I was reading about a trans man who said that once he 'became' a man, no one ever asked or cared about his well-being anymore, which he took to be a sign that men don't care about other people's well-being or health as much as women do. Why?
We are taught from young that we have to be mentally strong, and the way we are taught to cope is to bottle up emotions and never show them. Problem is, when a pressure cooker gets overpressurised, it explodes or fails. When men get overwhelmed, its not pretty. Yet, we keep the explosion internal because we do not want to look "weak". Because we get judged for it.
Only women, children and pets are loved unconditionally. Not men. Nobody cares. So at some point we come to see that nobody cares and thus we do not bother showing emotions. As a result, we end up reflecting this behaviour towards the people around us, and come off as cold and uncaring.
But, I want to believe that the problem is not that nobody cares about men. Its because we are so accustomed to having a smile even when internally its like a nuclear reactor having a meltdown. So much so that nobody notices when something goes wrong. We need to learn to express our emotions in ways that the people around us can understand and pick up on. That way, not only do they have a way to express concern for our wellbeing, but also a way to connect with our loved ones on an emotional level.
u Unfortunately, as a man in today's society (and possibly in the past; I wasn't there), nobody cares about men's well-being.
Men are expected to be strong, resilient, and tough. We're told to "toughen up" or "walk it off". It's how we're raised, and it's what society expects. It's "normal" for women to discuss feelings, and it's "normal" for men to suppress them.
Men are considered "weak" for expressing their feelings, so if something is bothering us, we suffer in silence. We're conditioned not to seek help, and not to expect any. Nobody asks, because that's just the way it is.
That's why men are four times more likely to die from suicide. It just gets so tough, dealing with things on our own, that we just give up, and end it. Nobody seems to care, so there's nobody to talk to. Many times, that is the first indication that friends & family have that there was a problem.
Mind you, I'm not complaining, or blaming anyone, nor am I suicidal; I'm just explaining why nobody asks about men's well-being. That's just the way it is.
Uhm difficult to say...
I would say some do care... uhm like my cousin never asks me how I'm doing! Never ever but I know he just assums that I will talk to him if something is up.
But then of course if a guy I'm seeing isn't asking, I do take it as no interest cause there I learned, they can ask if they have enough interest!
It's why as a bisexual I'm more drawn to women...
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Well for one it’s our stubbornness. Most of us men keep pushing through life regardless of whether we’re ok or not. Maybe that’s the testosterone or the way were raised. I was taught to be strong, to not cry cause the world will continue to go on w or w out you. To keep pushing, to take care of your family, even if it meant my life. Women on the other hand, could be the same, maybe because of estrogen, or the way they were raised. My sisters were allowed to cry. Kiss their leg if they fell, held them if they cried. Me, just told to knock it off you’re not a girl. It’s not that we don’t have feelings, or that we don’t care about others. Yes some of us don’t. But for a man since childhood our feelings were suppressed, so when it comes to dealing w feelings especially in relationships we don’t know how to deal w them. Easy way to handle it is leave. Plus in society people don’t take men’s feelings or health issues serious. We have a breast cancer awareness month but no testicular cancer month. No charities trying to save men’s balls. Look at commercials. When something happens that can be hurtful or painful it always happens to the man. Let’s say a man falls down the stairs everyone laughs, but if a girl does it damn everyone is worried. Man gets his penis chopped off, lady tosses it in the woods, people laugh. Man chops of woman’s tit tosses it in the woods, everyone’s up in arms. Just look at some commercials sometime and observe these things. There’s been some commercials recently about football. Couple goes camping or something and they forget whatever item. Woman says you said you’d pack it. He says no. She’s throws a red flag and challenges it so they review the tape. He admits I guess I said I’d pack them. It’s always the men who things happen to in commercials. Trust me a lot of us care about others especially me, my brothers. But sometimes too as a man of you show emotion than you’re seen as a pussy.
Because Women naturally care in their roots for people. That's why the nurse squad in Sweden consists of 80-90% of Women.
Men care about this too, but are much more likely to care about things, practicality: Is this working, why is the led not glowing. We're not saving electricity if this is not working... etc etc
And no I'm not stating that Women cannot be like this too, and Men cannot be nurses. But here is a rooted natural order of things in us. We're wired like that from evolution.
We are different, we've done different parts of society since forever, but togheter we make a good party. There is balance.
There is a very big problem with this question as well. Why is it all of a sudden men don't care about other people, and yet he is not getting the same attention as a man, that he used to get as a woman. Doesn't this actually imply that people care more about women than they care about men?
The way men are constantly demonised by various situations, is getting ridiculous.
if there's a problem, men will adress it. if there's no problem, why ask if there's a problem? men are practical. they're not trying to fix a problem that doesn't exist. they fix problems as they come up. it's not like we have to care for babies who can't articulate. we are dealing with other adults who are able to articulate their problems.
i mean if we see someone is obviously sad or depressed or anxious, we ask if everything is ok or what the matter is, because it looks like there's a problem.
It's not that men don't care, it's that a lot of men are never cared for and are not conscious that women like this kind of thing. It takes experience and sometimes to be brought to their attention. Most men will make changes to their behavior if the issue is bright to their attention. Can't stress enough how important communication is. If he doesn't change after you've told him then maybe you should reconsider who you're with.
Men care but the demonstration of it is both more complex and less complex. Also, if we're too empathetic or emotional, we get labeled as "gay" or "simps" or some other term. Or girls call us "too nice" and don't want to date.
Men don't, generally, care about any other man's well-being. Women, naturally, care about others. It's part of their maternal make-up.
If two guys are together and one accidentally gets hurt, the other just might laugh his ass off about it and THEN ask the other if he's okay. If a guy and a girl, or two girls, are together and either one gets hurt, the other will rush to help.
men just don’t care about a lot of things that aren’t pertinent to them specifically. like if someone told me they were gay, i’m not against gay people or anything but i just don’t really care 🤷♂️ it’s like if someone says they like star wars more than star trek it’s like ok good for u lol
Men are disposable and raised/treated as such. Its gotten a little old over the millennia that it has been immediately obvious thatthis is how the world works.
I guess I'm different than other men. I always ask how people are
I would rather someone just be honest. Then say something that seems to mean one thing but be another.
Other way around. No one asked him, so no one asks men. Not uncommon. Barely anyone asks men because men don't really matter. Right? Got to ask the women, some complain when you don't. 🤣
u no idea... I get asked that all the time
by dudes and dudettes alike...
That's cap.
Our family, friends, coworkers, and people that are fond of us will always ask how we are doing.
Because it doesn't matter. Toughen up and get left behind, die, or dont reproduce. The world doesn't need men. Every woman in the world could get pregnant and it would only take 300 men.
Generally speaking nobody cares about men unless we're doing something for them.
Its not that men do not care about other men, Its that No one, Women included, Cares about men. You can disagree all you like but it is the truth. We are the disposable gender.
No, it's just that no one cares about men. Everyone caters to women.
You answered your own Q! They are sentence-filler Qs. Any editor worth their salt would edit them out!
That's quite a broad conclusion from a sample of one.
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