Have you ever manipulated a man into doing what you wanted by being submissive towards him, boosting his ego & using your sexuality?

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In other words he thinks he's in charge, he's making the decisions, he's the head of the household etc etc meanwhile you've either put the idea in his head or asked him very sweetly, praised his efforts or shown your gratitude in various ways or just rewarded him with some good loving when he gets home. I suspect its always been this way since cave man times "honey I'm going to do some gathering and clean the cave if it's not too much trouble can you hunt a woolymamooth for meat and maybe later I will show you how much I appreciate you".

I recommend a combination of being submissive, good cooking and sex lots of sex. Guys are generally very easy to get them to do what you want, most guys if you argue with or nag either will get stubborn and dig in their heels are just not bother out of tiredness.

Have you ever manipulated a man into doing what you wanted by being submissive towards him, boosting his ego & using your sexuality?

Lliam · Accepted Answer

This is a great question. It made me laugh because I've seen really funny examples in old comedy films and have been aware of the dynamic for many, many years.

It's exactly as you describe. He thinks he's in charge. He's making the decisions. He's the head of the household etc etc. Meanwhile you've put the idea in his head, all while acting sweet and submissive and praising him for being so smart, as if he was the one who thought of it in the first place. He puffs up when praised for his brilliant decision. And his good behavior gets rewarded with other forms of tender "gratitude".

The idea is exemplified in one of my favorite movies, Life With Father (1947). But I've seen other examples, too.

It is a classic way for women to get what they want without causing acrimony. The woman gets what she wants and the clueless guy is as happy as a clam. I admire women who are clever enough to play the man/woman game. It's a win-win.

Think of men like dogs. A dog responds to reward and praise. What they want least of all is disapproval. Shouting or punishing them is counterproductive.

They want to be busy and useful, so you can reward natural behavior that is desirable, and show displeasure with natural behavior that is undesirable. Eventually, they display only the desirable behaviors. And, all the while, they still get to be happy dogs.

The difference with men is, you have to be subtle. If they suspect that they are being manipulated, you lose trust and the game is over. Maintaining his all important ego is essential.

It's important to note that this is mainly necessary with "head of household" type guys who believe in "traditional roles".
Other guys believe in equal partnerships in which neither is the other's boss.

But it's still a fact that a man's masculine ego is essential to his mental wellbeing. A man who doesn't feel like a man is going to have emotional problems. So, even in an equal partnership, the woman plays an important role in making him feel like a man. She does so by acting feminine, admiring his masculine traits and abilities, and enjoying doing "feminine things".

blueonblack22 · Accepted Answer

Women have done this for all human history. There was a time it was necessary for self-perseveration and to provide for the baby.

Now we live in a so called “equal” society but women still subconsciously (and others like you consciously) are acting disingenuous for self serving purposes. A man is only good for a woman if he can provide some sort of value for her (she finds him attractive, they need ego boosting attention, he has money, social status, she’s nice to him just for optics but doesn’t really care how he personally feels, etc).

You could argue that men are the same way but overall we are definitely not. We were taught (and continually chastised) that women are special just for existing whether they provide value or not. Women really have this expectation of men.
If you don’t believe me then why do women have “body positivity” movements. These attention starved big girls have an expectation from men to get attention from men despite men not finding them attractive. It ties in with being special “for existing”.

What women fail to realize is this double standard is plain as day to men especially when modern women complain about “inequality”. Women just don’t want to give their right to be “special just for existing”.

Men do not and can not have this expectation in life.

TrueConfection · Accepted Answer

My husband is in charge and he does lots of stuff for me and I like him to know he's loved and appreciated. So in a way, yes.

When we were dating, his stove was broken. I told him that of he fixed it, I'd make him dinner on it. He fixed it that day. Cask it what you will. 🤷

Molly1997 · Accepted Answer

Ohhhh yeah. Especially if we had a fight… drop all my clothes to the floor , or offer a bj. Works every time

ohsheeT · Answer

I think this question is so good and it is so funny at the same time just because of the way that you worded it

First of all most guys like to please there girlfriend. Wife friend. And 11 out of 10 times he knows what's going on maybe 2 out of 10 guys that don't know there girlfriend wife as good as they should might do the ego thing.
But most can see and feel whats going on and feed into it with light sarcasm or just off the wall Chit Chat because now he doesn't have to work as hard as he would usually have to if he wants something when they go to bed she's already pre-planned it so he's going to be happy to do just about anything anyway because now it's all her idea and it can become pretty funny because you both know what's going on but you have to play and act dumb. Because that's the last thing you what to do is let the other one know that you your manipulating her manipulation because when that happens it's hard to keep them straight face but to be honest with you most guys want to please their girlfriend their wife and they're going to do it no matter what anyway it just gets funny when there's manipulation involved because then there has to be another manipulation on top of that one just to do it just to have fun with it

Peter_Penetrator · Answer

I reached a point in an 18 year marriage where I no longer allowed my ex wife to use sex as reward or punishment. I eventually cut her off. Of course I robbed myself of sex by doing so, but at the same time, I took that power she once had over me, away from her.

