At What Age Men Stop Obsessing Over Becoming Alphas?

[anon1903]

Aka the wolf classification system that's transforming men worldwide into robots, ATM machines, tyrants etc and blaming evolution. If evolutionary perspective is your argument, don't bother.

18+

25+

40s

Um, probably never? Lmao

Wolf classification system is the male equivalent of zodiac signs

[inhua]

it's not really an obsession, more like men taking on their responsibility and fulfilling their societal male role. it may look like an obsession when some of the younger men boast about being alpha but that's not what real alphas do. they let their actions speak for them. not their words.

besides, we need more men to be leaders as opposed to doormats. leadership is often misconstrued for tyranny except one is voluntary and the other is enforced.

for anyone who doesn't believe alphas and betas exist, just as a small sample itself, I'd say go watch any interview with Mike Tyson and watch how calmly he talks and how the interviewers are either nervous or trying to appear as confident as he is but deep down you can tell they are intimidated by him.

[YourFavoriteFriend]

Imagine living to "fulfill" a "role" someone put upon you like a good little boy. And then thinking you'll get the girl and the family of your dreams as a reward in the end. Sorry but I do have some bad news for you...

[anon1903]

@YourFavoriteFriend agreed haha

[inhua]

@YourFavoriteFriend that's the unfortunate truth of this world. not everyone can become an alpha no matter how hard they try, even if society insists on you needing to become one. sure, you can give a middle finger to society and do your own thing but how exactly has that worked out for millions of men?

[YourFavoriteFriend]

Millions of men have not try it. I do try it now. And I'm better than ever! Still have not figure out everything and my life is still on the change but I can say that I'm happy at last!

[Soremain]

I've noticed that physical age and mental/spiritual maturity aren't often related.

But there's also a valid and healthy way to use the term that applies to humans. For example a person A) is unemployed, unhealthy, depressed, has no interests and person B) Has a good job, eat's healthy and exercises, has interests and is driven. Clearly one of them is more "Alpha".

And if that's how you understand the term, you should never stop "obsessing" to be a better version of yourself. The people who wants to be tyrannical are insecure losers trying to achieve power in order to abuse it. But there's nothing wrong with power itself.

[anon1903]

People aren't that black and white, darling.

[anon1903]

I assure you, even the unemployed person has something to look upto

[Soremain]

I was really referring to myself at different times. And yes the unemployed past me had something to look up to, the current me :D And the same goes for this current me. And I hope I never stop obsessing about being more alpha than I'm right now.

[Soremain]

But that's different because my definition is different than what you used.

[anon1903]

You were not beta. You were one dimensional character that everyone eventually forgets and author has to kill on a whim.

[Soremain]

That's the romanticized way of saying it.

[anon1903]

I'm a romantic at heart.

[Soremain]

hah :D Good one.

[mandyfire98]

I absolutely love the zodiac sign comparison. It's so true.

[anon1903]

It has the most votes lol

[mandyfire98]

It definitely needs to. It's spot on.

[anon1903]

Thanks haha

[LazerBean]

It has nothing to do with age, just the individual man.

[FilmGuy93]

There isn’t really an age that kind of behavior stops. It’s more about maturity and feeling comfortable in his own skin

[ArchivalMars2]

I hate to tell you this but what you've asked here is a really stupid way to look at this no offense. The short answer is that there isn't one, there isn't an age when men suddenly stop trying to become "alpha". This is a mentality, and the mentality of becoming "alpha" has very little to do with age and is more about mindset and maturity. There are men of all ages who buy into this concept from early 20s all the way to their late 30s or even 50s, some have done it more recently than others but again doesn't really change the fact that it had nothing to do with age.

[DEondeBeaumont]

I never even tried to. you're looking at too much internet culture. Many things on the internet are bs, and ordinary people dont believe in them.

Please don't spend too much time analyzing the internet because most of it is made by trolls or scam artist dating coaches.

Andrew Tate pays escorts to flirt with him and tries to get men with bad dates to pay for his coaching lessons.

