I have caught feels for a man that’s went through a lot where it has changed him in his Approach with women. He used to be very forward and leads sexually fast in his connections. He has always been outgoing but now 2 year After his divorce and still legally married until custody is decided. He has has waves of moods where he can be depress & jaded. That there are times that a quite timidness arm wrestles with his original personality.
I have been friends with him since 11 through his sister. He started being physically affectionate with me… Playing with my hair back rub snuggles, we laughe smile play tag & arm wrestle. We have never done this before but once I start Reciprocating back he withdraws from Initiating touch or looks at me seriously where I feel he is close off and I back off. Then the sun comes out again im sure he likes me then he is quite aloof and unresponsive.
I want to ask for your story, The phases you went through and how I could be the most supportive and patient in the process. Tips advise what ever you feel you like to share that might help. Overall I want to better understand.
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I went through a phase of being in shock.
The dream woman I thought I knew for 15 years turned out to be my worst nightmare.
There's a feeling of "Wow, I was dumb to build my life around her and put complete trust in her." Then of course you get angry and scared to give yourself completely ever again. I looked at relationships and women as bullshit, and if I fall in love again I better keep one foot out the door and an exit strategy so I can't get completely fucked over ever again.
Thank you for sharing this with me & sorry to hear what has happen to your heart ❤️ I can relate to pouring your all & building something boutique for the person you love in turn throwing it all away for what selfishness, desire whatever it may be. The shame of how could I not see or this person is terrible what did I see in them. It’s not filing to be a responsible loving partner.
It’s going to take a lot of work for us to rebuild that trust. peace to you man
I know after my 1st wofe cheated on me, while I was in the military, I didn't trust women the same. Even to this day, with my 2nd wife, I still have doubts and trust issues. To me those vows that I took meant the world to me. I'm for honor, respect and love. I would do almost anything for the woman I love and do anything to protect her and my family.
So after the 1st marriage I became a complete dog to women, and some women where open to it. It like they thought they could change me. I had barely any respect for woman for a few years, and didn't trust any of them, even slept with other married women. It was my anger that I have from being betrayed. I didn't like the person I was becoming and stop.
But also having being cheated on made me a little jealous because of my trust issues.
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