I feel like my boyfriend is a huge baby. How to deal with this?

[lemonette]

Girls, does any of you feel that your boyfriend acts like a baby? In most of our discussions he gets offended and pissing me of like a child...

[provokeesmokee]

Most men are like that, yeah.

It's a big reason I don't date cishet men anymore.

Learned helplessness, entitlement, inability to take personal responsibility, fear of "doing what needs to be done" - all of these are common in most men (and a fair number of women, tbf).

It won't get better until he decides he wants to be an adult.

Which it sounds like he doesn't want, because he whines like a child.

My suggestion, give him the ultimatum that he learn to have engaged discussion and learn to do something other than whine, or he loses you.

You don't deserve to be saddled with a whiny manchild who can't even handle basic discussions.

[WanderingLoveWizard]

Most boys are like that. Not men

[provokeesmokee]

Damn, age of majority for boys seems to be 45, then.

[KrakenAttackin]

@provokeesmokee. "CisHet men",😂😂😂😂😂😂, you mean SOY BOYS! You have to be an obese goth.

[WanderingLoveWizard]

^^^ there you go, soyboys. Can apply to men of any age

[Friendlybro79]

@WanderingLoveWizard what's a soy boy? Lol

[WanderingLoveWizard]

@Friendlybro79 A weak and usually feminine man with no balls and no spine. Known to typically be vegan, against masculine activities, soft in voice and stature and have a diet consisting of a lot of soy
😂

(That's the best definition I could think of without Googling it lol)

[Friendlybro79]

@WanderingLoveWizard I could have googled it too but it felt like it would be more interesting to ask ha.

[WanderingLoveWizard]

@Friendlybro79 It's all good. It was interesting trying to define it lol

[provokeesmokee]

Lmao, y'all talk out your ass for cishets who don't know what gender identity they hold.

Maybe it ought to be 55 and below are considered "boys". Evidence clearly on display, here. Including inability to Google.

Maybe boys only become men at retirement age. When it's socially acceptable for them to regress mentally.

[Friendlybro79]

@provokeesmokee I'm laughing at what a ridiculous name soy boy is not agreeing with him on its definition, but I suppose being an adult means to just generalize most men. I'm not sure why you feel this way but I'm sorry that you do.

[provokeesmokee]

Lol, it's because of men like you. Maybe instead of being sorry, you can help your fellow men learn to grow up.

[WanderingLoveWizard]

@Friendlybro79 How can you disagree with my definition if you've never heard it before? Lol
You know what, nevermind I don't care. This conversation is silly

[WanderingLoveWizard]

@provokeesmokee and you're even more silly

[provokeesmokee]

I mean, I'm not the one proving my point that most men are children. But do go on, please.

[Friendlybro79]

@WanderingLoveWizard I meant I don't agree or disagree. It's a silly term to call someone and by your definition it is ridiculous and divisive although I don't care to argue with you about it. I agree this is silly and @provokeesmokee knows everything so no point in conversing further about this.

[provokeesmokee]

Now you're getting it, sweetie. I'm proud of you. 👏🏽

[Friendlybro79]

Have a wonderful life filled with happiness.

[KingOfMe1]

Has nothing to do with maturity levels. You're 33, unless you're dating over 10 years younger. The issue is habitual behavior traits. But typically we get back what we put out... So it's almost always a 2 way street.

[ohsheeT]

So you need to ask his mom if that's what he used to do when he used to get in trouble since you know what he does be a little bit smarter about it and say hey hey wait a minute don't pull your acting like a baby routine that's so stupid you're an adult if you're going to act that way go to your room lol

Or say if you're going to act like that there's no need for me to even talk to you I'm trying to talk to you as an adult you want to lower everything down to a 5-year-old and that makes no sense to me we're both mature people that's both acts like it when you're having a discussion are you trying to fix something that's what you're trying to do you're not trying to say that somebody's right or wrong and somebody have a temper tantrum

[Adam1978]

Sounds like two babies to me. An adult can handle a baby. So you able to handle him makes me wonder how he became your boyfriend in the first place.

