There is a guy that I like and I believe he may like me too ( there’s a lot of non verbal and verbal signs that make me think that ) but he’s also an extroverted person, so it’s hard to tell if he’s interested or not.
today he was with his friends and he said out loud that he cannot eat brussel sprout anymore because it makes him fart and started making farts noises 🙄. I was just there. The guy is like 39 years old.
He also shared so many deep and personal things that happened to him ( about his family ) , so I’m just wondering if he’s just an over-sharer?
so I’m just wondering if a guy would usually behave in front of a girl he likes or acts goofy? And is it normal to share deep personal things with someone you barely know?
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Sometimes. Would need more signs to know if he likes you - if you interested in knowing that. He may just like to share a lot of his personal information with others as you suggested.
Hi JPresidente , I’m honestly still still struggling with this man. I would love to ask him out but he’s extroverted and a genuinely nice person so it’s hard to tell , and since he’s à co worker , I don’t want to embarrass myself if he rejects me so I’d like to be sure 100%.
Here are all the signs :
When he first met me he was gazing a lot ( locking eyes ). Now he’s all the time he sees me. He’s also Always smiling, a true gentleman. He’s also very caring.
He used to flirt a lot, by complimenting my perfume , by saying that he knows I’m around whenever he goes somewhere.
He touched me once while we were talking.
He also seemed curious about me. He was searching for my name, he asked me personal questions ( where I come from , where my parents come from , why do I eat this and that , etc )
Recently , I wanted to flirt with him so I told him that I find him handsome. After that day , he started sitting closer to me and was more engaged to conversations. But I just thought that day when I called him handsome , he would reciprocate. He just said : aww thats cute !! Thank you !!
He also said very personal things about his life : about his father. And he said some random things like the fact that he’s not married yet and doesn’t have kids yet , and once he was talking about his ex , but insisted they are not together anymore.
He also always or mostly starts conversations and I usually always see him at work even if we don’t work for the same company ( I see him more than other employees ).
So I don’t know if he’s just very nice and an over sharer. I noticed he’s nice and share things with everybody ( but not super personal family stuff , anyways I haven’t seen it )
It sounds to me like he is interested in you based on his behavior. Despite his outward personality it seems to me that he may have trouble flirting with women and using the right approach as evidenced by the fact that he has never been married. He looks at you a lot so there is attraction. He is holding back from going further with you for a reason. He probably has a girlfriend and hides that fact from all of you that see him. He also doesn’t want office gossip by flirting with you in front of the others. This is my best guess.
He may even be secretly dating someone in your office or someone that your office staff knows which is why I think he holds back.
Maybe ! But when he flirted he did it many times in front of other people and colleagues.
Even if he has a girlfriend , why would he be interested? And keep flirting?
Some guys with girlfriends will still flirt with other women. I could be wrong. He may be the type that expects you to make a move and maybe he is single. He might think you’re giving him mixed signals. I’m just speculating 🤷♂️
Thanks JPresidente !! You may be right.
Is it possible with all those signs, he just like to flirt and is not interested? Because I met flirty people and they usually don’t go over the top when they just flirt… but again I’m not sure.
But what do you think I should do?
You are right he could possibly be a flirt and just not go further than that. I think your next play is to dig for information indirectly. Try something like….”so…. what are your plans for Thanksgiving. Will you be spending with a significant other in addition to your family?” Something like that. See if can collect more intel on him. Maybe he has a Facebook or Instagram account too that you could “stalk”.
Thanks great idea !!
No problem. Let me know how it goes. I’m curious now. 😂
Haha lol no problem ! Hopefully things will turn out well.
But to be honest JPresidente, I really found the ‘’ farting’’ joke strange. I mean , I know he’s very outgoing and social, but if you like someone , aren’t you going to behave or be careful of what you say?
Once I remember he was taking about his ex and emphasized in the fact that it was a serious relationship and it wasn’t just a sex thing… and she’s just an ex now. Or… the fact that he has an anxiety attack while driving after fighting with his father … or that if Im stressed , he can make me brownies with weed lol ( we were alone when he said that ).
