We’ve been talking for four months and have never gone on an actual date. In the beginning, he would message me every single day all day long, and made me the top priority in his life. I thought eventually we would go and do something and every time we’ve made plans, he has blown me off or has said something came up and we’ve never been able to go out.
The only time we’ve ever spent together is having sex, so I assume that’s what it is between us, a sexual relationship. Yet, he tells me he loves me.
We text, or call about every day, but sometimes he will go a few days without contacting me and of course, it drives me nuts!! So I’ll end up contacting him. One time he went two weeks ignoring my calls, and texts, and then finally contacts me like nothing out of the blue, and said he loves that he was on his my mind. Is he a narcissist? And if so, what do I do? Do narcissists typically stick around or always come back if they ignore you for periods of time? I’ve never dealt with someone like this before.
Honestly, what does it matter if he's a narcissist? (Which he may very will be, but still.) He's not treating you well regardless of how you label it. (Because, yes, let's take a moment to acknowledge that ignoring someone for days/weeks is not actually ok unless there's a serious emergency happening, and I'm talking like the guy was comatose and no one knew how to get into his phone to tell you he's ok.)
So, if you are so inclined, talk to him about how your expectations and desires seem to be differing, see if he comes to a compromise, and then leave if he refuses or fails to uphold whatever you guys agree on. Or just leave now and don't worry about trying to fix it. Up to you.
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Yes he's a narcissist. He's manipulating you. That's what narcissists do. They love bomb you at first and then pull back completely and then try to make you feel crazy. They love manipulating you, that's why he says "he loves he is always on your mind" he loves making you go crazy over him. Its control. He's working you like a puppet. That's what's fun to him and strokes his ego. Just wait until he starts gaslighting you. My advice from personal experience, run and don't look back. It only gets far worse from here. It can also get very dangerous.
I don't think you understand what a narcissist truly is, but how does applying a psychology buzzword help you NOW?
He is a narcissist, he isn't, why does it matter? It doesn't. Maybe do some personal reflection on the situation, and how are you arrived at this point. This certainly isn't all on him either.
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