By handle i mean if someone was to start a fight or pull a weapon. Is that your first thought upon entering a room?
my boyfriend thinks this is normal for men, i just wanna know
So he's a traditional guy & not one of these soft super metrosexual modern dudes who claim it's paranoid to defend yourself/your woman. They probably have one of those panic alert necklaces they can press the button on if somebody is kicking their azz.
Of course, I'm always ready because I have been in situations and 'near' situations in my life. I think the people who claim it's paranoid or psychotic to be ready need to go take a vacation in NYC and show the locals how there's no reason to watch your back. See how it works out for them. These people who say there's no need are living in la la land from my POV.
Some of my relatives have actively stopped armed robberies too. They didn't just sit there like a sheep or use their wife/girlfriend as a human shield.
The thing about life is if you get attacked when you're not ready you're probably dead or in the hospital for weeks/months. No thanks to that. Crime rates are rising all over the place.
So decide... do you want a boyfriend who is a protector or one who needs you to protect him. Your choice.
Yes. I scan for exits, do a head count, and I sit where I can see the entrances. I sit on the outside and put her inside so any threats have to get through me first.
In any situation where there is a possibility of danger, I walk her directly to the car and put her inside before I get in. When walking outside, she walks on the inside (away from the street) and a half step in front of me so that I can better shield her from any threats.
This is all just automatic for me - I've spent lots of time around drunk people and in high crime areas and while I rarely get messed with, I don't like to take any chances.
I've also had years of shooting experience, as a competitive shooter for a couple of years and as an instructor. I take security seriously.
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Nope, I don't. I used to think like that but I don't anymore. If anyone pulls out a knife (or even worse a gun), then "god help us" (I know there is no "god" but I just wanted to make a point. Your boyfriend thinks like that because he needs to be a "super human" that will protect his girlfriend because else girls will not want her. Continuously checking other men and thinking like you have to feel stronger in any case and see everything competitively and having your survival instincts always up, is the worse way to live...
No I don’t. I may asses the place as far as where the exits are in case something seriously bad happens especially if I’m w my loved ones. But for me instinct would just kick in, especially since I spent 10 years in the military. Now if some shady character walked in I may observe them for quite sometime. Asses the situation as far as does he have a knife, what kind clothes, etc. I tend to sit against the wall so I can observe everything. I may take note of people who look like they could be trouble, but not to the point of going through a whole scenario in my head.
It depends on the location and the type of people likely to be there. I am big, strong, know how to fight, and am always armed whenever I even go out my front door so I don't worry too much about it or think about it too much unless I know I am going to a risky area.
I did grow up in a gangland area in CA though with shootings every week in my neighborhood so that may have affected things. Plus there is still lots of crime these days depending on what city you live in.
I don't consider the type of violent incident important, but I always know where the exit is, and the fastest way to it. Wherever I happen to be, I am in the constant state of 'yellow'. Those familiar with situational awareness know what I'm sayin.
No, I didn't grow up in a war zone. Sounds like your man hasn't been playing enough video games. Better to get those impulses out safely.
I do this, but it's a PTSD response. It's not normal to my knowledge.
No, I’m way too tired to fight people. I just look for what I need and go there and get out
Your boyfriend has issues.
You may want to consider promoting him to ex-boyfriend.
I am still a little paranoid when I go in a public restroom. Old habits die hard.
Not true! That happens when people want to show off. That's when they start creating scenarios and what they would do in that situation.
Your boyfriend is either paranoid or a psychopath.
Lol. Never had such shit thoughts. Probably he's playing too much video games
I dont have worries about that. If it happens, so be it
Nope. I'm not Jason Bourne.
Perhaps subconsciously, but not actively.
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