So I have been seeing this guy for the past 2 weeks. And from what I deduced is that touch is his love language. After a week he took every chance he got whether it's linking our arms or holding my hand and complimenting my nails. U don't mind all that but now it has become rubbing my thigh or pulling me in for a sudden hug even when I put my hand between us for him to stop. U have told him to stop touching me so abruptly with no warning what's so ever and that I would like to try being friends first but it does not seem to get through his thick skull. I told him to stop rubbing my thigh he took his hand off and proceeded to poke me on my leg and laughing. He gets mad when I refuse his offer to buy me things I'm just don't like getting stuff from people in general I refuse birthday gifts from everyone even my family. He then goes to ask y I live my life like that being cautious and not wanting anything from anyone. Getting gifts just puts pressure on me and I don't like people I don't know that well getting into my person bubble at all. It's very unsettling when someone gives me something. We agreed to meet later today I get to the venue half an hour early and he doesn't show up for 2 hours. So I message him. He says he wants me to make me glad I met him and he is at the restaurant we agreed to meet at so I simply left when he tried to stop me. just because I won't accept gifts or money from him he says I must be rich like wth is with that. And I'm not comfortable around him cause I'm scared we barely know each other. Now that I think about it idek ur complete name. I have the guy saved in my phone as the place I first met him. I honestly think this guy is weird and just wants to get in my pants.
Guys, I feel like he's gas lighting into thinking something is srong with me or i'm a bad person or something?
What Guys Said
It seems like he sees you solely as an object without a mind, feeling, and free will to chose and make decisions. This guy has no boundaries and should be stayed away from. These are the kind of people who force themselves and rape. You should stay far away.
As an adult, you generally know by the 3rd date weather or not you want to move into physical connections or not. I'd say that if he's older than you by multiple years and insits on pushing your comfort zone- cut him loose. If you two are the same age or even a year apart and you're uncomfortable with physically connecting with this guy- it could be a trust issue. Run a background search on him through beenverified or a similar service.