I’ll call myself Kat (my real name). My best friend Nina (not her real name); are part of an Autistic community of people with Asperger’s Syndrome. In the Asperger’s community, Nina and I are looking to make new friends. We joined a meetup online social group. We keep finding that every time we try to befriend the men, they end up coming onto us repeatedly, when we’ve made it clear that we only want friendship. One who I’ll call Ryan (fake name); continuously sent Nina lots of hugely long, nonsensical texts and she had to ghost him completely after telling him several times that she wasn’t interested. Another, who I’ll call Ian (fake name); decided he was in love with me and wanted to marry me and get me pregnant; and stalked me for about a year after I repeatedly said I wasn’t interested. The others are almost as bad. It gets annoying and we’re not even more than mildly attractive. We just want to make some normal friends who aren’t going to do this. It’s driving us nuts.
Are we better off meeting other women?
