close friend of 4+ years who was also my ex in high-school admitted he loved me. He said he didn’t want to make anything weird between us, I encouraged him to speak & he said he loves me & (for lack of better words) we’re on our own wavelength/vibe & it’s something that could only form and grow after years of knowing someone etc. I admitted the same but honestly where do we go from here? Should I push or just let things go & their own pace? I’m scared if I do to little or too much it’ll ruin everything & I’m also wondering if men usually say that first or not really?
It's irrelevant whether guys or girls say love first. Hopefully, both feel safe enough to openly share their true feelings.
The problem I see is one that is common with most everyone, and that is the vague/general terminology being used. Without seeing the picture in his head, you're left with making assumptions what love means to him. Ask him to define love and share what he sees in you he's connecting that label to. He's talking about feelings growing, so ask where he sees it growing to or where he'd like to see it growing to. It's perfectly fine for you to share what you see in him and how it impacts you, even if you might not be sure you associate it with the concept of love. You can discuss this concept of love and see how the two of you may be similar or different. Communication is what is important here, not any label anyone puts on anything.
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Who says it first is a crapshoot. but you both admitted it, so do couple things, cuddle, makeout, ask personal questions, etc. hold off on on sex for a while if you or him feel unsure about anything. Otherwise just hang out as per usual.
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Rare…very rare. We never do that. Enjoy but don’t push. He will shut down if you demand and demand until it is a Job.
it depends. But if you’re wanting to get back together. You never know unless you try.
I definitely would, but some guys are just to shy to ask first.
Push for something more?
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