Why is it hard for some to have a discussion?

[Anonymous]

This morning, having been asked "Do you want your food heated?" I replied "No." As he was heating his pizza in the air fryer. He came back in the room with his food and drink. I noticed he didn't even prepare mine. I got up to get my food on my own. He argued he was in the right, that if I wanted my food and want it cold I could have followed up my answer as "No, I want my food cold." I replied "All you did ask was if I wanted it heated and I answered your question as no. I did not say I wasn't hungry. Just that I did not want it heated. I told you last night I planned to save some leftover pizza for breakfast." He continued going on that I was in the wrong and I should have specified that I wanted it cold. He threatened to kick me out of his bed, that he is going back on his promise to help me this week and said I was manipulating the situation as well as saying that he isn't a butler and shouldn't be serving me. That he is a boyfriend not a server. He was trying very hard to have me admit that I was wrong. I was simply trying to have him comprehend what I understood by his question he was asking was shorthanded. He feels justified. I feel angry. Over some

[boggboss]

To be fair if that was me I would have assumed u didn't want food also from u just replying no as I would have said could I have mine cold or u don't mind if u get mine just seems like basic miscommunication that it blew up into somthing much more sounds like this type of stuff happens a lot between u two

[Asker]

I would agree it's basic miscommunication

[Ghostykill3r]

I wouldn't fault him for not getting that you still wanted food, just not heated up. He probably should have understood that, but it's not that important. The problem here is how far the issue escalated after, it sounds like along with a small miscommunication issue, the two of you also can't have respectful and calm discussions/arguments.