[Looksnicholas]

Yeah I also said 25+ in the poll. At 28 almost 29, yeah it hasn't bothered me, just because I think around 26 I'd accepted being how I am and I'm cool with being me :) 🙂

[Looksnicholas]

It just doesn't bother me anymore but sure like any young guys in earlier years oh def every guy wants to be the guy who gets everything instantly but ah well, we can't all be heroes ha

[Looksnicholas]

Surely by 30 every man realises, yeah look I'm either an alpha or I'm okay with just being another millions or billions of: of regular guy. And that's totally okay 👍🙂👀

[anon1903]

Yeah it's a riot

[DavidRaul]

They never do. These are stupid terms to supress other males because they think they are better but they are not. They are just becoming dumber and dumber. I notice videos recommendation of "how to be an alpha male". Dude just let be a man. Everything else is bullshit. Every person has a different potential.

[SnowedIn]

I love this question! For those who do obsess, if they stop, I'd say late 30s. (Selected 40s as the best fit.)

[anon1903]

Thanks

[Evan64]

I never cared. Because I have autism and a cleft palate... I am barely seen as human. Therefore, it's really not my duty to vote or be concerned with the alpha/beta nonsense. If I don't count, why should it matter?

[anon1903]

You definitely matter as a human. Don't let the haters get you down!

[AdithyaR]

Your last option is spot on. It's literally the male equivalent of zodiac signs. It's very unlikely those guys will grow out of it cause it's the only way they feel good about themselves.

[anon1903]

Thanks, Aditya.

[NathanDavis]

first of all... real men, an actual man never has to worry, or be concerned, never mind obsessed with this online incel dictionary BS

second, there's no second...

just do not confuse real men with these online dummies

[Kaneki05]

Right away if they are a genius most people are not.

[anon1903]

Don't compare everyone with yourself haha

[Kaneki05]

hehe thank you

[es20490446e]

Nothing I do usually is because of me wanting to become anything. It's not about me, but rather about what I want to accomplish. I want the things I do to somehow better than usual, that they are done with grace.

Looking cool as result of that I consider an automatic process which I don't really have to worry about.

[anon1903]

Are you alpha?

[es20490446e]

I'm the alpha and the omega, baby 🤣

In the last three weeks I have been told by a woman that I'm very charismatic, and by a different one that she liked to be as clear minded as me.

Make your own conclusions.

[anon1903]

All right

[Summeroflove]

I don’t know. I find it cringe. It’s more of a individual thing and not every guy.

Just be you. Sure. We should want to improve. But this behavior is silly

[Makeushiver]

There is a brief window between almost death and death that guys vanity is not the foremost thing in the minds of men. Scientists speculate that is the Dilaudid prescribed for pain that cause drastic behavior like shutting up. Scientists again feek that the melodrama of death itself along with full body orgasm that Dilaudid offers is a likely explanation

[ChiTown33]

Sounds like it's just the type of men you hang around with. I've NEVER been this way. Nor most the guys I associate with.

But guys do have a pecking order of sorts similar to women. That's just human nature and will never change regardless of age.

[YourFavoriteFriend]

I was never "obsessed" about becoming an Alpha. Sure, I had some "I want to be the best" in specific things phase but I never wanted to be an "Alpha". So I guess not all men are the same...

[anon1903]

It's good to want to be the best out there.

[JayParris]

I don't think it's an age. It's maturity, intelligence, and attitude. At some point you stop caring how others see you and just live your life how you want. Some people never grow out of it.

[exitseven]

I never bought in to the whole Alpha male thing. I just went my own way and did what I wanted. If somebody wanted to call me a alpha or a beta or even a gamma I could care less.

[xJeremyx]

Boys will never stop obsessing over that stuff. Men do not care. Whats more important is keeping your life in order, and thats that.

[Smoothing]

I wouldn't know because these are actually modern terminologies.

I always say, alpha... beta... My ass. Haha

[slatyb]

That obsession is not universal -- I haven't known any man who talks about it, but I went to college at 16 and I've been in the high tech bubble ever since. It feels like more of an obsession among unsuccessful men.