This strategy worked very well. I never did suffer from blueballs because like most masturbators, we can take care of ourselves.

Besides, when you have been married long enough, sex gets less and less important over the years.

It was very empowering to no longer feel like I had to do every, single, honey do she had planned for me.

mobiusforniner · Answer

This does NOT work on me. In fact, it pisses me off because i lose my respect for her. Her only way of negotioating conflict is through my dick?

No. I want my partner to be someone who is equal. Someone i admire and value. If I want a whore ill pay for one.

TDDMS · Answer

Lets call a spade a spade, you girls in the comment section who are boasting that you use sex to get what you want. . . listen you're just a cheap whore at that point. When whores like yourselves use sex to get what you want, you might as well put a price tag on your pussy at that point. Sex within a relationship is suppose to be given freely.

sureitis · Answer

irishgirl02 "I recommend a combination of being submissive, good cooking and sex lots of sex. Guys are generally very easy to get them to do what you want, most guys if you argue with or nag either will get stubborn and dig in their heels are just not bother out of tiredness." if you are only 20 i think you might be ahead of the rest got more figured out than any 30 y. o i know. now dont tell me you're a redhead and bake cookies cause id be trying to put a ring on it if you did!

Lynx122 · Answer

I don't think that's really manipulating if you treat a guy well and ask for what you want openly. I think being manipulative is when you don't ask for what you want but still try and make someone else do it by trying to influence their behavior without them noticing it and that's something that pisses me off.

WanderingLoveWizard · Answer

The only way that would be the case is if the woman got things her way when she wanted it. As if she's allowing to have things his way sometimes.
But with me, if I don't like it or it's not gonna work, it's not happening. She can plead and beg all she wants.

Finchie40 · Answer

Don’t most girls do this to get her way? She can use it on me all she wants as long as she is faithful and loyal to me and not spreading her legs for someone else , If a girl keeps me sexually satisfied in the relationship and is loving and honest with me , I have no problem doing things for her that make her happy period , If she with holds intimacy and affection from me to get her way i will be heading the other way period

KarinMcDonald · Answer

my way of manipulating is by being dominant, and making hubby submissive to me. When he does what I want, I give him a reward.

Sexiestjohnson · Answer

I think several ladies have done this to me. Using my acheles heel against me which is genuine kindness. They all got me except God Himself told me not to touch the girl. All the girls he never said don't touch, as soon as they come my way, they always break my defence.

MementoMori777 · Answer

perhaps if the guy is easy and think with their dick

Anonymous · Answer

My friends younger sister did this to me, She wanted a baby.

Tested the waters with me, and a few other guys her age and other guys in her brothers friend group, and she was all sweet flirty, nice, And she got me to agree to sleep with her. As soon as she got pregnant she stopped having sex with me. And stopped calling me.

she weaseled a baby out of me then disappeared.

soniaaaaaaa · Answer

No I never did that , because I see them as human beings that deserves respect it’s not fair to consider them as fools

Keishio · Answer

Well I mean if you're asking him to do something he was going to do at some point anyway I wouldn't call it manipulative. Guys like fixing, mending, building and taking care of the general maintenance of a home or items. It makes us feel good to know we're making people's lives easier with our efforts and if that comes with praise then it's just a bonus

humanearth · Answer

My wife tried that in the beginning of our relationship. But I already knew the game

My wife would try just like your sample you gave. I gave her a gun and extra bullets and told her happy hunting.

I told her if you want me to help. I told her "You don't have to con me to help, just ask

Anonymous · Answer

Women who don't do that are wasting their natural assets, and have no business complaining. Women who take sexual and mental charge from the start never complain about how shitty men treat them, because they don't allow it. You have what men want, and if you don't take advantage of that, it's your own fault. It's only the macho guys on here who think they can't be controlled by a beautiful woman using sex and ego stroking, as you'll see when they get triggered. haha ur all putty in a smart woman's hands

RavVid · Answer

I agree it has always been that way. If you don't think we don't know we are being ah... motivated... we do.

But it is not a bad way. You treat us nice and we treat you nice. Everybody should be happy.

Apple1996 · Answer

Um no usually cause the only thing I want from a man is sex. Like how am I gonna convince him to have sex with me by giving him sex? Just doesn't work that way lol

chloeaimeejensen · Answer

I’ve lost count how many times I’ve done this lol

Rei13 · Answer

Haha yeah I am pretty of guilty of doing that with my boyfriend. But he knows that I’m actually the one in charge so I’m not that good at it lmao.

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