Why do so many men seem so impolite?

[Anonymous]

So I am in the process of getting Divorced (long story - threats, likely narcissist, etc, will spare you the details!)

And I honestly see myself as a young, capable, pretty, friendly person (from what I've been told). My dad is a little famous and my family and I are not poor.. almost upper class in this country. So I mostly Believe in myself.

But.. rarely does any guy talk to me. Most the guys I know/have met are from my Christian church. Perhaps at church we talk, but most of them are very quiet / ignorant on Whatsapp. I actually find it very rude. I am a social person, likely an extrovert, so I am naturally Outgoing.. and it hurts deeply when my friendliness is shut down.

Another element might be my relationship with my family - especially my dad and brother. I see my dad as distant and bit rude (often feel as if I don't really have a dad, he's always working). And my brother is the favourite, so that puts a spanner in the works. I also feel he is quite arrogent.

So right now I am trying not to Hate men.. I don't want to have a bad Attitude towards half the population. But so far I have only been heavily disappointed by all of them.

I can live with being single forever, maybe adopting one day.. but this contempt for the opposite sex is growing day by day. Please help!

[Anonymous]

Red flags! Lots of them about you just in the question you asked. Guys see you coming a mile away. By the time we're to our 30's and 40's we're not doe eyed anymore. Sorry you're probably going to have to become a good person. Or at least stop portraying so many toxic traits that are VERY apparent to men your age now. Sorry if TRUTH appears impolite to you.

If it makes you feel any better men deal with the same problem so to speak. After 25 the best women are married off. At this point we're just working with the scraps that are left.

[PraviteliNahuiValite]

It is sort of learned behavior. I don't say that gender is just a social construct but being a healthy man doesn't automatically make one rude.

You also never know what pain they're themselves going through, maybe they're suffering from low T levels, in which case they'll benefit from a session of listening to this with their headphones on:

https://www.youtube.com/embed/dG5cZzbKvW0

[LiamJHayden]

Because so many men are. Quite natural with about four billion of us on the planet. I have learned to not judge all women based upon some bad experiences I have had. Maybe try that with men. Just a thought.

[Asker]

Alright, I will try, thank you. Good thought... Perhaps 'putting oneself out there' can be a bit scary. 🌷

[LiamJHayden]

It can be. Be wise, but do not project past disappointment onto new people.

[MementoMori777]

I want to start by saying that for supposedly Christian men, they behave like pigs, don't let a few bad apples ruin your perspective on the whole apple farm.

[Keishio]

You sound like a nightmare... every guy who hasn't responded or treated you in the way you felt you deserved has made you believe they're rude and arrogant... but your ex husband is the narcissist...

[Anonymous]

So I am in the process of getting Divorced (long story - threats, likely narcissist, etc, will spare you the details!)

5 paragraphs of details...

[ColHathi]

Sorry, I don't know, but I'm sorry to hear that you're losing faith in us :(

[Asker]

Thank you so much for your empathy* it means a lot.. Maybe someday soon I will trust again 👍🏻

[Anonymous]

Not all of us are bad, I went through divorce also years ago, she was cheating on me but I don’t think most women are like that so I continue to find a good one again

[Asker]

Sorry to hear that.. well done for keeping positive and not letting her get you down! Pray you'll find a good woman soon..

[Opinion Owner]

I’m hoping to but I’m not getting any younger