A young college professor is a bit flirty.. I think I know why?

[Anonymous]

I used to have his class but I dropped it for other reasons.. I notice that a lot of girls in the art building like him.. he is a very cool and nice guy but I think he does give off some flirty energy towards some females… I noticed he lets students follow him on his instagram but he doesn’t follow them back (odd)

I think he “flirts” act flirty to get more insta followers for his art page. Even tho he is already a pretty accomplished artist..

i almost fell for it.. I didn’t like him but I thought he did have a genuine attraction towards me.. kind of stings

[Anonymous]

It's not odd to not return follows.
He's the teacher they are the learners.
Moreover, he's the one with the high SMV (sexual market value), and not reciprocating a follow is one of the ways that's underscored.

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Nothing would sting, if you didn't like him and hoped he would have a genuine attraction towards you.

[Asker]

Yes it stings bc I thought it was genuine.. and I’m scared to follow him bc he may not follow me back

[Opinion Owner]

Just be slightly flirty towards him, and find out what lies behind the doubt you have.
It's a nervous energy saving way.

[Asker]

He has shown signs of attraction towards me but I remember when I wore a dress on my birthday.. (not short or inappropriate) I usually dress down in simple wear but when I wore the dress he was intentionally avoiding me

The energy was different that day.. total opposite for how he was before.. I thought maybe it was rejection

[Opinion Owner]

When you wrote "how could someone know if it’s genuine? And ALSO why doesn’t he settle even if the girls are perfect", was it this professor?

[Opinion Owner]

At any rate, I wouldn't assume the dress was the reason for his behaviour that day.
He may, for instance, regard birthdays, or dressing different for one's birthday, as silly.

[Asker]

No different post

[SnowedIn]

Speaking just to Instagram following part -- that actually makes sense. He can't stop students from doing whatever they want to do on social media but he can stop himself and his college/university probably has rules about that stuff.

The insight about flirting for followers is pretty good though.

[Asker]

Yeah but he does follow some students back! He follows the students who he’s cool with (prob doesn’t flirt with) or serious about their art work.

All my friends follow him but he doesn’t follow any of them back. I low key really want to follow him just to see if he would follow me back but it feels like a trap

[SnowedIn]

Thank you for MHO!

[spartan55]

And why was it you thought he had genuine attraction for you?

[Asker]

Because I’m human and it felt like it

[spartan55]

So, because YOU think it then it means he was attracted... 😂 Please keep talking...

[Asker]

Go have sex or something

You need to get laid

[Asker]

Instead of being in errbody and they mamas business

[spartan55]

That's funny coming from someone who has never had a boyfriend.

[Asker]

Who told you that? I’ve had 4

[spartan55]

Online relationships don't count.

[Asker]

Says who?

[spartan55]

Because they aren't real?

[Asker]

You aren’t real. How bout that?

[spartan55]

Right. I'm actually your subconscious talking.

[Asker]

Mmm no.

[spartan55]

Well, something needs to bring you back to reality.

[Asker]

You weren’t there so it is my reality

[spartan55]

And there it is... YOUR reality...
Here's the thing, I know you can write detailed examples of things very clearly. Your writing shows that. However each time I ask for specific examples of him showing attraction to you, you can't/won't do it.

[Asker]

So him showing jealousy isn’t attraction?

Him looking numerous times even in group settings isn’t?

Him purposefully coming to where I am isn’t?

[spartan55]

Showing jealousy how? A look? Could have been lots of things.
Looking at you... really...
Purposefully coming to where you are... like class?
I'm really trying to be a jerk here, but what you are describing is not attraction. Besides, he would have interacted with you on a more personal basis if he were attracted to you.
Finally, WHY haven't you moved on from this? This is absolutely no reason aside from torturing yourself.

[spartan55]

*NOT trying

[Asker]

He couldn’t bc I’m a student … duh
And he was talking to someone…

[spartan55]

Uh, ya... I'm aware of that. I was seeing if you would blow your whole theory apart, and you did.

[Asker]

Again you weren’t there.

I do believe he was being flirty towards me

[spartan55]

I didn't have to be there...😂
So you believe he was flirty... okay, great. Now what?

[spartan55]

So he couldn't flirt with you because you were a student. Got it.
Oh wait, NO, he was being flirty towards me though.
Are you not getting how ridiculous you sound?

[Asker]

I get it Sparty, you are tired of pink anons coming on here to ask dumb questions about guys.. they just want people to validate their feelings..

That is not the case here. I am telling you that I really do think he was a bit flirty.. and my friend even said that he has flirt energy. So it’s not just in my head.

He was a student at my school 2 years ago.. the students he is teaching now were once his classmates so that transition from student to professor may be a bit difficult.. but I genuinely think he did even if he had no plans of actually dating me

[spartan55]

Okay, if it's true, not true... what does it matter now? (or ever really)

[Asker]

I don't know just want validation

But don’t worry I don’t want him. He chose the other bItch… I’ll never come second place. There’s no coming back

[spartan55]

So dramatic 😂😂😂

[Asker]

How?

[Guy13]

Live and learn...

[Asker]

It’s just funny lol

[In_Trance]

not sure what you're asking here