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Is hitting ever okay?

My boyfriend got annoyed at me, and instead of walking out of the room, pushed me out and hit me at the same time on my butt and arms.
I felt violated because it came from a place of anger. We have playfully hit each other before but when we both were joking around. This felt different, like he was taking out his anger.
When I asked him about it, he said he did it because I wasn’t listening to him 😏… yeah okay so violence is clearly the answer buddy!
He apologised for going ‘too hard’ on me but he wouldn't come out and say the words ‘sorry for hitting you’. He also downplayed it, saying it wasn’t that hard. I said, call it what you like, a hit is a hit. Wasn’t on my face but still, it very much felt like a man was trying to put me in my place.

How do I get him to realise what he did wasn’t okay?

At the time I thought he was joking, so I went back into the room (albeit feeling violated from the hitting) and continued talking to him about the thing that triggered him to push me out of the room (I was simply asking him to fold the tea towel next time he cleans the kitchen rather than leaving it scrunched up and he got annoyed, thinking I was nitpicky). He then chased me out of the room and threw water at me.
Is hitting ever okay?
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