[Anonymous]

no, i am not with a baby i am with a man lol. if anything *I* act like the baby. maybe just talk to him about it. he probably doesn't know it's bothering you or he may even be unaware of his behavior. guys can be dumb.

overall, you guys probably aren't compatible if he's acting like that when you have discussions.

[Singing_Hollow]

I think men struggle with emotional sides to them. They either under or overdo it. My boyfriend reads into conversations wrong, he feels like im always attacking him when im just talking about anything. Its strange but then he under does it where he has no emotions and thats annoying too lol

[KingOfMe1]

That's his self image not him struggling with his emotional side. Our conditioning controls our perception. However, perception is an intellectual factory and so it can be controlled purely consciously and not subconsciously. In most cases, humans don't do this. His conditioning leads him to perceive things the way he does. He probably was criticized a lot as a toddler or young child. Perhaps he has a poor self image. It could also be you. Text is not natural and so it leave things to our conditioning even more.

[Singing_Hollow]

@KingOfMe1 Yeah I understand what you are saying. I dont like to have deep conversations over text because I dont want him or myself to miss understand what the other is saying. He has admitted to me that he isn't emotionally driven which is a good thing as women tend to be more emotionally driven than men.

[Billlewis]

Tell him that if he continues to act like a child, he's going to be spanked like one, and if his behavior doesn't improve, spank him. Hard.

[Billlewis]

Thank you for liking my comment, sir.

[e232bm]

Most men are huge babies. But you have to decide if his behavior is something you are willing to put up with or not.

[KingOfMe1]

There is no place for sexism in our world. Please stop spreading it.

[Reem12345reem]

sounds like my little brother , he gets offended by literally anything I say , I hope he grows out of it bc it's annoying

[spartan55]

Could you elaborate with what he is actually doing to you? 'Pissing you off' is pretty vague.

[LazerBean]

No, I don't feel that way. If I did, I would have dumped him immediately.

[BarryLiverstone]

With logic and notes. When you are holding him accountable to something he agreed to previously be calm and either show him evidence or remind him it was already settled.

[slatyb]

You deal with it by ending the relationship and dating an adult.

[KrakenAttackin]

@slatyb. No real man will have her.

[itsalyssaagain]

Yeah that’s the worst. Especially if he’s fully grown lol.

[bowenw]

If you can't carry on a normal conversation in a relationship, I don't see a future.

[Moirine]

What is a normal conversation? What do people talking about when holding the normal conversation?

[bowenw]

@Moirine
It depends on the situation. A married couple may discuss day-to-day things like who will pick up the kids from school, or what they want for dinner, or what they thought of a story on the news, or what are the plans for the weekend.

[Moirine]

Fair enough though I do not think anyone can not not hold those kind of conversations unless we talking pressing issues, popular example, POLITICS.

[bowenw]

@Moirine I would like to thing so too.

[Dingsbums]

Why u even got together to begin with? And what stuff does he do?

[Andres77]

This whole generation is nothing more than a bunch of spoiled brats, with a few exceptions.

[Anonymous]

When I grow up I'm going to stop flipping people off in my profile picture.

[Twalli]

So you think he's a huge baby because he annoys you?

[Alex8736]

He must have gone to a woke college teaching boys to have tantrums to get what they want

[KrakenAttackin]

Seeing as how you are so masculine, what do you expect?

[Sabretooth]

That can be any generation... I feel like this with my own father who is in his 70s...

[Kiss_Me]

It's called a lack of maturity.

[Dingsbums]

It’s toxic femininity

[FunkyMonkee]

Get him some diapers and a bottle!

[Daniela1982]

Get him some Huggies.

[Mangospacho]

Careful, though, he might be into that kind of thing.

[Daniela1982]

@Mangospacho 😕🤔😅😂🤣

[strateguy632]

separate find someone you respect

[In_Trance]

You put up with it or you move on. Simple

[RHK36]

Don't date a boy, date a man.

[NYCQuestions1976]

I'm so glad I'm not in my 20s any more.

[brandon1122]

You can't do anything about it. He's childish

[eagle1951]

find another boyfriend

[DermalPunch]

Welcome.