Tldr bestfriend is too sensitive now and we're losing our friendship
I had a gay bestfriend. We were always together for sometime and i didn't expect that he suddenly took against me that I had no time for him. When i tried to confront him, he told me we don't have a problem but i noticed him distancing himself from me. Our mutual friends told me he told them i had no time, and i was always talking with my long distance SO. He said my long distance SO was needy and he is also sensitive of my moods.
He no longer goes out with me alone. He only goes when our mutual friend goes out. I gave him time like 3 to 4 months so that he won't be weird. I admit there were instances i said no to invites but that is normal for friends but he's making a big deal out of it.
Recently, i greeted him a merry Christmas. I thought we were okay cause he is still responding. Only to know that he made a big deal that there was a time I didn't talk and was too silent one time. At that time, I had a hard time with my family and love life. He messaged my friend and asked if i was already "normal". I mean why is he too sensitive? He's making a big deal out of small things. I tried telling him i'm normal now and he should go back to normal. He didn't reply. Can you help me make sense of this?
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I think he just wants you to stop spending so much time on your phone/computer because it's a long distance relationship
That's why I don't do LDR's. They take up all your time on the phone, and you wind up having a relationship with it, rather than the actual person
Well he could have told me. Instead he acted as if everything is fine and backbited me to our common friends
It's just my guess, but, only he knows how he feels. I'm just telling you how I might feel if I was your friend
Have you discussed this with him?
Yes he pretends everything is fine when not. Declines invites etc. He also told our common friend he is not going because he is not sure of my mood. Seriously. Why is he making it about him?