Guys, how many female friends do you have that you see and hang out with almost every day? Is this more than friends or am I reading into things?

[SomeoneUUsedtoKnow]

My best guy friend and I text/talk literally every day and he comes to my house usually 6 days out of 7 if not more. We spend a few hours playing games we both like and watching TV, smoking a little. I get the impression that he is trying to hold back emotionally but at the same time, like how many people does the average guy spend that much time with and not have romantic feelings even a little bit? I know I'm getting feelings, I'm just not sure where he might be. Does any dude out there have any friend of any gender that you casually spend like 20-40 hours a week with?

[SwellStroke]

Not so much now that I am older. However through out my 20's and even into my 30's ti was not unusually to see me hanging out with my friends wives while they were working, or on a trip somewhere etc.

Why not just be blunt and ask him if he views this as only a friendship or if he was perhaps looking to move past that stage, where the two of you are hanging out that much, and you are starting to have your own feelings rearing up, the earlier you find out the better it will be. Especially if he isn't feeling the same, it could actually save a friendship at the least.

At least that is how I would think to go about the situation. While drawing from my past experiences in similar situations.

[Wisdom-Strength-Love]

To keep ot real wit you. If you are the one catching feelings, i bet he is open to it, or would be if he knew you were on board. But outta respect , he is happy in the friend zone or in the redzone


And , personally i only have had 1-2 close homegirls who i can hang out with 1-1 regularly, 1-2 at any given time. The women have changed through the years. 6days a week. I dont think a person can have an equal friend because that is damn near the entire week

[FilmGuy93]

I don't have any female friendships that extensive.

[Nahid1707]

That’s good that you two are good
Do you genuinely like him?

[SomeoneUUsedtoKnow]

Yes I do. He is a really genuine person with a big heart, he is fun and funny and adventurous and open to new things. We have a lot of similar interests but he's also introduced me to new things and been willing to try things when I suggest them. And he gets my weird side and is always understanding and there for me when things are rough.

[Nahid1707]

Do you two text often or spend everyday together for example?
Regarding your spending many hours together every week part

Yes similar interest is always good

[SomeoneUUsedtoKnow]

We text every day at least a few times and at least a few hours together almost every day. Like maybe one or two days out of 2 weeks he doesn't stop by for a few, most days we spend 4 or 5 hours playing games and chilling and just talking. Pretty 50/50 as far as who texts first or asks to hang out. He tells me about weird dreams he had or funny moments with his kids (single dad).

[Nahid1707]

i didn’t know that last part
I’m glad you two are good though

Okay you two do spend time in real life too which is good 😊

[SomeoneUUsedtoKnow]

I guess my question is based on all that is it possible he has feelings as well? Or does this describe just really close friends?

[Nahid1707]

Both i would say 😊

I don’t know him personally so i don’t know
You definitely don’t want to lose him i can tell