I always feel like the guy I’ve been talking to for 8 months is doing things behind my back but I don’t know if it’s because I have trust issues?

[Anonymous]

We were exclusive for a while and then we ended and I left for vacation he would reach out while I was away asking me random questions then would just stop talking to me about 2 weeks ago he reached out again and faced times me and now we’ve been texting for a while and he tells me he wants to take me out when I get back. I just don’t want to go threw the same situation with him over and over again and I don’t want to continue speaking to him if he’s getting with other girls and talking to other girls. But I don’t know if Im just being paranoid because why would he constantly reach out to me and text me if he didn’t like me and I’m not even in the same county as him. So it’s not like he can get anything from it right now

[MzAsh]

The only way to ensure what you want here is to get really assertive. You’re going to have to spell it for him. For example: I don’t date men who are talking to , dating, or sleeping with other women. Period. If that’s what you want to do then knock yourself out but I won’t be a part of your life at all. I don’t share.

[Asker]

Your right I think I’m just paranoid I always feel like he’s texting other girls but if he was I don’t think he’d come back to me for like the 5th time while I’m away and he can’t even get anything for me right now

[MzAsh]

He may or may not be. A lot of guys are opportunistic like that. If they don’t have clear, concrete boundaries laid out, then they’ll use that excuse themselves to talk to other women. But if you don’t have any proof, you can’t let paranoid thoughts get the best of you. You have to operate from the mindset that you’re better than anyone else he might be entertaining and he’d be insane to dare trying disrespect you like that, and you have to make sure he knows that’s your mindset as well. Men have to know they cannot play you.

[turnpost]

Same with Women. a lot of women, will play the bait and switch and say ohh we were just casual our relationship wasn't that serious. Once a better suitor arrive they leave, as they dont have any financial loses monkey branching to better numbers.

[MzAsh]

You can always leave if someone better for you comes along, but if one is using the logic that the relationship was just casual and nothing serious but the other one believed it to be serious, that usually means there was a failure to properly define the relationship and it’s boundaries. I know a lot of millennial women were notorious for assuming they’re exclusive just because they were Witt each other all the time, having sex, she exchanging I love yous, meanwhile he wax out screwing other women through the week. I’d always ask these women, did you have the exclusivity talk? “Nooo.” Then he’s not your boyfriend sweetie.

[turnpost]

Yikes weird crowd. Its funny that hookup culture, they have sex first but holding hands and looking at eachother eyes is considered there third base.

[Paris13]

I believe in My own Heart, your own Gut is Telling you Something to Feel this way. You do Not Know Him well Enough to Know Him that Well, But I can Tell-----Red Flags Some place for You to End it. Follow your Heart. Be friends for Now. Or just Forget Him. You could Be right. xxoo

[Paris13]

Thanks, Ms. Pink. xxoo

[MikeTheBartender]

It sounds like he is not serious about you, so if you just want something casual it's fine, but if you want something serious don't bother with him

[jshm2]

You're just drama. He doesn't want to date crazy, but you keep coming back to him like a bad penny.

Move on and annoy someone else.

[Asker]

Ummm he’s the one that came back to me ur a bad penny

[RoseySarah]

No there is always a reason for that feeling and you know he won't just date you!

Listen to that feeling it is always right girl!

Don't make the mistake of thinking your special to him! He probably has 3 others who are thinking the same!

Make him earn your trustn

[Asker]

He’s not cute enough to have 3 others…. I think I’m just being paranoid we have been on and off for so long that I feel like if he really didn’t want me or was going to play me it would have been a while ago. And he wouldn’t want to take me out if he had others I live in a very small town😂 everyone knows everything

[RoseySarah]

Na he just likes your attention and maybe your right but if a cuter girl then you flirts with him then he will string you along!

Seriously if he won't date you then why bother? Your both single who cares! It's weird of you two won't date cause of gossip that is an excuse!

This is not a relationship right now it is two flirting for 8 months with no reason for him to not flirt behind your back! Course he will give a chance your not a thing offline.

[Asker]

He has commitment issues and ur right its weird we haven’t dated but there is a reason for it he goes to school far away during the year and long distant isn’t an option for the both of us so we have been going with the flow. I don’t know I don’t think he’s come back to me on my vacation if he was stringing me along and had other girls to speak to. Our relationship doesn’t really have a point but I like him and I know I shouldn’t and I think it’s the same for him

[RoseySarah]

Well that is nice but it will drain you!
Make things harder and you know that you can't trust or get together with him.

Keep it a fun thing don't stress 😜 it's hard not to but your just a girly name to him on his phone like he is to you!

Enjoy what it is

[Asker]

Ur right I will I just want him to be obsessed with me lol ( I think he on the low tho..)

[RoseySarah]

We all want those guys drooling obsess with us lol
Your feelings are not bad

[Inbox]

@Asker Yeah, you’re only around 18 - you have a long way to go. Repeat after me: “I only give time to those that respect my time.”

I’ve been in WAY too many situationships and with flaky people and it’s always ended badly. Most of the time, if someone wants to go out with out or date you, they’ll just do it.

You’re around 18 and most likely in demand by a lot of men who will treat you with respect. Again, if he treats you badly or at least that isn’t what you want within reason, walk away and move on.

[LovingJo]

Ask him outright and see what his reaction/response is, that should tell you more than anything.
There's obviously a reason why you're feeling this way, even if it's not clear to you yet... But hold off until you're sure.
Maybe he does like you, but he's keeping his options open.
If so, bin him off. He's not f'ing worth it, babe!! 💯😘

[smashleyy]

You said yous aren’t together exclusively anymore it’s not really your business even if he is exploring options. If you want loyalty turn things into something serious

[LiamJHayden]

"the guy I’ve been talking to for 8 months"

What does this mean? Just talking, long distance? If so... maybe I'm weird, but why do people even consider that a relationship?

[Asker]

Sorry not talking seeing each other guess I didn’t give enough context that’s why these apps r useless people for real don’t know what they are talking about

[Anemone978]

Who knows I guys are stupid.. he probably is going behind your back..

[Ryfyle]

Jesus Christ, cut that shit off and get some fucking meds. That dude is way better off, and you need some fucking help.

[Asker]

I’m ded

[Asker]

Shut ur mouth ur inconsiderate fuck u have no idea what ur talking about and ur probably fat af and get no vagina anyways loser

[RingOfFire]

Just because you are paranoid doesn't mean they're not out to get you. 😳

[DreamLife7]

He's not with you so why are you even posting this? What's the point?

[Asker]

Cuz I’m going back in like less then a week sooo

[DreamLife7]

It's over move on

[jwmiller95]

Ask if he wants to stop 'talking' and start being exclusive

[whistlingwh0res]

You just have to get used to men’s lies. They can’t help

[WhitneySnow]

I think your instincts are right

[anonguy2000]

Follow your gut is my opinion.

[Anonymous]

Why’s it u went on a vacation without him?