What does it mean if a guy wants to do something serious like build finances together?

[sd1223]

He says he doesn’t like me that way or want to be with me but he wants us to build up our finances. He’s been on me about doing side hustles to make extra money and everything lol. He used the term “we’re”. I’m just wondering why he would want to do something that people in serious relationships do when he says he doesn’t see a future for us. What are y’all’s thoughts on this?

[ManOnFire]

That's pretty odd, yeah. I don't understand him either. If he says he doesn't see a future with you then treat him the same. Be friends with him or ditch him. He doesn't want to be in a relationship with you so he has no business trying to tell you how to build your money, and then trying to be all cutesy by saying "we're."

Nah, don't sit there and take that from him. If I were you I would tell him how it's rude and disrespectful for him to even be telling you how to manage your finances when he is not even in a relationship with you.

[TalynMere]

He sounds like one of those hustle culture weirdos who put money above everything else including relationships.

If you want something serious with him though, don't go for this. You'll just grow to resent him for not giving more.

[sd1223]

But why would you want to involve with someone doing something so serious if you don’t want to be with said girl? Unless he’s lying about how he feels possibly?

[TalynMere]

Well, for people like that "building finances" could be less of a serious thing, I dunno for sure.

It's hard to say for sure without knowing the person. It could be anything from not wanting to be too distant from you so you're an option, to him wanting to use your money to invest in his ideas (red flag).

You sound like you like him and are eager for an answer that confirms that he's looking to be with you.

Without a ton of extra context, noone can give good advice. I do know though that clinging to someone who doesn't reciprocate what you want always ends badly.

[sd1223]

Hmmm building finances I don’t know how that could be taken as not a serious thing but to each their own I suppose

You’re right I am looking for confirmation that he feels the same because something just tells me he’s not being totally honest with his feelings but then again it could my wishful thinking coming into play too