I don't usually pull in my school and when I did, it happened to be a senior. This whole time he thought I was a 10th grader when I am a freshman. We called, talked, every time he'd see me in school, he'd be shy and smile turning away. He would attempt to come over to my table but showed signs of anxiety. He stated many times that he wanted me, liked me, and wanted to even marry me. We opened about depression and things in the past that happened. He comforted me. We never were official but he expressed his crush towards me and I don't mind the age gap. He finds out I'm a freshman due to a friend accidently ratting me out. I never lied, he just never asked. I tried smiling at him in the hallway today and he looked pissed. :( I always came to believe he was just shy since he wouldn't text me or even come up to me. I got attached and now he's pissed. :(
Unfortunately, you are just going to have to accept that he does not want to date someone that much younger than him. Put yourself in his shoes. He will be graduating and moving on while you still have a lot of time left (presumably). I am not from the US so not entirely familiar with your school system levels. @Agape93
Now, I know this isn't what you want to hear or do, but everyone has the right to be with someone they think is a good fit for them. He obviously sees the age difference as not a good fit and something that he doesn't want to pursue.
There is nothing you can really do in this case if he has made up his mind. I get you have a crush on him and those are hard to get over. I can assure you that there are other boys out there.
If it were me, I would focus on school, friends and family. There is always time for boys later. Trust me on this. Sorry I cannot help more, but I don't think there is a solution to this.
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I hope you can try to keep in contact still and show him you're not immature or "too young". Even if it takes time 😊
My boyfriend of 2 years is 3 years older and it's not a big deal at all once you're together and everyone gets past first reaction, if there is one.
You said "how". The answer is two fold: first, time, and, second, while you give it time, continue to be the same you that he was attracted to in the first place. Don't block him, don't be clingy, don't be love bombing, etc. Just be the you that he likes. And, if he talks to you about it, don't make any excuses. Just say, "I'm sorry I didn't tell you".
It's possible he won't get past this and if he doesn't, that's a sign of his lack of maturity and that helps you realize that, in that case, he might not have been the best choice.
You should have told him yourself, because it was going to come out anyway. If it would have come from you he may have felt different, maybe not. The ol 'he never asked' defense won't work here (it really never does). Anyway, good luck.
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That’s going to be hard because for some guys that’s a hard snd fast rule. Some will not budge. I sm thst way with ages too. 🤷🏻♂️
Lol this is a whole fail. He shoulda asked your age since the beginning. I feel bad but like cmon y’all should know what grades y’all are in.
How old is he and are you actually 16?
Keep being friendly, talk to him, it can work
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