Do guy's fear about being murdered by women they barely know when they go on dates?

[Anonymous]

I invited this guy to go hiking with me. It was our second date and I made a picnic for us to eat at the top. It wasn't a hard trail.

After the picnic and we were walking down and he told me that he was afraid I was trying to murder him when I invited him to go hiking/do a picnic.

I was surprised to hear that. I didn't think guy's feared things like that. I mean women yeah and it's understandable why that's always on women's minds.

I weigh like 50 lbs less than this guy he could easily overpower me if he wanted. If I tried to attack him or whatever. But yeah that was just surprising. Is this a concern in your mind?

[DarkWinterNights]

That’s actually a sweet and thoughtful idea. That’s something I would really enjoy. But maybe it’s more of a 3rd or 4th date. I can understand where he’s coming from though.
Something I think a lot of women don’t understand is men are always on alert for danger. And I would be lying if I never had that thought when I was out in the woods camping/hiking/etc. with people I didn’t know very well.

[Wiredone]

That thought never crossed my mind on any date I was ever on. I was always worried that the woman felt uncomfortable being alone with me. I always tried to make her feel comfortable

[Wiredone]

Thanks for the mho

[spartan55]

You sure he wasn't joking?

[Asker]

I think it was a concern but probably tried to turn it into a joke after.

[spartan55]

Realistically you could overtake him by knocking him over the head, or set up ambush etc.
That is just odd to joke about. I'd look for a pattern of tasteless/not funny crap like that before you get worried,

[Asker]

It makes me sad that men have to worry about ambushes. If I feel unsafe walking to my car, I'll ask a male worker to walk me. I don't want him thinking I'm trying to pull a fast one on him. If you saw me, you'd probably think I couldn't even hurt a fly. Though I don't kill bugs lol I feel bad for killing them so that explains my personality. I'm definitely not someone who would set up an ambush or hit him over the head with a rock or something lol. But that's true I should keep an eye out for weird jokes like that. Could be a red flag. Thank you for the heads up. :)

[spartan55]

You're welcome! I strongly believe that everyone is responsible for their own safety and security. I have my own procedures and protocols that vary depending on the situation. Going on a first date hiking with a petite woman wouldn't put me on high alert, but that doesn't mean I'm oblivious either. Check this short article, I use these principles and are useful for anyone. Stay safe!

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[Anonymous]

It's never crossed my mind.

[Joker_]

yeah