So almost time to sleep but I see a lot of people ask "He said (nice compliment) to me, what does it mean?" and so forth? Which makers me wonder... why do we think that the thing we hear has a different meaning to it? I don't know if it's just us ladies who thinks of this or men but I'm seeing both have the same reaction. And now I'm curious, anyone know why we seem to do this with the opposite gender?
Part of the answer (not all, I'm way too clueless for that) is that we're all afraid of rejection. So, we want to get it right with regard to the opposite gender lest we get it wrong and are out in the cold. I think also that humans hate to look stupid/make mistakes. So we want to get that interpretation right the first time. Then, a lot of young kids (middle school, high school) are mean. So they'll make fun of the kid who "likes" another kid. Or a budding relationship. So we overthink it because we don't want to be made fun of. Finally media and social media have given us the impression of suave, chic, urbane, sophisticated men and women who get it right every time. The James Bonds, Wonder Womans, etc. of the world. We're more and more inclined to not want to get it wrong and so we overthink it.
Yeah i used to over think things until talking to female friends (and seeing on here) we are all basically the same.. the second guessing is usually due to a vested interest and fear of being rejected, people want to gather as much information as they can.
I do find talking to female friends that women do analyse things a little more, e. g. the amount of times i had female friends come up to me and say "omg look what she wrote, what a bitch! she knows i want kids and she's rubbing it in my face" and the message is like "Putting the kids to bed then having a glass of wine with the hubby so see you in the morning" :D
Naw it's everyone that does it.
Most people are attracted to the opposite sex only.
So in the back of their head they always wondering if that was flirting.
Are they pervin or are they just being nice.
Are they a potential partner or are they being nice.
If you are not attractive to your own gender. You don't care if they flirting or not, so it doesn't matter, and you don't think about it.
Or you assume they aren't attracted to you because that's how you see your own gender
I think it's less overthink and more self-doubt, and people tell themselves it's anything but the most logical conclusion.
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Because compliments from our preferred sex have more significance than compliments from others. They carry the possibility of something more
It’s a mental issue of some sort or another. It can cause some people to think overly optimistic or pessimistic things. It’s definitely unhealthy but understandable due to the vagueness of our language to perfectly convey intention and emotion.
Consider how the same words spoken in a different tone of voice or with different body language can mean vastly different things. We as humans must struggle to decipher each other’s intentions. Sometimes this gets better the longer we know each other but sometimes positive interpretations are difficult for a person to accept or consider due to their personal outlook, past history dealing with others, and/or self confidence.
A dog who’s been beaten too much assumes a hand will hit them vs pet them
it's like anything else they will say one thing but need another. To answer your question you should add some sarcasm where if you get complimented reply with "are you trying to seduce me? wink wink". in 0-5 seconds you will see them blush like a tomato 😁
Women are vixens.. they use sex and seduction at their disposal. Men say what you want to hear because they’re horny. It’s that simple. Tis why you should wait to have sex ONLY if it bothers you
u Many women tend to speak in code or believe thats how males interact
i don't sleep.
i hate sleep. Sleep is a waste of time.
I literally DON'T sleep.
The most important primitive goal is to reproduce, we need a partner for this.
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