So I’m just wondering if this is a red flag or a green flag?
I’m going to talk to him today but I’m still perplexed.
He’s just seems to me to be some what socially awkward around women and why would you have an anxiety while talking with your father? Weed brownies too? 🤦♂️😂
Something is just weird about this guy? Do you think he could be gay?
Maybe he is on meds and or does some recreational drugs like weed as you mentioned. Very puzzling 🤔
Lol I thought about the gay thing mostly because he’s very outgoing and didn’t ask me out. But why would he be staring at me when I’m not looking? Or he would reference the fact that he’s not married yet with a woman , or would refer his exes by ‘’she ‘’ .
I also noticed he looked at my body a few times. Besides this , the glare, etc.
I wanted to talk to him today but… there was an issue.
I usually eat between 12 and 1 PM and he usually eats between 12:30 and 1:30 . Before I noticed he would start eating almost in the same time as me ( even yesterday he did that ) and he would also start sitting really close to me ( again like yesterday ) and he’s usually super comfortable talking to me. But today, i don’t know if he was trying to avoid me ( or he was just waiting for his food to get ready ) , but he didn’t pass by while I was eating ( even thought I saw him in the corridor.
Maybe I’m tripping or overthinking ( because I do that a lot ), but I don’t want to feel like I’m stalking him or making him uncomfortable, sooo I think it’s best that I just stop pursuing him and thinking about him.
He could be bi-sexual also but he is somebody that is a peculiar individual. Some things are easy to figure out and other things are baffling to me. If I was to take a wild guess I bet he has a beard, sometimes acts feminine and has some beta male traits. He just doesn’t seem to come across as a manly man. 🤷♂️😂
He’s definitely a beta male because he gets emotional, like gets angry fast ( he even admitted it ) but no, he doesn’t have a beard.
He’s muscular though !
Geez. I think you have the right idea. Maybe step back from this guy for a while and just observe. I'm willing to bet you'll be able to find out more about him from just watching and then decide what you want to do. I wish you the best Lala - Loo!
Hi JPresidente, I finaly had the guts to make a move. I asked him how come a guy like him is single.
He later explained me that the reason he’s single is that he has been hurt before and it’s hard for him to trust anyone. And how now he’s hanging around with the wrong crowd and doing unorthodox things, things that may bother the person he’s with.
He also explained that for him to love someone he needs to have the butterflies, a good chemistry and good sex and unfortunately he didn’t find this yet. And even his ex who was an extraordinary woman didn’t make him feel this way.
He then asked me if I was interested in him and I said yes…
Then I asked why he was flirting and showing all those ‘’ hints ‘’ and he responded that he is just a natural flirt. I told him I felt disappointed by all this.
He later admitted that he do find me attractive, but that’s just the way he is now.
I felt so embarrassed, and my ego is hurt too. I told him I just hope this won’t change anything between us ( since I do see him when I go to work ). He high fived me after, saying it’s ok and not to worry about it.
Anyways … I’m just very sad. I invested 2 months of thinking of him ( and it sucks because he is a really good guy, funny , he’s nice and I do find him attractive ).
It’s sucks
I am so sorry that there was rejection. However, I think you did the right thing and you know where things stand. What you don’t want to do it let him see that it affected you really bad. Keep your head held high and you should be proud of yourself for asking him. Believe or not, that can help you in the future. What you’ll probably now have to decide is how to interact with him going forward. Take the good points of what he said about finding you attractive and flush the negatives.
Thanks JPresidente !
Well it was more than a rejection , he admitted he’s not in the right place with dating and I’m happy he was honest about it.
He could of tried to manipulate me and I’m glad he didn’t do that. It’s still disappointing because It never happened to me before. It was shocking.
Anyways ! I’m happy I got closure. I think I should’ve done it before honestly ! One month ago !
Thanks again :)
You bet. Glad I could help and always around if you need any assistance again. 😎
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