what happened is that after we went on the original double date we were texting every day. And he told me to like not make plans for Saturday night because he wanted to go out with me. So Saturday comes and we are texting and I say “just let me know when and what time” and he’s like “I will just trying to figure out plans”. So around 6pm he says “hey so you and abby or whatever girlfriends can come over around 9 for pregame and then we can go out” So abby and I bring our friends and we get there and it’s just my date and Abby’s date and I was thinking like wtf… why is it just them two… so then the guys were texting their friends to come and I don't know if it got lost in translation or something but it was awkward. So the guy and I go off together and we go to the bar we were all going to- and get in. My other girlfriends left because they realize it’s a date and let abby and i be alone. For some reason my friend sam decided to stay and was like 5th wheeling… so The guy And I are hanging out and seems to be going well. Then as time goes on He says “are you going to come home with me” and in a nice way I was like “no I’m not coming back with you” and then Abby’s guys boss is there so My guy starts talking to that guy, and I feel a vast shift in his attitude towards me and feel like he’s being different. It’s late and at this point I’m like fuxk this and I decide to leave. I tell him I’m leaving and say goodbye. Abby goes home with her guy, and her guy asks me outside the club “aren’t you going to stay here with Bob (my guy)” and I was like “no I’m going to go home I’m tired” so Sam and I leave together. The next day I get no texts from him at all- and I think that’s pretty rude. I don’t know what happened - he knows I was recently in a relationship and maybe after he realized I wasn’t going home with him he decided I wasn’t worth the time… But I’m really disappointed because I kind of liked him. And I don’t want to text him first.
Will he reach out to me it’s been 3 days since last seeing him?
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Clearly, it’s been 3 days since he tested for a reason. You are a decent person with standards who are not going home with him…when he brought that up at the bar.
You like this guy a lot and Valentines don’t help it none. It is also clear that this guy is playing around with you. I imagine he has more than one woman going too. He is far from the committed type and in your heart…your intuition is talking to you.
This may be a blessing in disguise. Even so, I hope it all works out as you wish for. You are a lady straight-up and I’m sure you’ll find the right one.
Don’t you find it interesting that he switched gears after you said you weren’t going home with him? Because to me, that stuck out the most and erases any confusion you could have about his intentions. So yeah maybe the switch up was rude but you should honestly feel more relieved than anything to have dodged getting used for sex and then ghosted.
Sounds like he just wanted to go home with you. If I were you I’d try to move on and not dwell on it. Not much you can do unless you wanna just throw yourself at him which I wouldn’t recommend.